Ok so here it goes... About 4 years ago was the last time I have talked with my real Father and my Grandparents... (His Parents) And I have not seen them in about 8 years... I have a lot of questions that I want answered from David (my Father). I got a call from my Step-sister a few days ago and she had given me my Grandparents phone number and I am contemplating on weather or not I want to call them... I feel like there number is burning a whole in my pocket... And I dont know what to do... If I do I dont know if I will be able to handel the truth... Of why they dont want to be a part of my life and also with the few other questions I want to ask them... What should I do???
2007-03-24 18:49:16 · 22 answers · asked by princesscrystal2382 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
life is too short. they are your family. no matter what, families are forever. don't be afraid. clear your head, don't look one way or the other. just call and see what happens. the problem with not talking for so many years is, your imagination takes over, instead of whats real. I'm sure you'll be happy that you called, if you let yourself be. Good luck
2007-04-01 16:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get the answers to your "questions" is by making that phone call.
Call you grandparents and share with them your feelings and your thoughts. I'm betting that they'd love to hear from you and would be more than willing to help in alleviating your worries. Open up the lines of communication and give them (and your father) a chance to explain the "truth" (as you put it).
Things are not always as "we see them" and through the years the details of a situation can change from "what really happened" to "how I feel it happened", depending upon the person who is relating them. Get all the facts and make your own decisions. You can do this with one call - do it if only to ease your mind.
Good luck.
2007-03-30 10:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Swami Ibme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might be glad to hear from you and know you are alive and have a phone number for you. If the questions you have are legitimate, non-provocative types of questions, maybe they would be glad to find out for you and if your dad wants to answer them personally, he can call you at the number you leave with them. When I say, provocative, I mean questions that are meant to make him feel guilty.
I have relatives who I know don't want to be contacted by certain other relatives just for that reason. So I'm a little bit familiar with the problem. The complicating factor is that unless the person is open and honest (and if they were, they wouldn't be hiding), they are likely to lie about some things you want to know.
Good luck anyway.
2007-03-31 14:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and talk to them. I would try not to put them on the spot about serious questions right away. Try to find out about them first, what they do, what their lives are like. Show an interest in them and build up a relationship first. Then, ask questions about the past a little at a time. Take it slow, you don't have to get everything out of them at once.
2007-04-01 12:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have issues with family at sometime or another.I had a similar situation when I was 18 with my own father...I wish I could get those years back,but you can't replace time or family....If you have questions,it's better to ask and know...It may help you later in life.Older people are sometimes set in their ways and don't want to show they are vulnerable...You may have an opportunity now that wasn't there in the past...I don't know your situation....I would try and then no one can fault you for at least trying....They may realize what they are missing by not having you in their lives and in turn you having them in yours.We all have faults and those who can learn and forgive usually have a greater life in the end....
I hope you find a middle ground with your family on the past and have an opportunity for a future with them.
good luck- Jim
2007-03-25 21:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jim J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm adopted and i understand the want to know if you don't call your grandparents you might regret it later in life give them the opportunity to talk with you if they don't want to you have lost nothing but you gain the right to know you where the bigger person and if you both talk you might gain grandparents (which are wonderful people to gain) give them a chance everyone can make a mistake.
2007-04-01 17:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by texpauley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them. It may make their day. You will always have questions that need answers. If you wait too long it will be too late!
It isn't easy. Call them. I'm sure you will be happy you did.
If you are able to write them a letter it might ease things for you. Go ahead. You'll be happy you did.
2007-04-01 17:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by front door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please call them but dont ask any question on the phone just to say hi and hello till you meet them in person. If you are not in front of a person things can be just so wrong. Wish you good luck.
2007-03-25 01:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by melepeggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thats your grandparents and you have a chance to know whats going on girl dont wait call them you will feel alot better good luck and you will be ok
2007-03-31 19:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say call. What's the worse that can happen-considering you haven't been talking to them for 4 years. But, I bet they will be happy to hear from you.
2007-03-25 01:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Arrica C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋