I need help asking a girl out!!!!! Please!!?

Question

im 13 and i really like this girl tht i am currently friends with. we talk all the time. but the twist is shes going out with another guy and im not going to make them break up just so i can have her tht just is to cruel for me. i wanna tell her but i dont think i should. any ideas i really need to know.

Answer 1

HA HA HAAA
You're 13!!!!
This is all so new to you. I'm totally jealous!

Ok, here comes a "grown-up" lesson for ya that'll put you years ahead of your classmates:
If you really like her (and I'll bet you really do), just keep being that cool guy that likes spending time with her and makes her feel so liked. If your feelings are true (and not just trying to get "any girl") she'll feel it, and pretty soon she'll want to start spending more time with you. This will put her in the situation of "I like this guy, but I have a boyfriend." Once she mentions anything like that to you, you've gotta be all "Go with whoever makes you happiest." Remember - you and her are BOTH in this friendship, only SHE can decide to make herself availible to date you.

And it doesn't hurt to do the following:
1. Tell her you wish you could meet a girl like (then desribe something about HER). When she jokingly says "I'm like that", you reply "A SINGLE girl like that."

2. Ask her if she has a single sister or cousin or knows somebody just like her.

3. Actually say the words "I really like hanging out with you." It may sound obvious and a bit corny, but sometimes the obvious isn't realized by people unless it's actually said.

And my personal favorite...

4. Without the physical or romantic parts (no kissy, no valentines, no use of the word "love") start treating her like you would if you were dating. Call her on the phone. Invite her to do things with you as friends (not "let's go see a movie" but "I wanna see this movie on saturday, wanna come with?"). Make her feel as special as you would if you were dating, but leave out the lovey-kissy-stuff. If she feels the same way about you, she'll chose between you & her boyfriend. If not, she'll just think you're a cool friend and never pursue it. If that's the case, you'll be glad you didn't ruin the friendship by takeing it to the next level before she was ready.

When/if she's ready, she'll let you know.

However, once she breaks up with her boyfriend (if you still feel the same way about her) POUNCE!!!
("I couldn't say anything while you were seeing somebody, but now that you're not, I've always thought of you as much more than just a friend, and eventhough we've hung out alot before, tonight I'm gonna take you on an official date.")

Unless this guy is a friend of yours, then she's just off limits man... forever.

Good luck.

;)

Answer 2

I would drop little hints to her, you are both very young and I doubt she is very serious about this other guy if she pays you alot of attention.... hang in there and keep being her friend, perhaps show her you really care about her so that she may think twice about this other guy - Im glad you dont want to break them up because this wouldnt work anyway Im sure she will be able to tell....which will turn her off you....be patient, if it were meant to be it will happen, dont close off from others and maybe if you show alot of attention to other girls it could make her realise her feelings for you (no guarantee though) 13 is still so young - learn as much as you can from her, perhaps you should ask her what she likes about this other guy and get ideas to improve yourself ... hope this helps

Answer 3

If you don't want her to break up, then you apparently want her to date both of you. Would she be willing to do this? Would you be OK with this setup? Decide what you want, and it will be easier to figure out what to do. (For now you have nothing to gain by telling her how you feel.) You have a couple of choices:
1. Her date both of you. Go out as friends first and see if she's willing to move into a romantic relationship. Have her help you get a gift for a female cousin, study, or whatever.
2. Her date only you. You could wait for her present relationship to fail, or try to convince her to go out with you instead.

Answer 4

If you want to date her in the future, stop being a close friend. Unfortunately, she will only view you that way.

Turn your infatuation to another girl, and ask someone else out. It will make you more attractive, build your confidence, etc.

Then once you break up with the other girl, and your friend is single again, you ask her out and you have much better experience.

Answer 5

Well you can like her but you can't try to make her break up with her boyfriend just because you like her, keep talking to her as good friends and after that tell her you have feeling for her

Answer 6

You're 13, she's not going to marry this guy. Just wait, they'll break up. Once they do, fill her locker with balloons and put a card in the bottom of it that says, "Want to have dinner (this date and time)?"

Answer 7

You just keep your mouth shut for right now, just hang back and wait for the right moment. Once she has ended it with the current guy and had time to get over it and what not then maybe tell her how you feel.

Answer 8

bro theres a difference between friends and girlfriends as same as there is for love and like and lust, they all fall into the same sequence, and damn man, your only 13 you know how many girls there are out there for your age group?

Answer 9

Wait till she breaks up with the guy and when she's over rebound...pop the question.

It doesn't hurt.

Answer 10

dude your best bet is to wait it out until their relationship fails and be their to comfort her when she is upset about it. i did it and i got the girl i want. if you really like her its worth the wait.
the girl im with now i've waited four years to be with lol. i mean ive had other girls here and there but this is the one for me.