do dads like sons better than daughters?

Question

well my dad is always doing stuff with my brother and never with me.

Is there like a real reason?

I am 12 so I am not sure if he wants to avoid THE TALK cause my parents are divorced

Answer 1

it is not always the case . like with my husband he prefers to have a daughter than a son

Answer 2

Well, I am a lot older than 12, but I hope this helps. My dad only got 2 girls, and for some reason, my sister and I grew up playing sports (soccer, volleyball, and basketball). Once I got out of high school and didn't do the sports, I still tried to have a good relationship with my dad, and it has yet to work. He talks to my sister's guy friends and acts like I'm not in the room. But, my dad and I are very much alike personality wise, and we clash EXTREMELY bad when we argue.

I would approach you dad in a very mature manner and ask if you can have a talk with him. Tell him not to worry about THE TALK because you know he's going to be a little edgy about it. See if you can talk to a counselor at school or something. I don't know if they still offer it, but we had a class one semester when I was in school. That may take a little edge off of him, and may make it easier on you too. Then ask him if he can set aside some time every day or week or weekend (whatever works for you both) to do something with you. Take a walk, go to a movie, go for a drive, anything that allows you some much needed father/daughter time. Most of all, let him know you are proud to have him as a father, and that he's doing a good job parenting you. Hopefully this will open the lines of communication up. And keep them open...don't clam up once you get him talking and asking questions. Even if you feel embarrassed by some of the things he may ask, remember he's probably feeling the same thing!

Answer 3

Some cultures have dramatically different ways they treat boys and girls. They literally kill baby girls after birth sometimes, and abort baby girl fetuses, in China, India, and many other countries.

But assuming you live in America or some other civilized nation where girls are usually valued about as much as boys -- sure, some dads long for a son because they identify with them more. Some moms also long for a girl for the same reason.

If you feel you are or were neglected or undervalued by your dad, you might get some benefit out of John Bradshaw's work. Check out his videos if you can get your hands on them, or his books. He has you do exercises where you go back and say to yourself the words you most would have liked to hear from your parent when you were born, such as: "Welcome. We've been waiting for you. I'm so glad you're a girl!"

If it's any consolation, there seems to be more demand for baby girls to adopt. So lots of parents do value girls as much as boys or more. Certainly most moms want to have at least one girl, if nature cooperates. If not, they settle down and happily raise their boy(s) and look forwared to being a grandmother of a girl or two, with any luck.

Good luck to you, my dear. And remember, if or when you are a mom, to show great love to whatever boy(s) or girl(s) you have! All children are a blessing and a gift from God.

Answer 4

For my dad it's definitely true. He raised me to be a tomboy and he always made time to talk to my brothers instead of me. I think it's just cause dad's like having 'just another guy' in the house. And they have that image of their sons playing football, watching games, and asking about girls with them.

Look, if your dad isn't giving you enough attention, why don't you just speak up? I mean, my dad didn't really wanna talk to me much before, but now he's all I've got. And after I talked to him we play pool together and watch games n' stuff. He still is more affectionate to my brothers but at least he makes an effort.


Oh! sorry! One more thing, just cause dad's have more in common with their sons doesn't mean you have to change who you are to get time with your dad. Remember that, kay?

Answer 5

Maybe in China! Actually, sometimes the male bond is easier to achieve than male to female bond of father and daughter. So which of my kids do I like best or am the most proud of, the boys or girls?? Whichever one I am thinking of or talking to right at the moment. Never had favorites, just took a little longer to bond with daughter dear.

Answer 6

Maybe he feels like he doesn't have the same common interest as you. He wants to go out and play baseball or basketball with his son, that's what he wants to do. It's tough but you should talk to him. He probably loves you and wants to protect you but activity wise it's hard for a father to be interested in the same activities. And yes, this is a sexist comment - and it's the truth. Talk to him about it, maybe you can get some kind of fun activity that both of you guys like. You weren't very specific so it's hard to answer - no ages or anything like that.

Answer 7

A lot of dads have a hard time relating to their daughters after a certain age. He still loves you, it just is not as comfortable as it was when you were a little girl.

Have you asked your dad to do things with you? Try it, I bet it will work.

Or, print this off and show it to him, tell him, and things may get better.

Answer 8

Its true in a lot of other cultures. The reason for this is because sons are able to carry on their family name on to future generations. But in America, dads usually treat their girls and boys equally. Therefore they cherish their sons a lot more than with girls. Also, dads have more in common with boys. They like to teach their boys to follow their foot steps.

Answer 9

I have three daughters, and I'm happy to have them. I'd rather have daughters than sons. We play and watch sports together, do homework, and read. I think as you get older, your father will probably appreciate you more - he won't get to "give away" his son at a wedding and won't be nearly as protective of your brother.
As for my favorite, I always tell them that my favorite is whichever one is being nicest to me at the moment!

Answer 10

ask your dad, tell him you feel less important or whatever your feeling. i don't think that is true, he will probably change if you ask him to spend more time with you, and if your a teenager he should really apprecate this because most teens don't want to hang with their parents, but this is half the parents fault