Do you think this is rude?

Question

I work for an elderly lady in her home and the grandaughter lives there with her sometimes me and the lady like to watch tv together. and the grandaughter likes to come in and dance all in front of us i told her i didnt want to see that and she said its her house and she can do what she wants to do. was i rude, im much older than her and i felt disrespected was i wrong or was she wrong?

Answer 1

Well, it's rude to dance in front of the tv when people are watching it regardless of who lives there, but I think you could've put it differently too.

If you say 'I don't want to see that' she can easily be offended because you don't want to see her dance at all, anywhere. Try saying 'could you let us watch this program', and perhaps you could give her some attention afterwards and offer to watch her dance? I don't know how old she is, she sounds very young and desperate for attention... she should learn some manners but children also deserve to get some attention from visitors, that's courteous too, not to ignore them and make them go to their room all the time that you're there.

Answer 2

Let us change the senario slightly

You are an employee on an assembly line, the line goes down for a few minutes and the president of the company comes along and chit chats with you while you are waiting for the line to start up again, a supervisor from another area of the factory comes over with some blueprints in their hand and says "can I show you something?", not specifying who he is speaking to. If you responded and told the supervisor to leave you are not interested in what he has to say, you could be fired for being insubordinate, as you have no right to talk to the supervisor that way especially since the talk about the blueprint did not obviously have anything to do with you. and as an employee you was no right to interfere with company business.


You are an employee of the grandmother, when the granddaughter asked to show a dance, the question was not directed at you, it was directed to the grandmother, it was the grandmothers place to say no or to ask her to please move from infront of the TV, her grandaughter is a member of her household, you are not, as her employee you were not hired to discipline or correct her granddaughter, so therefore as an employee you were totally out on line and therefore the one being disrespectful. You spoke out because you were annoyed at the interruption of the TV show, the grandmother allows you to watch tv as a priviledge of her employee not a right. Yes the granddaughter was rude but you made and even more serious faux pas by not holding your tongue

You may not agree personally with my answer, but I am an older employee were I am employed as an assembly line worker there are a lot of supervisors there that are my sons age and younger and yes some of them are rude/ and ill mannered, but I definitely know better as an employee not to try to reprimand them for interrupting during company paid time if I was socializing with my direct superior at the time, because if I did you like you did, the supervisor I spoke back to could file a complaint and my direct supervisor would be forced to agree and I would then end up facing some form of disciplinary and likely ordered to apologize.

Even if you were not an employee and were there as an "invited" guest, it would still be wrong of you to correct her granddaughter as that is not your place to being doing so, that is her grandmothers responsibility, your being older has no bearing in the matter

Answer 3

I would rather say that not everyone is wrong..

First of all, she should not have spoken to you rudely. She should learn to be more hostile.

Second of all, maybe you should have tried a different approach and tell it to her indirectly.

I have a feeling that the girl felt offended by ur comment that you do not want to see her dance. So she actually responded to that by being rude. This way she would cover up her embarassment. Dont feel bad about it. Maybe she really didnt mean it!

Answer 4

What did her grandmother think of her dancing in front of the tv. Even though the granddaughter was being silly and a bit disrespectful I wouldn't have said what you said in that manner. Your response just stirred her up and of course she would have reacted like that.

Answer 5

Sounds like someone is vying for her grandma's attention, and dancing in front of the TV while you and grandma are watching is definitely inappropriate and disrespectful, not to mention immature.

Answer 6

Mike Hunt. I used to artwork for a employer the place between the sales reps got here in very almost wetting himself with laughter. He have been to be sure a shopper, a Mr M Hunt yet he did no longer recognize what his first call became. The receptionist on the place of work greeted our rep and then began to attempt to hint down Mr Hunt. It became in ordinary terms while she referred to as to a colleague "has everyone considered Mike Hunt?" that our rep lost it thoroughly!

Answer 7

it is not her house, it is her grandmothers house. unless she rents a room from the grandmother, and if she does then she is allowed to dance that way in the room she rents, then it is the grandmothers room. that being said, it is the grandmothers call as to whether or not that type of dancing will be tollerated under her roof.

Answer 8

Well maybe you said it with an attitude. It might have been in the delivery. Maybe you should have asked her to move. She does live there.

Answer 9

So damn rude, youre 100% wrong buddy, You should call Chuck Norris

Answer 10

She needs a stern talking to. The only way to get respect, is to act respectable.