Would you have a problem dating someone who used to cut? *Look at link for information*
Would you try to help her, get to know her before you judged her because of her scars or her past?
Would you think she was just a psycho *****?
What is it?
2007-03-24 18:41:56 · 8 answers · asked by ☆Bombastic☆ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-24 18:42:10 · update #1
People who inflict physical harm on themselves are often doing it in an attempt to maintain psychological integrity -- it's a way to keep from killing themselves. They release unbearable feelings and pressures through self-harm, and that eases their urge toward suicide. And although some people who self-injure do later attempt suicide, they almost always use a method different from their preferred method of self-harm. Self-injury is a maladaptive coping mechanism, a way to stay alive. Unfortunately, some people don't understand this and think that involuntary commitment is the only way to deal with a person who self-harms. Hospitalization, especially forced, can do more harm than good.
2007-03-24 18:50:42 · update #2
PLEASE READ LINK
http://groups.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=groups.groupProfile&groupid=105827668&Mytoken=51785782-D2E8-454A-9ED4691C68AE85F57017433
2007-03-24 18:51:10 · update #3
I checked out the linkand I learned something new.
Until now I though these people were psychotic. I guess my bottle of boose is no different than their knives.
I haven't in the past, but I will be more understanding in the future about this sensitive issue and the everyday people it affects.
2007-03-24 18:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't have a problem. It's the past. That person had some real issues and has to be reassured that things are better now. Why would anyone judge someone who had a common problem? Cutting isn't a crime or immoral, it's a condition.
2007-03-25 01:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The amount of people in this world who are truly 'well adjusted' are very few. My answer to your question is I would not have a problem dating someone who used to cut. Many people have emotional scars from their traumas you apparently have both emotional and physical scars from some trauma.
2007-03-25 01:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by cartiphilus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone in an attempt to help their psychological problems is NEVER a good idea.
If that part of her life was truely behind her, then I wouldn't care; but cutting yourself ALWAYS indicates mental instability.
2007-03-25 01:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because your past is your past........hopefully I would be able to give enough happiness so that she wouldnt harm herself anymore.........so in away I would hope to be inspirational instead negative.
2007-03-25 02:03:01 · answer #5 · answered by evolved_mind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a girl like that once, but every time she got nerves, she cut her slfe, but I try to help her but it got bad.
2007-03-25 01:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't a guy?
What a lameo to ever says no.
2007-03-25 01:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lindz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I have...
And used to is relative...
still?
2007-03-25 01:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Marc G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋