i dont want my mum get hurt ,becuse my husband doesnt want to my brother stay in our house anymore
2007-03-24 18:20:02 · 8 answers · asked by marlene_legaspi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the word here is your house ,your rules kick him out its your right
2007-03-24 19:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by warr31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to your mom and your brother about this. Tell your mom that you and your brother are no longer young kids but mature and rational adults. Your mom has to understand that the house is not belonged to you alone as it also belongs to your husband too. As much and you love to have family around the house, your brother has to learn to contribute by getting a job and make himself useful around the house as a form of respect to to the host. Tell your mom there is never an intention to hurt her feelings but if you don't tell her this, it will put your marriage to a strain. I'm sure that is not what you mum wants to anticipate. Tell your husband that this is family and you will do your part to straighten things out with your family. After all the term marriage means to bring a closer bond between two families with the union of their children. This means your husband has to accept your family has his own. In fact, your husband can have a man to man talk to your brother and speak his mind. i'm sure that can knock some sense to him. Your brother will feel a little uneasy and perhaps it could help him realise too.
Good Luck
2007-03-25 01:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by shida2606 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should he stay or should he go, Well, your husband should understand since I dont know the entire story but the old saying go's blood is thicker then water if you know what that means if not then heres the answer family is family those people who are outside the family dont count you have a responsibility for family when they get knocked down off there feet thats why its called family when one person in your familys hurting then who comes to help "the family" thats the way it is..... If your husband don't want him there ask him why if his just sitting on his *** not helping around the house or out looking for a job then you tell him look we are family and I love ya but If you want to get yourself on your feet so you can get your own place then you4r have to pitch in do work around here to show that your going to be a help around here get a job help out with the extra bills that we have to feed you and all so he can save and pull out if not then talk it over with your mom she can give him the push thats needed
2007-03-25 02:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Keith M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your brother stay. He is family. Fortunes change for everyone. If someday your husband leaves you, where will you go? You know you love your brother. Take care of him. We all need to know that somebody cares. That is all really. Turning him away will only make you feel guilty.
Stop thinking about what others think. You will get nowhere fast that way. For instance, what your mum and husband thinks. What about you? What do you think? Seems like you are afraid to lose your husband. If you keep on doing everything for him you will get burned out. You can't please him forever. That is not fair to you. Take care of your brother.
2007-03-25 01:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by merriline b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our house? Your and your husband's house? Or are you all staying at your mom's house?
If it's your and your husband's house then don't worry what your mom thinks and do what the two of you feel is right. If you don't want him there lay down the law and kick him out.
If it's your mom's house you have no say in who she lets live there. If you want your own place you'll have to find it.
2007-03-25 10:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is old enough to work, lay down the laws tell him he has to pay the Gas & Electric and 150 to 200 a month in food tell him this is how it is going to be take him to the side and say "If you can not handel doing this, you can not stay here" sure he is your brother but tough love will make him a stronger person
2007-03-25 01:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mum is so worried let her take him in. Your husband has the right to tell him to go.
2007-03-25 01:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You loyalties are to your husband when it comes to yours and his home - your brother needs to leave. Since he is your brother, it is appropriate that you tell him.
2007-03-25 01:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋