I want to meet this girl, but my parents had major problems in their marriage when I was a child which makes me scared of dating (the purpose of dating is to become married). I know I should be over it by now, but I don't know if I have what it takes to be a good husband (I don't want to make her unhappy). Nevertheless, I'm still attracted to her, what should I do?
2007-03-24 18:15:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go for it. Dating doesn't always mean marrige in the beggining. Just tell her upfront how you feel. She'll be cool with it :D
2007-03-24 18:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are totally different people and their problems shouldn't be put on you. I think that you might have a better understanding on what a marriage is BECAUSE you lived in a house where your parents had problems. You know what problems can face a married couple.
My parents are divorced and both remarried and i feel i have a better understanding of what i want out of a relationship from what i saw my parents weren't getting the first time around. Seeing them have the same stupid fights made me understand that communication is KEY in a successful relationship. I understand that screaming does nothing but make a bad situation much worse and that if you have problems they need to be dealt with and not suppressed.
So my suggestion is don't hold yourself back from happiness just because your parents didn't have the perfect marriage. To be honest no relationship's perfect. It's just a matter of loving those imperfections and working with them. You should never deny your attraction to a girl just because there's a chance it may not work out. You'll go through a lot of girls before you find one that makes you happy. But when you find that one person that makes you a better person by just being around them. Then you'll know it was all worth it.
2007-03-25 01:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to marry her next week. Slow down, take your time. No-one is perfect! You probably are lacking in some areas, but I'm sure she is too. If you both can come to terms with that fact, you have more than many couple do after years and years of marriage! But like I said before, take it slow. By the way, have you talked to this girl about the way you feel. You never know, she could have the perfect answer, but you have to ask her before she can answer! Good Luck!
2007-03-25 01:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by sarahndipidy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love and being heartbroken are a part of life. it's a dichotomy, you don't know good without having known evil right? So I say go for it because it could turn into something beautiful, and even if you guys end up not being each others soul mates you will still have walked away with an important lesson. Remember the saying "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."? Yeah. It applies here.
2007-03-25 01:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by LuvUrGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your parents' problems dictate what you will do with your life! Go for it! Ask her out! The only advice I would give you is to get counseling, and/or read books about dating and marriage, so you can learn the right way to treat a woman and how to go about being a stand-up man....not because there is anything wrong with you....you just didn't have good role models. Good luck!
2007-03-25 01:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. I've been saying in my other post to people the same as this one: Let time take its course.
You know what you dont want to do. As long as you know that I think you could seriously be a good husband to her. But also think you havnt started dating her yet, and marrige has alot of training befor it. (Dont hate me for saying:) but you two will have bumps and honistly I think that there is a chance you'll break up. But if you two get through the bump in just a relationship, and your a good boyfriend then, Im sure you could get through them husband and wife and be a great husband then.
2007-03-25 01:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by ][Eric][ AKA Just a question][ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your parents had problems but that doesn't mean that it will happen to you. Just learn from their mistakes and yours. If your worried about you having what it takes to be a husband then work on the things that YOU think need work. Also ask her what would make her happy.
2007-03-25 01:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ellen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one the purpose of dating is NOT to get married. it is to find out the kind nof person you are . dating helps oyu decide the things you like and dont like about women. NO WOMAN IS PERFECT find one that you can TOLERATE. Then start a RELATIONSHIP which is what leads to marriage.
2007-03-25 01:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by nik573 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your way ahead of yourself..you want to meet this girl but talking about marriage right now, thats silly first meet the girl go out a few times and then take it from there.second your not your parents, that is their problem not yours they divorced not you..your life is different than theirs Good luck
2007-03-25 01:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont have to plan anything ahead of time..be friends with her..talk to her about everything..if u guys become good friends..trust me,she would understand.Dont run away from life...face it.I've seen a lot of beautiful marriages..look around u..u would fine many too.Be friends..go out with her..and then decide.Take it slow..good luck:)
2007-03-25 01:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋