I'm never falling in love again?

Question

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say what I felt about her, but all my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said "ok, I get the point, you don't have to say anything else.

I guess I'll just see you around." She talked to everyone in the hall but me. I left her. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. I think I probably should just tell her happy birthday to show that I remember. Maybe I shouldn't even say that. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. I've been hurt before by crushes every single time, but this is the first time I've fallen in love. I learned something though; just because a girl seems like she has everything I've been looking for, doesn't mean she's the girl for me. She could change up anytime. I'm never leaving myself open for getting hurt by falling in love again, because I'm not giving her my heart until she earns it. This is the first time I've fallen in love but it's the last straw, the last time I try to be someone for somebody. Like my name says from this song, I got this Icebox where my heart used to be.

I'll ask this in the form of a poll. Should I-
#1-Buy her a birthday gift and hand it to her
#2-Just say happy birthday to her (she's turning 17 and I'm 17)
#3-Completely ignore her

EXTRA NOTE NOT REQUIRED FOR ANSWERING QUESTION: When I liked her, she said she had liked me first. Then I asked her how she liked me the next day and she said she didn't know. It wasn't until a month later she said she didn't like me, but I really liked her. The girl I fell in love with was a really shy, sweet, funny, beautiful girl. At least, I always felt she was beautiful even though everyone around me said she's just alright and she's no one special. I have this false, ridiculous small ray of hope that maybe one day she'll talk to me but I just don't want to try anymore.

Answer 1

ok sweetie lets see if i can help you ! you are really weaving a tangled web, first give her a litle space for a little while ? and you know what tell her you miss her go up to her in the hall and just blurt out that you miss her nothing more nothing less please trust me cause it would only freak her out if you say i love you ! cause lol i've done that and sometimes it'll work or ... it can blow up in your face. go up to her and say " I miss you, i only want to be friends nothing more nothing less come on what were so uncomfortable about is stupid i miss you being there for me can you give me another chance ? " or something like that i'm not triing to ruin you i want to gelp cause no one should feel the way you do !

Answer 2

This girl has told you in every conceivable way possible to go away. She has used body language, cold shoulder treatment, plain old English and probably a few rarely-used mongolian dialects as well. And still you won't get the hint. No, not you. You're too busy obsessing over how to give her a birthday present. Well, here's a shock for you: She wants a present from you just about as badly as she wants a rusty nail driven through her kneecap. Save your money. Move on. You are making a pathetic spectacle out of yourself, which not only makes this girl more disgusted with you by the minute, but probably also ruins any chances you might have had with any other girls who are witness to this ridiculous drama.

Answer 3

Keep trying... and by God, tell her or write her how you feel about her. Tell her, man. If you tell her and she rejects your love, you can say you did your best and move on. If you don't tell her you will always live with regret. You might be very surprised. I've been through it. The girl didn't care, but I've told her. I still miss her but know I did what I could. You won't be able to see closure until you tell her and then if she walks, leave her alone and move on. Bear in mind that once she knows you love her she might be back in lieu of something better, don't take her back if she's walked, some other girl will love to have you and YOU WILL be happy with her. Not that you won't miss fiddle-dee-dee from time to time. Get ahold of your emotion and give it a try. Best of luck!

Answer 4

just say happy birthday, you will fall in love again, think what made the change, were you way too affectionate ? some girls don't like that, try keeping your cool :)

Answer 5

way too long to read so i'll answer the question in bold...you cant not fall in love again. i think people try to fall in love and they just need to let it happen.