why is it so difficult to be friends with your ex?

Answer 1

Because its hard to get over strong emotions. When they are not yours to love anymore all the feelings that you had for them tend to come out as other strong emotions, sometimes negative ones.

Answer 2

its hard because you know you lost. if your breakup was okay, like mutual, then talking should be easy but its not because you were so used to saying certain things to them and now you cant b/c it wouldn't be right or make sense. That difficulty of talking at first will soon fade and you'll be able to talk about anything as friends. and you'll already have an advantage with knowing the person if you two do manage to become friends b/c you were already in a relationship. but if it was a bad breakup, like your heart was getting crushed, then talking to them brings back all of the good and pleasant times that you had with them and you know you still want those moments to continue on w/ that person in your heart but you know logically that it cant happen b/c your no longer together. I have tried and succeed being friends w/ with almost all my exes but its difficult w the one that broke my heart b/c i still love him and i cant have back but friends is better than nothing

Answer 3

Because you will always see him as your ex. There are cases where exes remain friends, mostly because the relationship was never deep enough to ruin the friendship. Staying friends can be difficult because most of the time, one side is hurt and angry.

Answer 4

Its difficult to be friends with ur ex because, u have been with him and he prob did something to break ur trust or whatever but its hard because u cant look at him the same and things can never go back to normal.

Answer 5

Simply because you know what it takes to really tick the ex off! You know one another's flaws and take everything that is said or done personally. You constantly examine each tiny detail of your relationship and want to place blame. If you want to be friends, you have to let go of the past and a lot of people find that very hard to do.

Answer 6

Because you've had sex with them, and that makes it a weird situation. It's strange to be just friends with someone you have been that intimate with and just go on as if ordinary friends. You also know each other really well and it's so tempting to be cruel there's not that friend formality that keeps you safe from totally hurting each other. Anyhoo that's all I can say.

Answer 7

because you two have a romantic history together and it might be hard to confront that possible situation again when you guys are together as friends. it hurts to break up and a reminder of it probably hurts minorly as well. but it is definitely possible to keep a friendship in tact even after a breakup.

Answer 8

You'll hear alot of other responses but here's mine. I broke up with my ex and she refuses to speak to me. She's going to others and telling them bullshit stories about me and making me look like the bad guy. They believe her because they are idiots, lol. The truth of the matter is, they probably don't want to see you get with someone else. They don't want to see you happy. They don't want to be around when you do find true happiness. You will. Trust me.

Answer 9

Because there is no such a thing as friendship between a mature woman and a mature man. Extremely rare.

Answer 10

maybe it has something to do eith the fact that there was a reason why you guys broke up in the first place....but theres no law saying you can't be friends with your ex...im personally a friend with my ex