We dated for about a year and a half and everything was perfect. we had a few arguments but nothing out the ordinary. Then my family started having issues when my grandfather died and I broke up with the intentions of getting back together until I re found myself again. We still saw each other and had dinner and movies, but without the title. Then I had to move and I went to san diego and while down there for about three weeks I realized that I couldnt and didnt want to spend another minute without him. when I told him he had found someone else. I told him that I loved him and wanted him. he confessed that he knew he should of waited. Well theyre still together and its been eight months. How do I get over someone that I have ever truly loved. Im not my normal self, my eating habits arent the same, and im always depressed. How can I be the old me and get him out of my head. everything reminds me of him. there isnt a day where he isnt in my head. please help I need some advice.
2007-03-24 19:08:02 · 8 answers · asked by surfingbeanpole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel you babe; the depression, frustration and disappointment. Sometimes you will hate him for deserting you and sometimes you feel you still love him a lot when you recall the good memories that the both of you shared. The push-pull effect once made me feel I were falling down an endless pit of suffering.
Nevertheless, time heals all wounds. It's a matter on how fast you want it to heal. If you really put your heart into suceeding, you will earn it. You'll have to face up to reality that he'll no longer be by your side. Since you've recently moved to a new place, you can treat that as a new beginning. The key to recovery is to trick your mind to not think about him by keeping yourself BUSY - go meet new people, do voluntary work, make a difference in people's lives, exercise more, find a new hobby, go an extra mile in your study/work, do something that you wanted to do all your life tec. Learn to live a fruitful and fulfilling life as an individual. Romantic relationships are only a part of our lives. There are many areas in life that might have been neglected and now would be a good oppotunity to deal with them.
Anyway, the above has worked for me hope it does the same for you ^_-
2007-03-24 21:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gavin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat you are in. My b/f and I broke-up after 5years and my eating was almost non-existent, and I was depressed too. What helped me was focusing on myself, and getting rid of everything that reminded me of him. I went tanning, surrounded myself with my girlfriends, and every time something reminded me of him, I would try to imagine replacing that thought with something else (i.e. if im out with my g/fs and i hear a song that reminds me of my ex, I try not to think of him and try to think of replacing that memory with the memory of being with my best girls.) About eating, I just had to take it slow and get my appetite back to normal. I started eating light foods to help my stomach, and then started eating more normal food when my stomach felt better. The pain of losing him will still be there, mine still is, but you can recover and maybe learn something out of this experience. I know I did. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that everything works out for you.
2007-03-24 22:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Francesca O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
occupy yourself with other things to do that doesn't remind you of him. Don't listen to sad love songs, look at pictures of him, etc. He found someone else, you should find someone else as well.
2007-03-24 20:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. True love doesn't leave. If he isn't in your life anymore, then he wasn't your true love.
My suggestion: get a new one.
2007-03-24 19:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
true love never leaves
2007-04-01 16:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant u gotta let time and faith do its job
2007-04-01 16:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all takes time.
2007-03-24 19:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋