Why is it hard for a man who does not want kids to be accepted?

Question

If a single man does not want kids by his personal choice, health condition or thru a vasectomy should he be praised for having good responsibility or being selfish ?

Nosy women should not try analyze or guess why or what factors or events lead the man to make that decision.

Answer 1

Most guys who have kids are wussies!! They succomb to pressure by society or their families or their women. Word!!!!

Answer 2

To be honest i think a single young man having a vasectomy is a lil selfish. Chances are down the line he's gonna meet a girl that he's serious with that wants kids. And to some woman being able to have children is a major factor when getting married. I'm not saying that he should want to have kids, but that he shouldn't close of the road that permanently.

Down the line you might fall in love, get married or whatever and wanna have kids and because you were young you got a vasectomy you can't now... it kinda sucks.

I'm all for not having a child until you both are ready to have a kid, but for now i think Condoms and the pill work just fine. I wouldn't go to any extremes until you're older and know for a fact that you're never having kids. I know i'd be pretty upset if i was getting married to a guy and found out that we would never be able to have children.

Answer 3

Most woman want kids someday.. you just have to find the one who is in the same mind frame as you. I have known a few woman that were against having kids, so they do exsist!

As far as responsibility/selfish... I think that you are being responsible by not making it some secrete that you don't want kids and/or having them when you don't really want them. I don't see it as selfish, you are just going to have a harder time finding a someone to be with, but praised? No... you don't get praised for wanting kids either... at least not me or anyone else I have ever known! It is a personal preferance... it is like asking to be praised for liking one kind of candy when others like a different kind.

Answer 4

I had a vasectomy at 21. I dislike children, and never plan to have them.

When I was younger, I thought nobody would date me, because of it. Well, that was not the case. Actually fewer women have issues with it than you think. Women over 35, that don’t want kids, outnumber men that don’t want kids by about 5 to 1.

Ok, true, when you are in your early 20’s short bald men, with bad hygiene might get more women than you will, but think about this. In a few years, they will be paying child support, and you won’t.

To be honest, I get more flack from other men, than I do from women. Many men try to label me gay, or say nasty stuff.

Ok, to answer your question, people will treat you like crap, and call you names because you are smart enough to think ahead, and they are not.

Answer 5

Who said it is hard for you to be accepted? Are there polls or statistics stating this fact? Why is a man w/choices,health issues and/or money to snip his johnson worried about what other people think? The only person you should be concerned about is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If that person does not respect your decision then you all want different things in life. And to have kids or to not have kids is not really a negotiable thing. Unless they are ok with adoption.

Answer 6

Simply put, its because most women have a natural instinct to mother and nurture. I don't consider you a selfish person for not wanting children, only a man who is dealing with the situation and thinking of his own future. Here's an idea, the next time you meet a person you would like to date, take them to a coffee shop and be very direct and honest in what you are looking for in a relationship. At the end of the evening give her your number and tell her to call you if it sounds like she might be interested in the same thing you are. If she calls, fine. If she doesn't, then its her loss. But I think it might just surprise you the reactions you will get.

Answer 7

No you shouldn't be praised, it's your choice to do so. But if you want to be accepted by a woman then you have to find one that feels like you & don't ever want children herself. Most women want children, it's thier nature to do so. I admit that there are some women that don't have the instinct or the want to be mommies, those are the ones you need to find so that you both agree. If you find someone that wants a baby then it isn't going to work. You have to be up front about it before you get to into each other cuz if she falls for you & then finds out you don't want children & she wants a family then your hurting her & neither of you will be happy.

Answer 8

I think you should be commended as if you don't see yourself wanting children this is a good way to ensure that it doesn't "accidentaly" happen and you are protecting your choice of lifestyle. Just be up front with the women you meet and tell them that you are unable to have children and that it is your preference. I believe men should be able to have a preference just like women, if you don't want kids that is your choice and congratulations for being responsible so that you aren't dealt an unwanted pregnancy and all the problems that come with it.

Answer 9

I believe that all children should be wanted children, so if a man chooses not to have them and has a vasectomy he should be praised for not bringing an unwanted child into the world. People should respect his personal choice, for whatever reasons he makes it.

Answer 10

I wouldn't say it is hard to accept a man who has made this choice for himself. The only thing you have to do is find a women who already has her children or doesn't want any at all. Women like to have that choice too. You made yours. Let the woman make hers.

Answer 11

You seem to be more worried about what other people think than being content with your decision. Women who have the same feelings as you are even more condemned by society. Just know yourself and what is best for you. Find someone who loves you for who you are and holds simular beliefs. And that's it. You will never please everybody. People will condemn anyone for any number of reasons.