confused.?

Question

about life.

i broke up with my bf friday....fine with it until now.
but when i really think about it i still love him deep down.

i THINK he still loves me becuz we were very close and its hard to throw away love juss like that.
but the thing is i dont want to actually b with him...
but i dont want hhim 2 b with anyone else....
ya know.
like i want him half way.

i no this is rong and stupid to most people.

but please i dont need your answers if they arent helpful

i dont want to hear to get over it. .and move on.....i am aware that that is the rite thing to do but i want to listen to my heart....but im not 100 percent sure what it is telling me to do...

so please if ur answer is not nice or encouragement....
dont leeve it.
im not askin this to get negativity...
im askin it for help.

i need people who hav exierienced the same thing im goin thruough to know how it works.

so please
expierienced people.....

help?

Answer 1

Don't go back to your ex if you really don't know how you feel about him. You say you don't want him but you don't want anyone else to have him either. That isn't a valid reason to be with someone. I think you should take some time away from him and think about what it is that you really want. Ask yourself this and i'm not trying to be mean or negative but if you found out that someone you loved was only with you so you couldn't be with anyone else, how do you think you'd feel. Don't you want to be with someone who truly loves you and don't you think that he deserves that same respect. We all go through these feelings but then we think rationally about it and end up moving forward on to bigger and better things.

Answer 2

if u broke up wit him there is def some reason y. loving someone half way is the worst because u feel attached but distant at the same time. because u feel unsatisfied with the break up, this might be the beginning of an off then on again relationship. just know that by staying attached to him, u are prob. in for a long process which can be somewhat shorter by just focusing on different people.

Answer 3

A situation like this happened to me when I was younger. I was going out with this girl for a while. We were the couple that would have to be split up at school functions because we were making out in the bleachers. As time when on, I knew that this was not the right relationship for me and I broke it off. After a weekend, we got back together, but it just was not the same, we had lost our vibe. It was only a week or two that she came to me and said that we could not go on like we were. The next day, she was dating another guy who happened to be the drummer that stood next to me in the drum like. pretty freaky.
In the end we stayed friends and then I met someone else that could trust and be with. The thing is to just focus on being you and getting your life on track.

Answer 4

I'm still going through what you're talking about & I know exactly what you mean. It's been 3 months since we broke up, & I still love him madly but can't be with him. What really helped was this, I said I wouldn't talk to him daily like I used to do (He was my Best friend for 6 years & my first love too!!!) I took a week as a break, then now when I can, I try not to talk to him like everyday. So it helped me feel I'd die if I didn't talk to him.
I don't think I'll ever be able to forget him, but maybe I'm learning how to live without him... You should try thinking the same! Don't tell yourself you need to forget him, 'cause that's smth you just can't do... but you can be strong & live without his love... Good Luck dear

Answer 5

make 2 lists, why u want 2 b with him and why u dont. if there is a single thing on the dont list you CANNOT tolerate then you need 2 move on. If you r also in your 20s then u really need to get over it and go out and have fun and explore youre self.

Answer 6

i broke up with my bf friday....fine with it until now.
but when i really think about it i still love him deep down.

You don't. That's your mind expressing fear and uncertainty.



i THINK he still loves me becuz we were very close and its hard to throw away love juss like that.

Actually it is. Don't presume to know what he's thinking, or you'll never get over it.




but the thing is i dont want to actually b with him...
but i dont want hhim 2 b with anyone else....
ya know.
like i want him half way.

You don't want him half-way, you just don't want him to move on. What you're asking is for him to be sufferring like you are, which isn't going to happen.




i no this is rong and stupid to most people.

Yes, it is.




but please i dont need your answers if they arent helpful

Here we go. . .



i dont want to hear to get over it. .and move on.....i am aware that that is the rite thing to do but i want to listen to my heart....but im not 100 percent sure what it is telling me to do...

It's telling you to move on and get something else to pour your emotion on. You just said that you know it's the right thing to do, SO DO IT!!!




so please if ur answer is not nice or encouragement....
dont leeve it.
im not askin this to get negativity...
im askin it for help.

Quick tip for future reference: if you want real help, don't tell people how to answer. If you are looking for people to tell you that 'your boyfriend is feeling exactly the same thing and you should try to get him back' - good luck.




i need people who hav exierienced the same thing im goin thruough to know how it works.

This is how it works. You break-up, you get over it, you move on.

Answer 7

It might be best to try being with someone else for a period of time.
It probably is better to see if something better is out there or if someone makes you happier.
If things don't go out, talk it through with him, and make the decision wether or not to get back together then.

I'd love to help more, but I don't know the details of the break up.

Answer 8

i know the feeling someone can tell you a million times to move on but everyone knows its not that easy. the best answer i can give you is to fully think about what you want and how truely feel about him only you know what you want you just have to do some looking deep down in your heart for that answer. good luck

Answer 9

Tater, you need a cold shower.

You ask more questions about this dead beat guy than we care to here.