My girlfriend has alot of guy friends and it has become a roadblock for me in our relationship. What should I?

Answer 1

First of all give her a chance - Don't go straight a head and dump her, because you may be wrong about the reasons.

You should try and talk to her in private, but be calm. Tell her how much you value your relationship and how much you love her. She needs to know that you are not just using her and taking the relationship further for your benefit only. Remind her that in your relationship, it isn't just one person, but the two of you, and to advance you must both be ready. Ask HER if she is ready for that. If she says no, let her know that you are prepared to wait until she is comfortable. Don't force her or put her in a position that she is uncomfortable in. Ask her (if she answers no) why she doesn't want to take it another step and what she is afraid of. If she will not tell you and obviously is lying when saying there is no reason, then tell her that if the relationship is going to work out it needs trust, support and love from both of you, and you are prepared to do whatever is needed to strengthen the relationship.

If she still doesn't tell you respect that,and don't hassle her. Just make sure she knows you will always be there for her and will be waiting for her when she is ready to talk about her problems and fears at any time.

Whatever you do, DO NOT blame anything on her, or be selfish. A relationship - in this case - should not be about one person but the couple. Respect her wishes- even if she dumps you (which hopefully she won't). Oh, and don't get over protective, she is allowed to have friends outside of the relationship.

Hope this helps!
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Hi !!!

Well, this could go both ways, one needs to know her, to really tell. But in reality, if you knew her with lots of guy friends,and it didn't bother you before, ....why would it bother you now????

She is your girlfriend and unless she gives you a good, nasty reason why, NOT to trust her again, you shouldn't worry!

And NO, it is NOT true that because a girl has lots of male friends means she is either a player or a "something"!!!

And I should know, I've being like that since I was very young too. You see??? It was not because I was a player or because I was something else, (I didn't even had a boyfriend), it was because girls were always kind of jealouse of me and it was dificult for me to trust my classmates (girls).

Then I found classmates (boys), to be more reliable and trust worthy, with me, (they would tell me, about what the girls would say about me). They were honest, and respected me and even though they would like me, they preferred to respect me and be my friend rather than to try to be my boyfriends!!
I didn't have to figure out who was envious, or why, or who was jealous of me!!!

Because of this, the girls were then, even more envious of me!!!

From then on, I developed a much easier approach to males and up until today been an adult, I experience the same issues. (I don't trust anybody) but if I would trust someone it would be a guy!!!!! NOT A GIRL!!!!

I suggest for you to trust her, and to love her and respect her the best way you possilbly can, so like that she would NOT have any reason why to disrespect you.

If for any reason it happens, at least you know that you gave her the benefit of the doubt, and it was NOT your fault in any way!!!!! Then you can dump her, NOT BEFORE!!!

You should also have your own circle of females friends, to keep a balance, between you both. This way it will compensate the reasoning, withing yourself, that you also have the opportunity of having females friends and NOT because of it, you will be unfaithful to your girlfriend!!!!

Love means nothing if one can't trust one another!!! If you really think that you can't trust her, then speak to her about what you feel and make it your problem, NOT her's!!!

I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU

A.Z.

Answer 3

Definitely move on. If you were to give her an ultimatum you would find out for sure. She isn't going to give up her friends. Let's say you hold your tongue and then marry her... just think of the anguish you would experience then. You wouldn't have a bunch of "girl-friends" while you were dating some girl right? Give yourself more credit than that. Find someone with the same morals that you have.

Answer 4

Ok dont meen to blab but this might help my best friend has this boyfriend and he has alot of chick friends but it looks like to her he is always flirting with them so it kind of differs there relationship to i think it is so stupid that something like that could happen because if they really loved you they would treat you like gold and let nothing hurt your relationship in my opinion you should talk iot over see what she does and if she does nothing tell her that its just not working out.........

Answer 5

You never should have started dating her in the first place. A girl with lots of guy friends and only guy friends is a huge red flag. Dump her and move on.

Answer 6

This is probably a test for you and you'll really need to deal with it correctly, because:

1. If you tell her not to do it, she'll complain that you're immature, jealous or trying to control her.

2. If you say nothing, then she'll have contempt for you and will revel in keeping you in a jealous mode, or in your place.

It's no-win situation for you, unless you somehow find the grace to deal with it.

This is TYPICAL female behavior and it's partly why men die sooner on the average.

Answer 7

Your best bet is to be honest with her and talk to her about it, do not yell. Its not worth fighting about.

Answer 8

guy n girl same, very like if have alot admirer. do u love her very much? u will stand it? don't take hopeness so much la........... cause later... u will be pain heart....

Answer 9

unreliable drop her she cannot be a single guys

Answer 10

has she given you any reason to worry? if not, then just calm the hell down.