Does my EX-boyfriend feel GUILTY for.....?

Question

OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt badso a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Sincethen I have said hi to him 2 on msn.Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to Does he feel guilty or miss me?

I don't want anyont to pity me, is he only staying in touch cuz he feels guilty, cuz I would hate if he did that. When he asked me to the movies , was it a pity date or cuz he really missed me?

Answer 1

He is contacting you because he wants to be friends, and to keep you as a spare. If he ever can't find someone to date he will go out with you. I wouldn't give him the time of day or worry about him at all, he is only thinking about himself when he is doing this, he doesn't care about your feelings at all.

Well we are all pitying you because you have answered this same question 800x's.

Answer 2

After a year I would doubt that it was pity or guilt. He would have to be quite heartless for it not to sink in much sooner, and they very fact that he has never pushed to do more then what you want, he doesn't sound like that bad. Much more likely he got reminded of you, thought of some nice times he had, and figured it might nice to look you up. Most likely not really intent on anything more then what he said, he figures you are someone that might be nice to spend some time with, but probably nothing more then a casual friendship.

Oh course I could be wrong, but that is what it sounds like to me. I'm not sure why you feel it is disrespectful, I guess maybe you think he wants something from you more then just friendship? Or maybe, because he might want only that?

Answer 3

Because it gives him power over you, he is keeping you on a string close but not too close! So he can click his figures and say I want to meet up, so he can still knows what is going on with your life and makes sure you know about his! Its just another way of control, like when your ex puts there msn name to say how much they love their new b/f, its like they are only doing that because they know you will read it and they wont you to feel hurt!

I blocked my ex g/f on msn but she still comes online after 6 months of no contact she emailed me to meet up, Iv since unblocked her and she says “hi” on msn all the time, she loves to tell me about her weekends out with guys I’ve never heard of :s

So Iv asked your question to lots of people , why doesn’t she delete me? Why does she keep re-adding me on myspace, why does she ask to meet up? And why does she think I’d care id she slept at some guys house following a night on the town :s

Probably because It makes her feel good and knowing it bothers me & reminds her that I’m still in love wi her & makes her feel needed.

My ex girlfriend uses msn and myspace to control me and I hate it the best thing you can do is block/delete your ex b/f and don’t re-add him! & Ignore all emails! And yea I know that’s easyer said than done, but sometimes enough is enough .. an its time to move on right?

Hope this helped even if as much as you can relate to the same things.

Answer 4

who cares? He ended it. Dont let him use you no matter what his intentions are. He ended it so he has to live with that. Your not some toy that he can play with whenever he feels bad or has noone else to go to (which seems like the reason coz its been a year) I know its hard but you have to block and delete him on msn. It takes guts but you can do it and in the end its all worth it.

Answer 5

U should be careful cause u dont want to be the one crying for a week. If u can find out what he really wants by asking him that will be great . Also i know how great it feels just to be with someone , where someone is just wanting to be with u even if its only for a while . That is the **** thing about being a female we allways want to be needed and loved . Good luck .

Answer 6

Yeah he feels guilty guilty for not snatching up the cookie if you know what i mean maybe he's trying to hang around now so that he can scheme a way into getting that cookie you have to think about it a man is going to be a man

Answer 7

Why don't you both act like adults and chat in person instead of instant messenger?

He likely still harbors feelings for you, and enjoys your company even though he knows a long-term relationship won't work. You're both probably just lonely. You will get over this once you are involved in another relationship.

Answer 8

I think he just like you for you and he had respect for you since you want to waite for sex till marriage. But he may be thinking that you might give into him if he hangs around now and then. If this is important to you to stay a virgin then don't give it up unless your ready. Let it be on your time not someone elses.

Answer 9

Guilty for what? He has you on the back-burner. You guys are young enough to date other people. Nothing wrong with checking up on you every now and then.

Answer 10

Okay, here's the deal, he likes you but you're virginal so he only has time for you once in a while. If he truly liked you & wanted to be your b/f, he wouldn't come around only once in a while. A guy who truly likes you & wants to be with you will be around you all the time & respect your timeline.