Family Drama?

Question

Here is the situation:
My parents dont love each other, so I really dont care, but there is a tug of war created by my greedy brother who has stolen one of the appartment and he was followed by my dull sister.
My older brother and I who had supported during the emotional crisis to our mother, we had only received complains and harsh feelings.
The marriage between my parents was only appearance.
My father is weak and coward, my mother is tyranic and impositive.
She has a bipolar conduct, depresive-aggresive, nothing is perfect, she is the messia but also denies to listen the advice of her sons or any medical atention. She only wants to listen corny programs on the radio.
The house is fallling down due the lack of mantenaince and using the money for funny trips.
Also she devaluates my job and friendships, because both are not according to her vision, It's really annoying.
We wont have any grandsons to approach her due her aggresivity.
We are running away of this war.....

Any hard solutions to input?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, your family has been and continues to be disfunctional. You are caught in the middle on top of it.

Since it's unlikely you'd ever get ALL of them in for family counselling. Even if they do, I don't think some of that behavior is going to change. Your mother is "manic-depressive," which is the old term for "bipolar." She can be helped with medication and therapy if she's willing to go.

If she ever becomes a danger to herself or others (meaning you or grandkids, or dad or anyone) you can have her arrested. The police will then get her to a mental health center. In my state, a person can only be held for 3 days, but usually in those 3 days, the person gains a little insight or is deamed still too dangerous to be loose on the streets.

Your father may not be as "weak" as he appears. I suspect he just doesn't want to rattle her cage any more than necessary.

For YOU, I would highly recommend couselling or psychotherapy with the purpose of building your own self esteem and tolerance of your mother's conduct. She is unable to make remarks that sound like criticism, but you can learn how to deal with that. All you need is self confidence. It does take work, many tears, and admitting your role in all this. But you'll end up a happier, better adjusted individual.

I know, because I've been through similar situations. It took 7 years of therapy for me to finally realize I was a worthwhile person. My parents did nothing but criticise and make me think that I was always doing the wrong thing.

Now, I'm proud of who I am. I don't shrink from conflict, but I don't start any either. No one intimidates me any more.

I know you're probably thinking, "Where am I supposed to get the money?" Check with your county social services department. You can find the listing under "hotlines" or "mental health." I know there are ways to get the help and support you need to get through this that don't cost an arm and a leg.

You ARE a valuable person, but you just are unable to see it yet. You have nothing to lose but the anger, if you find a good therapist you can unload to.

Answer 2

Just a piece of advice....your mother isn't bipolar because her husband left her.

My father is weak and coward - this is your role model as to how a man behaves. Try not to take over where your father left off on your mother or you may end up wishing this was all you had to deal with. Regardless of what's going on your mother is still a human being who is going thru a lot. Now, you don't give your life away however, the last thing your mother needs is to be treated the same by her adult sons/daughter.

Answer 3

It's well that Vince is returning on TV, and it is gotta be for a cause - to uncover the character(s) who attempted to finish his lifestyles. Also, I might love to peer a Mcmahon v/s Mcmahon feud once more. How, approximately a Mcmahon-Helmsley reunion?

Answer 4

Stay away from them and put all your energy and time into your wife and children. You are not obligated to let them abuse you.