Ok so my ex fiance of 6 months recently broke up with me. She told me that the reason was because she felt bored to me and din't feel happy to me and didn't want to hurt me more in the future because she felt like she never had fun with me. I'm a very shy guy and she knows this but after being with her for 6 months I'm still shy and I think she feels like she knows who I am when she really doesn't. The question I have is why did she end it? What was going through her mind when she ended it?? I know she loved me and I think she still does.
2007-03-24 20:10:11 · 5 answers · asked by wish I knew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was more out going and didn't think she could stay in this for the long haul of it. Better to end now then after 2.3 kids
2007-03-24 20:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , did u take her out to the same place everytime u guys went out? or were ur conversations getting lamer and lamer as the days went by? I dont know, but all I can tell u is dont go chasing after her; if u do, i don't think she'll get back with u. She'll just think that u cant do any better than her. So although its hard wait until she regrets it. BUt if she does decide to call u , or u guys happen to date again ,make sure u take her out somewhere more interesting next time. maybe a walk at the beach at night and show her that u can be more romantic. I had the same situation with a guy that I broke up with after 9 months. There were few reasons but one was also the fact that things simply werent interesting anymore. He never did anything sweet to show me that he cared. For example, give her a rose once in a while. It should help :)
2007-03-25 03:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by PinkDiamond♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too shy and passive.
Decide you are not shy, invite her to dinner, tell her you are going to show her how not shy you are, toss her in a bed, and if she starts taking her clothes off, HAVE AT IT. Act like a james bond spy.
Otherwise she's gone. She has seen the real you, you are shy and passive. There is no hidden secret you.
Women generally like a guy that is active, and dynamic, a problem solver.
Her telling you she's bored...and you took it? Man, that's not manly.
She gave you 6 months to figure it out. You missed it , probably. She decided, and you are like her brother now.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 03:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of reasons this could happen. I'll put them out there and you see if any of these fit the situation.
1. She felt a lack of connection due to your shy nature. She was attracted to your "mystery". She thought you'd open up, but didn't.
2. She got you "trained" and wanted to move on to someone who is more challenging.
3. She may have simply been scared and decided to run. She couldn't tell you the truth, so she decided to give you the ol' "it's not you its me" speech.
4. She found another guy. (It is better to find this out now.)
At any rate, you need her consent to make her your wife, and she's unwilling to cooperate. Move on. There is someone out there for you.
2007-03-25 07:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she felt she could not move on further in the relationship..don`t be down...i`m sure you`ll have one
2007-03-25 03:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kathelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋