My girlfriend is jealous of me talking to other girls online. I think it's because I met her off of the internet. I broke up with her over it and am wondering if I made the right decision. I love her but I hate when she gets jealous over me talking to girls online. I should be able to do whatever I want to do without her getting mad. Am I wrong?
2007-03-24 18:43:58 · 27 answers · asked by Sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also -- I am a guy and this is her screen name. Need to point out that I have cheated on her when we first started dating with a girl I met online. Even before that happened she was jealous. She's just 10 times worse now. I can't handle it. No matter what I'm doing she thinks I'm talking to another girl, even if I'm just typing an email to a family member.
2007-03-24 18:52:35 · update #1
to an extent, she has a right to feel jealous when she knows you talk to other women online, because of you cheating on her in the past with a girl you met online. yet, if she is overbearing with you, I don't think that's very right either, because a relationship is about seeing eye to eye. I think you two should talk things through together and figure something out. Maybe meet halfway, like she needs to cut down majorly on her jealousy issues and you need to not talk to other girls online much...if any at all. As long as your intentions are good, there should be no need for her to worry, though
2007-03-24 19:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by *LaUrEN* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is: does she have a reason to be jealous? If all you're doing is chatting with friends you've had for awhile over some platonic common interests, maybe she's overreacting...if you're seeking out new friends as "benchwarmers" for her or flirting, then she may have cause for concern.
You could also talk to her. If you'broke up with her over the internet, a dialogue (even over the phone) so you can express your feelings to each other might be good...
2007-03-25 01:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her, you would have worked things out so you could have stayed with her. She should have been tons more important than some random girls on the internet that you'll never meet. But, since apparently she isn't, I guess you did you both a favor since now you aren't wasting your time with each other.
2007-03-25 01:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but if your partner is uncomfortable with you "hanging" with other potential partners, YOU need to look at WHY you would need to do whatever your partner is unhappy about. Relationships are supposed to be all about listening, caring, consideration, helping, compromise - and more... they are NOT stubborn, selfish, rude, conditional... yes, she was insecure. By insisting she had no rights, and you had every right to do whatever, regardless of her feelings, I can certainly see why she felt insecure of your commitment to her!!! Go look up "jealousy" in the dictionary - you helped create her insecurity by selfishly demanding your way. You could have at least listened and offered a compromise - if you cared about her that is...
2007-03-25 02:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you love her. If you met her on line then obviously she knows what goes on and has every right to feel this way. If you want to keep her, then maybe it would be best to stop chatting on-line. It is all a matter of what is more important to you.
2007-03-25 01:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by cherrynseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong! Being involved with a women means you can do whatever you want to do in direct correlation to how well you can hide it. Besides having a real girlfriend is better than having a pretend one.
2007-03-25 01:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur in a relationship u can't do whatever u want, give a little, take a little, compromise, I have been married for 4 years, if ur the husband, she's always right, thats what I have learned, sound like ur situation, so if u love her, she's always right, if it didn't bother u to break-up with her, then maybe u can find a situation, that ur the wife and ur always right.
2007-03-25 01:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by trust_me74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little jealousy is ok, as long as she doesn't constantly harass you about it. You should have just explained to her that there is nothing to worry about. You should probably call her back up and try to fix things, because that seems like a silly reason to split up a loving relationship.
2007-03-25 01:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with ya.......you SHOULD be able to do what you want......the problem is....if you love her, should you want to be chatting other girls up?......and would it be okay with you if she was having the same chats as youre having with others?......treat her with the same respect you'd like.
I dont like someone telling another what to do or how to act....that's not a fun relationship. Everyone knows what to do, they dont need a new mommy or daddy when it comes to a g/f or b/f.
2007-03-25 01:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong. Relationships usually involves two people. These two people if they want the relationship to continue will try not to hurt or offend the other person. Will show respect and care towards the other person.... you my friend are doing the opposite.
2007-03-25 01:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋