my relationship with my boyfriend is boring, what should i do?

Question

my bf n i went to the same high school then we both moved and didnt c each other for about a year but we were still friends and we talked almost everyday online. Now we go out. I sometimes dont know if he likes me cuz it doesn't make sence if we live so far apart and instead of going with the girls at his school he picked me. We have bn going out for 3months now. the problem in the relationship is that he always likes talking about sex. i dont feel so comfortable with it because when he asks me if i'll do it, i just say yes to please him but when time comes i refuse to do it which always makes him mad at me cuz i lie to him. he doesn't have a car so i pick him up but wwe still have fun though. He talks about gurls that like him at his school all the time but i think its cuz he wants to test how much i luv him, to c if i get mad or not. we both haven't ever had sex b4 so we both virgins but he really wants to know how it feels so he says the relationship is boring since we dont do it

Answer 1

If you think the relationship is boring then get a new BF. If it was boring before sex it will be boring after sex. Thats like saying going to Six Flags will fix your relationship.

Answer 2

Ok, reality check. You are both very young so chances are you will not spend the rest of your lives together no matter what. You could and it would be great, but chances are probably not.
If you don't live near each other, you will break up soon, a year or 2 at the very most, wether you have sex with him or not.
If you love him very much and you want to sleep with him, do it. If not, don't. Do not have sex with him just to keep him. If the 2 of you are living far away then you will both be meeting other people and you will eventually break up anyway.

Answer 3

Ask yourself why are you still with him if he's so boring and sex doesnt fix a relationship and if you're doing it to spice up your relationship expect for it to decline further into boredom. 3 months is too short of time to be talking about sex and personally your relationship is boring because you're spending more time talking about sex instead of using the time to get to know each other in other areas besides the physical. How would you know you guys are right for each other sexually? Too many couples use sex as a way to fix problems or spicing things up when the real problem is effective communication and doing real things other than hitting the sack with each other.

Answer 4

Consider dropping him and finding another bf. Let him know that you will have sex when you are ready and not before. Try doing some other activities ( movies, amusment park, museum,etc ) to excite things. He seems to be playing a game ( stories about girls liking him ), and pressuring you. If he won't work on the relationship with you, then tell him it is best for both of you to move on. Good Luck.

Answer 5

If he says the relationship is boring just becuase you dont have sex i dont think he's a good boyfriend. (Not to be mean.) But it sort of sounds like he's just in it for the sex. Even if he's a virgin. You should tell him that you two should do something else thats fun. If you dont like sex tell him you just want to go out to places like parks and movies and stuff. Just swich it. Or you could maybe just kiss him when he says it then say you dont want sex though. :-P What ever you like. Lol.

Answer 6

your bf has an insecurity problem and is playing head games with u (about all the girls likin him its an attention getter) cuz he really wants you and uses that to brag himself up ...look tell him if he really loves and cares about u then when the time is right you will both know and then it will be wonderful for you both and tell him to stop playing his games (and he is not testing you on how much you love him...) if he cannot wait and says the relationship is boring since u dont do it then tell him to move on or sit his azz down and seriously have a talk with him if he truly cares he will wait you are not ready cuz if you were then the deed would already be done stand up for yourself and put him in his place...
good luck

Answer 7

if you don't want to have sex, then he should support you in that decision, and not be looking elsewhere. i think it's awesome that you're a virgin and that you have the guts to tell him no. if you really want to spice the relationship up, i don't think sex is the way to do it. that makes sex just another act...when sex is really a special thing that you want to give to your partner. and you should never have sex with someone just to make the other person happy! you have to want to do it too. and giving him sex just to spice the relationship up builds a relationship that's based on not a whole lot other than sex. and relationships based on sex don't last very long.

if you really want to do something special for him, take him out for a romantic dinner (or cook dinner yourself at home and have it at home with some candles and roses scattered around the room). or go out and do something fun with him - go bowling or even skydiving or something. hope this helps :)

Answer 8

If you fall into his trap...you are a disgrace to all women! Don't you see it?!? He is obviously pressuring you into having sex with him..even making subtle threats about you being "boring". I guarantee that if you give it up to him, you will regret it because sex doesn't make a relationship fun. You've been going out for 3 months and he's already pestering you about sex...

Love takes time, and with love comes sex; i don't think 3 months is enough time to establish if you're really in love with someone or not. You need to reevaluate your relationship if he is going to question you...in such a psychologially manipulative way.

Don't let someone pressure you to give up your innocence. Wait for someone you truly care about to share it with. This doesn't mean wait til your married, wait til you find someone who is worthwhile.

Answer 9

Its not your fault if the relationship is boring. You guys can do something else besides sex to make the relationship interesting. Sex should not be something forced on anybody to do. If you're not ready for sex, dont do it!

Answer 10

He wants to have sex.
You don't.
You are young. When you're 27 and still trying to figure out guys, will it really matter what happened to this relationship?

You need to decide whether you want to have sex now or not (you will have to make this decision in other relationships in your life).
If you decide not to have sex and stay in this relationship, you will have to hear his whining over and over and over. If the relationship is to "boring" for him without sex, maybe you should end his pain and not see him anymore. You have to make tough choices in life sometimes, get used to it. : )