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I'm speaking in the mental sense, not the physical.

We can begin with defining maturity. What is maturity? The dictionary term is "The state or quality of being fully grown or developed." But how does one decide who's truly developed, mentally?

I have a female boss who's in her 40's who presents herself as incredibly mature and brilliant. But behind closed doors, she lies, is very deceptive, and basically acts like a child who craves more power and will do anything to avoid being seen as done something wrong, even when she makes huge mistakes. She acts exactly like the men she hates and doesn't even realize it. You never know when she's telling the truth or lying.

I, and many others, could have sworn she was the most mature woman we ever met, until we saw how she really is.

These situations show me that many women who aren't mature, seem to be able to present themselves as extremely mature, but that doesn't mean they actually are. Society then just believes what it sees.

2007-03-24 19:17:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Gender Studies

Also; I think maturity comes depending on the individual, not the from gender or the sex of the person. How and why do people think that how mature you are depends on what sex you are? That sounds illogical and scientifically false.

If it IS false, then why does the majority of society think that women are more mature??

2007-03-24 19:17:59 · update #1

paws - Your completely incorrect.

First; cultural belief refers to females in general maturing physically and mentally faster than males. This is why many people in our culture say and believe it. I woudn't have reason to ask this question if I hadn't seen and witnessed thousands of people who voice that belief. It is that publicly voiced belief that give me reason to ask this question.

Secondly; I didn't ad-libbed "and are more mature than men". That is not an improvision, it is a statement, a belief, that is exactly stated by many people, which my purpose was to examine with this question.

Third; My question was directed at those who believe females are mentally more mature than males, not my boss. I used my boss as an example (as I mentioned when I said, 'these situations show me, etc,') of how some women present themselves as mature when they are not.

2007-03-25 00:29:02 · update #2

Paws - & lastly; You state that maturity isn't determined by gender which I agree with, but you didn't answer the question, or even give a logical argument on the topic.

You give no facts as to why you believe maturity isn't proven by gender. You didn't define your idea of the meaning 'Maturity'. In fact, you give no facts or logic in anything you've said.

You were more concerned with coming up with your own beliefs (based on your own perception) as to why you think I asked this question, which has nothing to do with facts or the actual question.

2007-03-25 00:39:18 · update #3

Baba Yaga - I've learned that you don't even know how to debate or think factually. You instead evade questions, misquote what people say and redefine what you think they mean based on your misguided perceptions of reality.

And in the end, responses to your absurdities probably only fuels you more to believe your in the right. You probably rarely ever question yourself to see if your really right or wrong about what you precieve, which is what arrogance is, and only fools become arrogant.

I probably wasted my time writing that to you since you might be a Baba clone, or maybe just some dude just talking senseless trash.

2007-03-25 00:56:36 · update #4

annoyed - Thanks for trying to answer the question, unlike the first 2.

With that said, you said, "The proof we have of this is the measure of frontal lobe neural pruning using MRI and SPECT imaging with contrast"

Not to be rude, but what you say doesn't prove anything. Thats like saying that woman mature faster because the bible says so. Proof when it comes to this is action. People can say & reinterpret what ever they think science means on a situation, but it doesn't change what actually happens. Name specific action that prove this to be true.

For example; you don't need someone explaining a scientific survey that you have no idea if it's true, to know that adult humans make more complex decisions than new born babies. An action example of that is, comparing how a Lawyer debates to get what he/she wants, to a baby who simply cries to get what it wants.

When I see the actions of men and women, I haven't seen any proof that one sex is more mature than the other.

2007-03-25 01:08:57 · update #5

bambam - Your said "because of hormons and education women are mature faster "

How does that prove anything? To say this means that men have either no hormones, or weak hormones, and that men are slow in education. Should men be in special ed then?

You don't explain thoroughly how hormones and education make a women more mature.

2007-03-25 01:25:48 · update #6

UpYaNose - Thanks for being kind & taking time to really answer the question.

You said,

"I see 14, 15 year old boys physically playing with one another(not sports, like pushing, shoving etc.) and you tend to think of them as kids when compared to the girls who do not do these often."

I've thought of this and it makes me think that this doesn't necessarily show that boys are less mature. I think it shows that boys and girls like to hurt each other emotionally in different ways. The fact that they like to hurt each other, makes them both immature no matter how they accomplish it.

For example; Boy pushes boy hard to get him mad. He knows by simply threatening the other boy physically, it will shake his emotions. Girls usually have more frail bodies & aren't as physically threatening. So they use words to hurt others & shake emotions. But both are behaving immature.

2007-03-25 01:41:19 · update #7

UpYaNose - Also, some girls with big bodies push & shove like boys do because they have the physical bodies and aggression to do so. & some boys who have frail bodies hurt others with words like girls do. Both are still being immature, just doing it differently.

& people in general seem like their being more tactful when using non-physical ways to harm another or do something, but their is tactfulness in physical actions as well. Not all physical behavior is unintellgently preformed & done for unintelligent reasons. Society in American just sees any physical behavior is mindless and skilless. Asian culture is very differnet with that.

2007-03-25 01:42:20 · update #8

Tanks - You said, "I also think more people believe girls are more mature than boys because boys they ''horseplay'' and make dumb jokes but this is perfectly normal. "

I starting to think that "horseplay" is being used to discriminate against boys as immature, when it's not, it's just physical release. I think there's a difference between "horseplay" and "bullying". I think "horseplay" is just physical fun that doesn't hurt people, an energy outlet for boys. "Bullying" is immature, it's horseplay with great intent on damaging someone emotionally & physically.

Both boys and girls bully. Only most boys first hit you on the outside physically, and hurts you inside emotionally. & most girls first hurt you emotionally, which sometimes shows up physically on you if your so emotionally hurt it physically makes you sick.

2007-03-25 01:50:11 · update #9

PortWine - If it's true that females mature faster as children, I would like to know what is the actual cause of that, and what is the scientific logic behind the purpose of it?

What is the purpose of one sex maturing faster for a few years in life than the other (as children)? Birds have wings to fly. They fly because their bone structure light enough to support it. What is the natural reason for females as children to mature faster than males?

2007-03-25 08:08:36 · update #10

annoyed_with_the_other... - Ah, you call me neurotic. It's pretty stupid on your part to debate with one who's diseased with neurosis. Only a true retard would do that.

And technically you didn't say "HOW it is proven". You simply stated that "The proof we have of this is...etc..." Even if you did say HOW it is proven, your telling me how you say otehr people, who are scientist, prove it. I want to hear from you directly the proof. Anyone can cite references and internet links and hope it's truth. But if you truly understand the facts of this, you would simply say those facts here, directly and to the point.

I'll scan through the links anyway, but as for what you mentioned, it still doesn't explain the logic as to why what you say happens in nature and what the purpose is. It's basically saying that femininity makes people more intelligent, mature, and grand, which makes no sense.

2007-03-27 11:01:32 · update #11

8 answers

Cultural belief refers to GIRLS maturing faster than boys physically and emotionally. {only} You ad-libbed "and are more mature than men" as a reason to vent. Maturity isn't determined by gender. Take it up w/ your boss, since your " ? " was really directed @ her.

2007-03-24 19:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by GoldE 5 · 0 0

The fact that proves this may be based on how children are raised in North American society. Societies are often guided by stereotypes. One such stereotype is in genders. For example, a couple has a baby, a boy. Chances are that the parents will spend more time with the boy in playing with cars, physical activities and stuff like that than with a girl. The opposite is true with girls. The parents are more likely (especially the mother) to spend more time reading and conversing with the girl than the boy. Girls learn more about communication and relationships and things of that nature than boys. Since this is the case, boys appear to be "less mature" than girls. This is not necessarily true, considering that they are adept at things other than what girls are good at. But girls may tend to understand things involving responsibility, communication and social interaction more easily than boys due to their high exposure.

2007-04-01 20:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 1 0

I don't know if there is any proof of such a stereotype and how you can measure maturity. But it is through observations I guess, like in public I see 14, 15 year old boys physically playing with one another(not sports, like pushing, shoving etc.) and you tend to think of them as kids when compared to the girls who do not do these often.

Also, girls may be more sensitive and thus may be more tactful? This I am not sure but personally I've seen significantly more guys making jokes about their friends who are present that are quite hurtful and embarrassing and everyone around can hear. This may be seen as a child-like quality, as kids are not known to be subtle.

2007-03-25 08:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3 1

It is because girls go through puberty sooner than boys. But after puberty they are not more mature (The state or quality of being fully grown or developed) because the men are also fully grow or developed. I also think more people believe girls are more mature than boys because boys they ''horseplay'' and make dumb jokes but this is perfectly normal.

2007-03-25 08:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Females do mature faster as children, but after adulthood, it greatly depends on the person, country, upbringing, and exposure to bad choices. What the heck difference does maturing a couple of years sooner during childhood make in the scheme of things anyway?

2007-03-25 10:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

From what i've seen and experienced in life, I do genuinely think women mature faster than men. But I don't know why exactly. Just telling it like it is.

2007-03-29 15:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Women do mature faster than men, though only up to the age of approximately 26 when they are about equal.
The proof we have of this is the measure of frontal lobe neural pruning using MRI and SPECT imaging with contrast



*** Wow, If I had known you were neurotic, I would have tried harder not to step in this mess... What I said is HOW it is proven. When films of MRI and SPECT images are examined, it is shown that there is far more neural pruning done in the female brain in the frontal lobes. This area gives us inhibition,higher thought, maturity, abstract thought, and logic. Here's a few reports I called up. And relax, there's no need to get all excited.

http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:BMYPAaD2qYoJ:www.krepublishers.com/02-Journals/JHE/JHE-21-0-000-000-2007-Web/JHE-21-4-000-000-2007-Abstract-PDF/JHE-21-4-257-263-2007-1554-Amadi-C-C/JHE-21-4-257-263-2007-1554-Amadi-C-C-Tt.pdf+adolescent+maturity+boys+girls&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us

www.whitworth.edu/Academic/Department/Psychology/Courses/PY101_Wescombe/feb20py101.rtf
www.public.asu.edu/~dbodman/BrainandEducationNotes.pdf
www.ncmsalliance.org/Symposium%202006/A%20Work%20In%20Progress.pdf -
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2007-03-25 04:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by annoyed_with_the_other_answers 3 · 3 1

because of hormons and education women are mature faster

2007-03-25 08:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by bambam 3 · 2 1

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