How do i kno if my GF is cheatin on me?

Question

I been with my GF for 2yrs She is still very cool with her ex. BF/ her 1st. we had our ups n down n last yr she told me that if she ever cheated on me it will be with him, but she still loves me n wants 2 spend rest of life with me. ever since that argument we been perfect but her ex/1st still calls her everyday she doesnt call him. should i be worry because he was her 1st and girls will never forget there 1st or should i not assume nothing and she doesnt tell me when he calls like she use to i find out on my own. I do trust her its her ex i dont trust. should i tell her choose between me or him. what should i do about this whole thing

Answer 1

I think you are going about it very well. The best advise I can offer is to ask her to get him to back off. I think a girl can get over her 1st love, especially if she has found something more special in you, and Im glad to hear you trust her - that is so important. You do need to talk to her and let her know that the other guy must get off the scene as he is interfearing with your relationship....causing hardship where is not necessary.

I would not trust the ex b.f either - he is obviously trying to break you too up because he wants her back...It seems you are very sensible and Im sure your g.f knows this already. Please get her to tell him - its gotta come from her.

Hope she has success because Im sure she will try.
If he doesnt back off - ask your g.f to change her number and this should solve it once and for all.

All the best to the both of you.

Answer 2

dude man- you got some real matters on your plate. What grade are grade in? I was wondering if you're girlfriend ever gets mad or is uncomfortable when you talk to other girls? Do you ever talk to you're exes ? If she said her ex would be the only person she would cheat on you with, you got a problem son. If she's not telling you that hes calling then theres a problem. I bet thats not the only thing they're up to when you're not around. If you buy her stuff more than usual or give more things than you get, then I bet shes just using you. How does she look? Blonde? Brunnete. Dude you need to ask her ex whats up- and stop calling her or just call it quits because if they are just friends why do they need to talk to each other evry day thatmuch ( especially when she has you) And if she has mulitple exes then prolly if she don't call you as much or tells u if she was to cheat on you- she would move o to someone else. .......

Answer 3

Hi there

I'm here at the moment in the same situation. Trust me if the feelings there then its never wrong. i have been trying to find out for sure and its impossible without someone telling you or they slip up. It eats away at you everyday. So you have two choices if you love her wait it out. It may pass. Or as they say the truth will set you free. If you find out for sure you need to decide if your girlfriend is a player or not. Players never change its in the blood! they love the hurt and pain. They get off on it!

regards

idai

Answer 4

Look if you trust her whats the problem? Ask her outright if her ex has tried anything, if you dont trust him then whats to stop him? But if you can trust your gf then you should trust her to tell you if anything is going on, and she would stop it if this man tries anything, the bottom line is do you rlly trust your gf or not? If you dont then a trustless relationship wont work, so you have to end it before everyone ends up more hurt.

Answer 5

im a male too, and i want to share my experience with that 1st gf i had. she has bf now and i always call her and sometimes meet her out and eat, i tell her that go back to me and give her all she want but eventhough what i do and tell her she doesnt do it, in short for that long time youve had each other maybe she will not do it to you... just dont be too jealous with the boy be confident that she loves you and she never leaves you. just make her feel that you love her so much.... gudluck bro!

Answer 6

Ive been in ur situation this time last year, my gf had minial communication with me, and thats when i knew she was cheating on me. even though she denied it, it was true becuase she had no desire to be with me and she would make up excuses to not have dates with me,soon o found out out through a friend of mine she had been seeing someone on the side she was cheating on me for 4 months.. try to talk tp her see where her mind is at and go with ur heart and ask urself if this is really worth it..

Answer 7

If she didn't want anything to happen with her ex she wouldn't keep in contact,,,,,, sorry mate she's not the one for you, go find a nice girl then dump this one,,,,,, that'll make you feel better, because what ever went wrong with her ex, if they get back together things w2ill go wrong again,,,,,,, never go back either

Answer 8

Ask her and if she says no then accept it and move on. He is the one with the problem of letting go, not her. If you are worried, be good to her and treat her special, that will stop Mr. ex right in his tracks. He won't stand a chance. Remember she has chosen you not him.

Answer 9

You won't know until you find out for sure, but once the doubt is there, it is like a cancer, eating away at your relationship.
Trust her and do not let it worry you, but if you find her out lying to you then let her go, it is not worth the trouble trying to get someone to love you as much as you do her.

Answer 10

..... i dont think its right to ask a girl to choose between 2 guys.. it puts the girl in a difficult position... is she wants to choose someone she will do it herself in her own time... never put pressure on her because then you will be pushing her away.... to find the answer let her tell you... if she doesnt then ask her in a polite way... good luck... honesty is the best policy....