O.k. heres the deal, this woman and I dated for about a year and a half, I broke off the relationship with her for several reasons: 1. She lived with her ex-boyfriend, she said that nothing was going on with them but I never new where they stayed.
2. Her mom passed away and she was very depressed about it, so she wanted to spend more time with her family.
3. She barely kept her word on some of the slightest things ( i'm going to come over and would not show, or come extremely late )
Needless to say after a while I broke off the relationship, Now she's calling me again saying she loves me, no one has ever touched her the way I did, experienced the kind of bond we once had and STILL want to marry me.
Should I allow this woman back into my life or move on and let her meet someone else or am I being fed a bunch of B.S. again.
I do still love her and always will, but I don't know if I should take the chance again.
2007-03-24 18:02:43 · 15 answers · asked by ausaramenra2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say keep her at arms length untill your sure that what she is saying is the real deal not just crap all over again she really hasn't given you a reason for being in contact with you . talk to her and talk openly ask her how she feels about her mom's death and you must be able to trust her this time tell her that if things haven't changed then she is waisting her time talking to you and she should go find a guy that likes extra baggage.
Lay down the law with her do this on your terms ot her's coz really she doesn't deserve it
2007-03-24 18:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by kaceek21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to how you feel about this woman. Recollect the memories you spent with her during that year both good and bad. Also, for "reason #2", were you with her all that time she was grieving, were you supportive enough? If this is a reason that u broke up with her, it gave me a negative connotation to your part. I mean why would u leave her when she needs u, I mean her boyfriend when the event happened, the most?
If you decide to let her go, some of the consequence might be ... that she was actually serious about starting a life with you. Missed to give her the second chance , she might or might not deserve but (if you do) give it a shot anyway. [I must add, what have you got to lose]. BUUUT! Also, consider if you forgive her... " she cheats once, it's her fault... she cheats twice, it's ur fault" OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. I'm not a quote master here... but u get my point.
If you do want to get back with her some things you need to address and make clear to her... is... HAVE SHE CHANGED? Find out where they live OR is she still living with her ex? Give her a trial stage where you know ... meet her here, there or dating stage to see if she commits. If results show positive remarks then you'll know she deserves that chance.
I know kinda long. sorry your question is appealing. Hope this helps somehow.
RC
2007-03-25 01:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by RC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically when you end a relationship. i believe the bond that the two of you once had is broken. So im goin to tell you if you broke it off you broke it off for good reasons. i mean you said she was livin with her ex. Come on now lets be serious. She said nothing going. Ok dont be played for an idiot be smart. Dont go back to her
2007-03-25 01:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Champ: Mr. this is why i'm hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as her wanting to be with her family well I'm sorry thats understandable she has a loss nd she wants to spend time with her family members so I can't help you with that one she wa correct as far as everything else its appearnent you still have feelings for her and she still has them for you and if you can find yourself still loving her give it another go everyone deserves a second chance just try not to get in to deep until you know shes trustworthy again and tell her that you trust her but it would make you feel more comfortable if she didnt live with her ex and if you dont like it maybe you should open up your place to her and make her feel welcome and as far as her late issues some people are just like that if you know shes going to be late giver her a time earlier that what you mean and then she will be on time.
Hope I helped,
Brianna
2007-03-25 01:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not a good idea she needs to move on with her life and you need to start meeting other women and stop messing around with the ex if you know she's got problems and issues. She's feeding you a load of crap and you're better off leaving her in the ex department.
2007-03-25 01:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like she has a lot on her plate, and she cant keep her thoughts straight. If i were you i would probably leave her alone. Also seeing that she lied to you and there's a lot of things you did not know about her think about your future, think about the things she could be doing if you get married. Get a woman that's trust worthy and one that does not have alto on her plate. TAKE MY WORDS ON THIS.
2007-03-25 01:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by baliey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, you need to let this one go, there a good reason
that ex are that. if things did not work the first time change
that it will not work out this time. and think about it if she
was so in love with you then why so long to get back in
touch with you. there might be more reason then she
giving.
2007-03-25 01:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....let's see, she lives with her Ex?? (your kidding right????) She's depressed and she doesn't keep her word......HHHHmmmmm,,,,,,and this is a serious question for you why?? What has changed regarding your reasons for leaving her?? It's nice that she feels your all that...... but you deserve someone who gives back as much as they take. So you want to know if you should move on?? I say.....RUN!!
2007-03-25 01:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and you want her back and you think that she might be worth it, then take her back. let her know about the things that bothered you and ask her to make an effort or it just wont work
2007-03-25 01:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by Youll See 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, if it didn't work once what are the chances it will this time?
2007-03-25 01:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Justsellout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋