Does it bug you when your friends get high or drink?

Question

Tonight I just had it... some of my friends have been known to have drank a good amount of alcohol then drive. Now they're into smoking pot, and I really hate that. I know drinking and driving is unspeakable of course, although I'm not quite sure of the effects of pot. But anyway I'm finally getting tired of it and I don't know what to do. It kinda crushes me cuz I love them but its so freakin annoying when they smoke, bring drinks, and smoke pot whenever I see them. It's really getting to me !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know ... I feel argh!

Answer 1

Get better friends.

Answer 2

You might want to try going to a couple of Al-Anon meetings.

You'll find many more people who have gone through the same thing and they will help you disengage from these friends of yours who are into these various addictions. The meetings are free (they collect a donation and you can just throw in a dollar or nothing). You can find meetings in your area by going to their website (link below). You can visit a meeting or two anonymously with no long-term commitment, and I bet you'll find it incredibly refreshing to be around people who are sober and who no longer put up with being around people who are addicted.

Note: Some of the people in these groups (like Alateen) may use rough language. If you end up in a group that you feel is pulling you down at all, just find another meeting that's more uplifting or end the experiement.

Also, please don't ever get in a car with anyone who drinks or smokes pot. You're better off staying home than risking having to catch a ride home with someone who has been drinking.

As you look for friends in the future, focus on those for whom drinking and smoking pot aren't really issues -- people with other interests. (I think everyone drinks a little in their late teens and early 20s, but it's all a matter of degree. Once in a while is one thing; constantly is another. It's the difference between life and death, really.)

Also look for people who, when you are around them, make you want to be a better person. Friendship is such a gift, especially when you find friends who inspire the best in you.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Ah, this question...

I've lost my grandfather to drinking...

Several people I know drink, and they're completely different people with a decidedly negative persuasion when they drink...

And worst of all, my sister is nearing 21, and has been considering wether or not to start drinking. She's aspiring becoming a lawyer, and thus she's really good at debating her point: when taken in controlled amounts, alcohol technically has little damaging effects. Unfortunately, too many have lost control over their drinking habits, and I am trying everything in my power to stop her from making a bad decision.

As for your question, you seem like an intelligent enough person to realize that stimulants and drugs are BAD. Answer me this: when your friends are high and drunk, behind the wheel of a car, with no regard to the fact that they could kill someone from their carelessness... Are THEY your friends? are they the same people you hang out with every day, who you can trust? Are they really the same person? Or, are they turning into different people, people with no regard to what's right?

I think that your friends are headed down a very bad path. You need to put a stop to their behavior. Get help for them. There are people who can help them- volunteer anti-drinking and anti-drug programs, other friends, family...

And if it comes down to they're not changing their habits, then you need to inform the authorities. Drinking and driving is hardly a small issue. It's like walking around drunk with a gun. You NEED to stop this behavior one way or another.

SOMEONE COULD BE KILLED. Can you live with that on your conscience? can you let your friends go to jail? Be a good friend. stop them before it's too late.

Answer 4

Stick to your beliefs, their decisions are going to catch up with them and the results are going to affect their futures for a long time to come. It's good to see a teenager who can see that their friends behavior is unacceptable. Not to say that I didn't drink or smoke a little weed here or there.... but my friends were like yours, drinking and driving, acting crazy, and eventually getting arrested or failing school. If it makes you uncomfortable to talk to them about it for fear of their reactions then just phase them out. You have a good head on your shoulders and there is no need to mess with your future over friends who don't love themselves enough. Trust me... in a few years you won't even be talking to these people because we all move on and our friends don't always connect with us as they once did. Good luck... no matter what do what's best for you!

Answer 5

personally, i am an ex-alcoholic and i enjoy alcohol very much...but, i cant drink, and i can see a lot of my friends are going down the drain, and its so annoying when they drink in front of me because i know better now. smoking pot on the other hand, isn't a big deal, because its the least harmful, even less harmful than some perscription drugs...but, not the best for your lungs. if you have never done either, i suggest smoking pot, just for the fun of it, its always fun to join friends anyways...or drinking maybe one beer, keeping yourself in moderation, not if your underage though, i spose. or just segregate yourself and hang out with different friends at night, and those crazy friends during the day...but, if you join them in the fun...you definately wont be missing out, if you choose not to, well you cant change them, only they can learn to change themselves on their own, so it might be to your taste to try different activities with them where alcohol and marijuana are not needed, or wanted, or aloud...or meet new people...but, since you love them, as well, find a way to express yourself:) they might understand...its good to get these things off your mind by expressing as well. best of luck to you...GOD BLESS!!!!!
ps. let them know you care about them, if you tell them you dont like it when they drink or smoke, because it might broaden their thoughts, if they realize you are just looking out for them.

Answer 6

I would be more open to it. It's a fact of life that there are a lot of young people who drink and smoke pot. They probably won't do this for the rest of their lives. Either be more accepting of it, or find new friends.

Answer 7

Just let it come out and tell them. Hopefully they will get a wake up call. You should say something, it would be a shame if something did happen to them and all you could say to your self is "If only I had said something" And if you do say something and they do something foolish that resulted with some tragic ending then you could say to your self "I tried to tell them" but at least you know that you did what you could.

Answer 8

how old are they? theyre probably still young and may get over drugs and alcohol they will soon find its not good for them and the way they behave i did it but it didnt make me any happier you go through a stage of drugs and alcohol it comes and goes they will hopefully mature and grow up one day

Answer 9

Aww... if your friends loved and respected you as much as you do them... they wouldn't do these things around you. That is, IF you've told them it bothers you...?! I've had friends that smoked pot but they knew I wasn't into it and they never did it around me or pressured me to try it. They respected my wishes to no participate and I respected their wishes to do as they please without judging them.

As for drinking... I usually want to get drunk so ...that hasn't been a problem. :)

Best of luck!

Answer 10

Try to stay away from them for now. if they get caught with drugs and your with them you get in trouble to. believe me its happened to me it sucks really really bad. when they get caught they will hopefully realize that they shouldnt have been doing it in the first place.