i hate my family....truely and deep down!!!?

Question

my family hates me and i hate them too. i have one older sister, 17, and she's probably the cruelest creature alive. she hits me, theatrens to kill me, and when she's mad she gets this CRAZED look on her face and her voice gets deeper and she grabs me.

my mom and my step dad are the worst parents ever. they say things like "i hope you grow up to be miserable" and they've
"kicked me out" for hours at a time (yelling and all, and my mom kicked me) because I've done things like yell at them once or lie about losing my retainer this one time.

also, my mom calls me fat which makes me wanna die. im 5'2 and 99 pounds. IM NOT FAT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! i eat a lot, but i have a really fast matabilism. my step dad calls me names and jokes, but when i joke back he goes "do you want to get kicked out of this family?"

the true answer is "yes". i cant talk to them. please dont even suggest that. ill get laughed at or yelled at. im not being some dramatic kid...trust me.

any help?

some cool facts about today:

im a klutz, and i drop things all the time, especially when my mom yells at me, i get sooo nervous.

i dropped a chair on the wood floor and she went CRAZY, yelling, screaming because i couldve scratched the new wood.

...hmmm:

my moms really fake with other people too. deep down, she has criticism for everything. if i say "i tried really hard on a test" when I got a C, im usally yelled at for not trying hard enough or thrown out.

im 15 everyone.

the only aunts and uncles i have are on my moms side and my mom wouldnt let me stay with them.

i have a dad that i really love, who lives an hour away, and i would really love to live with him, except i cant switch schools.

it seems stupid, i know. but the only people who have ever loved me are my friends and i wont leave them behind. i live in a small suburban town in southern california and my dad lives in the valley.

i would live with a friend, but they dont know about this stuff. ive always pulled off the "i have a perfec life" thing when really i have the worst life. if i told them this, they'd be shocked like crazy!

i dunno what to do.

Answer 1

Talk to your school counselor. They will help you work things out. If you are being abused it is possible they will remove you from the home so be careful and make sure thats what you really want because you never know where you will end up. You wont have things like your own room or a pc or most of what you own.

Answer 2

If it really is that bad, then you could try taping an argument and showing it to a teacher, or your school counselor. Even if you aren't able to tape them, you should still talk to a trust-worthy teacher about your troubles, and they'll be able to help. Possibly even more than one adult, since some adults may believe it's justa typical, dysfunctional family, and another may believe that action should be taken.

Have you tried talking to your mother in private, away from your sister and stepfather? There's a chance she may not realize how her actions affect you, and she may love you, but isn't able to control her temper. I wouldn't be surprised if she needs to be medicated - her cruelty could easily be because of a lack of a certain nutrient or chemical in the body, or excess of it. Or stress levels, which could be caused by divorce or her own unhappy childhood, among other things. I understand if this isn't possible, though, since you obviously believe your family won't take you seriously.

As for your sister, she's a teenage girl. Same as me. So, I know she isn't serious with her threats and actions, and I doubt she truly hates you. She's angry about other things in her life, maybe school... most likely her home life factors into this anger. So she's taking her anger out on you - you're likely not doing anything wrong. This doesn't excuse her from her actions, though, of course.

Your parents, on the other hand, are not children. They're adults, and if they're treating you like this, you need to do something about it.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are in a very tough situation. I wouldn't say try talking to your parents but I think it's time you start talking to your friends, at least the ones that are closest to you. Why would you keep this from them? This is what friends are for and you need the support and understanding they will give you.You shouldn't feel that you have to lie about your life, this is not your shame to bare ... why hide it ? you might be surprised in the response you get when you truly let people in. It sounds like you might be a little afraid of doing that but give it a try. Also, I'm wondering if things are ok between you and your dad, why don't you at least talk this over with him. He may have a solution you never thought of.If you can't trust the relationships you have with the people at home , at least try and trust the relationships of those you know care about you. Hope this all works out ... Take care : )

Answer 4

family problems, depending where you live at........ you can get help just go down to your police district and explain the problem with a police officer thats what they are there for to help to help people who can't help themselfs and tell the truth no matter the out come. cause if you don't they will know they deal with issues like this everyday........ it seems that there's a big problem in your family and maybe the county can help with the family problems and fix it or put you into a foster home or if you are old enough and have "real friends" not your people you know friends that can put you up there is so much hate in this world abuse is abuse I went through it I know what its like and if you cant get help you let me know I'll get some help from your county seat....Wish u Well Keith

Answer 5

I feel sorry for your situation,how old are you?I think if your really mistreated go to a teacher or someone that can give you their opinion that can help you.If you just have a bad relationship with them just keep your distance from you sister and try to listen to your parents the best you can!I wish you the best and hope you get things figured out.

Answer 6

Like some of the answeres said...call for help.If u think that's really not possible..then just go silent.i know it wont solve the problem..but it'll minimize it..they'll stop picking on u more often as u wont respond.If your mom yells at u..just say sorry politely.Maybe she would realise how horrible she has been to u.Just dont react as it would worsen the situation.Just hang on there sweetheart..life would b beautiful for u someday..

Answer 7

The way they treat is so wrong and i know it suck but if you want to make your mom suffer that bad than i can help. long term ignore them and do your best at school so you can get into a good college. that will strike your mom hard. and have a very good adult life. short term learn where your moms emotional weak spots are and take advantage of them. like for instance i hate my dad cuz of the stuff he did and he doesnt think my mom can raise me on her own (im 13 btw) so i do my best and show that he is totally wrong and he is a very prideful person so it strikes him very hard. see what i mean. it works to get inside someones head.

Answer 8

wow and how old are you? i am soo sorry to hear this you should get out or talk to one of your friends and ask them if you could live at their house intil you could find an aunt or uncle or grandma and get out of that family cause you were put on this earth not from your mom but from god and i know that god loves you and doesn't want this to happen to you so take this advice and GET OUT find someone that loves cause you do diserve better and if you need someone to talkto i am here
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Answer 9

seems like your family is abusive. sorry to hear this.
just remember that it is not your fault that they are jerks. be more mature than them and ignore them. they sound very miserable.
if u pay attn to them, u will become as miserable as them.
do well in school so u can move out and go to college. when u turn 18

Answer 10

O man, you are having tough times, report them for abuse, need friends hmm hmm, then contact me.