I never get how people hook up at clubs. Sometimes an attractive girl would dance in front of me seductively for a while, usually with her back to me and kinda coming close, what should happen then? do I dare dancing and touching her? do I keep dancing without touching her until she takes the next move? do I talk with her? what the hell do I say anyway? whenever i feel like getting close or touching, i feel like a jerk harassing a woman who didnt explicitly ask for it. yet then I see everyone around me kissing and making out.
A couple of times there was a girl dancing in front of me who appeared to have "reversed" while dancing, and assuming she expects contact, i kept dfancing with my hand on her back/around her. yet it was accepted badly and she walked away. I dont wanna be that jerk in clubs girls always tell stories of! help!
2007-03-24 18:00:59 · 6 answers · asked by Karni V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's a test. The hand grab test.
She might be toying with you to boost her self esteem.
All you need to do is say hi. then You got good moves. then it's too loud here, can we go over there and talk?
If you just reach out the hand, she's only gonna respond if she's really into you. If you are not joe stud, it's a test or a tease.
Also you seem to lack confidence. All it is is a girl dancing.
Wait for the song to end, and say to her, "Hi, I am (your name.) I like the way you look when you are dancing.
I'm going to get a drink, what do you want?"
If she gives you a drink name, buy it, then meet her and talk. If she says, nothing for me, thanks, move on.
Throughout the whole thing, keep telling yourself, this is no big deal there are almost 3 billion women on the planet. Do not act like you care, do not act eager, it comes off as desperate, unless you are one of these guys that is so naturally funny, women eat out of his hand, in that case, go with that.
If and when you get with her, do not talk about the weather, politics, or such. Ask questions that do not have a yes or no answer.
Be interesting, ask interesting questions.
If you are tame, ask things like: What's your solution to global warming?
If you are bold, Ask things like: I like to learn people's stories.
What's your most favorite memory?
If you got brass cojones, Ask are you here with anyone? No? okay let's get out of here. << usually you got to warm upa little with this.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 18:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always go to club to dance and listen to the band..and dancing like that way is normal..but we sometimes dont want to be touch.just a sexy dance to feel the moment in club..but why dont u ask her to dance with you...you have to take the move...because girl (me) will never takes a move to bring guy to dance with me..be charm..all the best..=)
2007-03-24 18:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by cristina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here it is: Act like you own the club...ladies love "the man". Tell her to meet you at the bar and then buy a drink for her.
2007-03-24 18:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by arlamothe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do! Woman want men not fruit loops.Make your move and if she goes for it your in ,if not then oh well move on she was just being a tease.PLEASE DON'T think like a chick it won't get you layed.
2007-03-24 18:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by JENNIFER C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well booze has a good way of screwing with a mans head ,you think she wants you but really she is laughing at the way you dance !!
eye contact is a good place to start my friend !!!
2007-03-24 18:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by nuflicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them...No cute "pick-up" lines...
2007-03-24 18:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋