Someone I did not know passed earlier this week. However, I have known her son for 8 years and my husband has known him for 10 years. She lives out of state. I've been struggling with what to write in the card. Simply signing it does not seem enough. I picked out a very pretty card, but I feel like I should write something thoughtful.
Any suggestions?
2007-03-24 18:07:57 · 11 answers · asked by temaleth 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It doesn't matter whether you knew the deceased or not - you are sending sympathy to her son, and you do know her son. Be honest in your card. Say something like: We never met your mother, but she must have been a fine person to raise a son like you. We're sorry for your loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help.
You might think about giving a copy of the book "I'll love you forever" written by Robert Munsch - it's theoretically a children's book, but is so beautifully written that it is very meaningful for adults as well, and it touchingly describes the relationship between a mother and son.
Make sure you do something. Take a cake or a casserole. You didn't say whether he is married, has a family or lives on his own. But something from the kitchen is always an appropriate gesture.
2007-03-24 18:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people struggle with this all the time. When I was young and in my first house and next door neighbor's husband died at a VA hospital during a surgery. When I finally came to see her see was very blunt. "You were afraid to come over because you didn't know what to say", Yes, I replied. I'm sorry is all you needed, I missed you and all I need is company. I have always remembered that. If you can think of an experience that was funny or helpful to you, please include that in your card. it will be appreciated. Otherwise just say your condolences and let it go. I hope this helps.â¥
2007-03-25 01:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been on the receiving end of too many of these cards, I'd suggest "I'm very sorry for your loss.".
Don't include "She's in a better place.", "God has called her home.", or anything else of the sort unless you know the son is quite religious, in which case it could be appropriate.
2007-03-25 01:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cracea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes saying nothing but listening to what they say is the answer we have 2 ears and one mouth and that's not to be mean but a lot of times we need to give a hug tell them if they need us we'll be there and that's all because no matter how our words are form out our mouths it will not take that person pain away we are not GOD we can only be there for that person in there time of need even if it is a call to say how are you feeling and if you need a shoulder I am here for you.
2007-03-25 01:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are never the right words to say when a loved one passes away. I take it that the card is for the son and that it was his mother that passed away. Sorry for your lose and my thoughts are with you.
Love your friends__________
Just the fact that u are there for him will be a great comfort.
2007-03-25 01:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his place and in the situation of what happened to him and assume that someone knows you for 8 years; what would you have them tell you, offer you and help you with?
2007-03-25 01:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by stvenryn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to say is, "We are so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers." It is always a nice thing to give money to help with the funeral expenses.
2007-03-25 01:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by blaze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply write
We're sorry for your loss and wish you well in your time of grieving.
2007-03-25 01:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"depest reguards to your family during this difficult time of loss. we are here for you if you need anything at all. My family's prayers are with you."
2007-03-25 01:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by User Name 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dear ___________
i/we are terribly sorry for the loss of your_______
may he/she have a peaceful life up in heaven
our family is very shocked by their death we are very sorry and pray that you will soon be happy again
2007-03-25 01:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by melissa h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋