When and why do people know one day they want to be parents?

Answer 1

One day it just feels right! You start thinking of miniature versions of your self, What they'll look like. What you want to teach them things like that!!

Answer 2

It's a very personal, individual decision when anyone decides to have children. If they are truly planning their family, they may wait until they have a certain income, a particular secure job, or a house all their own. I personally knew the time was right after my husband and I were married a year and I was 30 yrs. old. We rented a 2-br duplex that was small, but it was more about the timing than our possessions. We both had steady jobs as well, but we knew I would stop working once the baby was born. It is definitely important to make sure you have the finances and resources to have a baby - but that can also include family support. My MIL was a huge help because of her emotional support and her keen bargain-shopping skills. Just know that it is a HUGE undertaking and shouldn't be entered into lightly. This person is going to be physically, emotionally and intellectually dependent on YOU for a minimum of 18 years!! Parenting is the single most difficult thing you will ever do. It isn't always possible, but if you can plan, make sure you are 100% ready to devote ALL of yourself to this person. That doesn't mean losing yourself as an individual, it just means that you have to realize that every decision you make will somehow affect that child's life. All of your ducks don't have to be in a row (as they say), but your full COMMITMENT is the one thing you simply must have. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think there is a when, you see that mostly on t.v. The ticking clock, that sort of thing. I think it is in you all along. Some do it for the wrong reason, they think they NEED some one to love. As for me, I thought I was never going to have children. Then I found out I was, my life changed forever, and I would never change one second of it. I don't want to have a miniature me, as others said, I want my little one to be everything I'm not, I want her to have more. Some of us do have an over whelming sense of love, and when nothing makes you feel whole, you know then, you want to give yourself so unselfishly to someone. Sounds almost like talking about a man, but unless you have children, you won't really understand. Has your mom ever told you, one day you will understand the love of a mother. Have you had any tell tell signs that you might want to have children? If so why? If not why. I'm sure the answers you get from those questions will answer your very own question.

Answer 4

That's different for each of us. Some of us know from so young they can't remember not wanting to have children. Others decide that when they are thinking of getting married. I have even heard of people who didn't know until the moment they held their new born in their arms. While you are thinking about this, take some marriage and family classes. They help with relationships and help you think about children, too.

Answer 5

At first my husband and I debated whether or not we wanted to have kids. We were involved in a terrible car accident where a child died, (not ours). The thought of having to suffer something similar scared us. We waited and waited and waited. But for some reason one day, after six years we both sort of felt ready. My cousin asked me why I decided to have a baby after waiting so long, I told her that my hands finally looked like "mama" hands. They looked too young before, but now after a few years of work and stress they looked like they could handle it. I was right! After nine months of trying, we finally got our wish ! He is now three years old and we are considering another one.

Answer 6

I think I always knew I wanted to be a parent.