Ok I'm a man and I've been with the same woman for 5 yrs. She's a great woman and we have a baby together! She stayed with me even after I cheated on her! We've been engaged for a while and we even have a baby girl together. She quit her job and takes care of my 8yr old son from my first marrage and our daughter. I live in the trailer she bought before she met me and drive her car to work because my credit is so bad i can't afford one so she has no way to go anywhere. She's wanting to get married but i'm not ready and I migh lose her! what should I do?
2007-03-24 18:02:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
give her a break and get out of her life.
she deserves better.
have a nice day.
2007-03-24 18:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by sharrron 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of losing her or the material possessions you have come to know at the moment? If you are not ready to get married now there might be some deeper issues if its not the material stuff your worried about. Such as not being able to pay child support or maybe since you have cheated in the past you may not really want to be with this women in the first place. You might not have that strong of a bond with her but feel obligated to stay since you have a child together, or you don't want to lose the security of the things you have at the moment (in other words it sounds like you are using her). But I am not saying you are. I would have to say considering your possibility's just go with what your heart tells you to do not your head. Either way it will save you and your woman all the heartbreak in the future.
2007-03-24 18:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by QTforlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should grow the F@ck up. You already have a family. What are you afriad of losing? You should already have the commitment to them and you are afraid to legally and financially commit through marriage. You are afraid that if you get married there are things in life that you will never get to go do. What you don't realize is that the reason you have not yet done those things is your own fault and have nothing to do with wether or not you are married. Grow up and take responsibility for your self, your life, your happiness, and your family. It sounds to me like you missed out on having someone around to teach you how to live well when you were growing up. Life should be a daring adventure, yours is a continous slinking away from responsibilty because you want to keep every option open for your whole life. You should seriously read a lot of books and articles on what decisions are and how they can affect your life, the power of decisions, etc. Everything from Tony Robbins to the stories of how Viking invaders used to land on a foriegn shore and burn thier ships before they attacked to they had to win or die because they had no way to retreat. You are missing out on so much of what life has to offer and what you don't realize is that so many people who see you everyday can tell from a mile off that you are the kind of person who does this before you even look at them or speak a word.
2007-03-24 18:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that she is putting up with a lot. Why don't you want to marry a woman who is supporting you on so many levels? You're practically already married. You reside together and share a child. I guess the only real way to answer this questions is to say you have to decide if a piece of paper is a really good reason to break up a happy home.
2007-03-24 18:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by baby_gurl_in_cali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your own words this woman has been more then good and tolerant of you. She is even willing to accept and care for a child from a previous relationship. Her place her car her time..She wants to marry you only God knows why. Because sincerely I don't think you are a good catch. They say love is blind that must be her reason. Now has for you I really don't think you care for her. If you did you would be willing to marry her. Also you wouldn't use what she feels for you in order to take advantage. I say be strait with her, but your not going to do that. Because she is your sugar mama.
2007-03-24 18:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so let me get this straight, you live in a trailer park, in a trailer that is HERS, you drive a car that is HERS, you cheated on her, and, you have a kid with her and wont marry her... right? WOW sounds to me like she needs to jump in HER car, leave the trailer park behind, and go find a REAL man! You could always drive your house to work, it does have wheels, right?? What a loser! Get a life.
2007-03-24 18:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by laura D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respectfully, why aren't you ready to get married? You are essentially playing house and have been together for a long time. Is there something in particular that makes you "not ready"?
2007-03-24 18:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by angelajunkins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds great. You were ready enough to have a baby you should be ready enough to put a ring on your finger.
2007-03-24 18:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by PJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a joke? what does everything you just told us have to do w/ you not being ready to get married. i'm confused.
2007-03-24 18:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by oxleahxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you serious, grow the **** up and get a life i feel so sorry for this woman. she has given you everythign she has, and you cant even return the favour
2007-03-24 18:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by tiffy8813 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋