My boyfriend of 7+ years and I have different opinions of what makes a relationship work, what each person has to bring to the table to feed the relationship, going out, etc., etc. He never wants to go out. As a matter of fact he prefers to lie in bed, watching TV anytime he's not working. He doesn't help out around he house, he doesn't help pay bills, he starts an argument whenever I mention going out (with him or with my girlfriends). I had new furniture delivered 3 weeks ago, the old furniture is still still crowding the room because he is too lazy to help me dump it (not do it himself, but help me). Whenever I go out with friends he accuse me of seeing "him" (whoever in the hell "him" is). I've never cheated, but he has. We're trying to work things out, but his constant false accusations and unwillingness to compromise are causing me to want out of the relationship. I've tried talking to him to let him know what I am feeling, but we always end up arguing. Any suggestions?
2007-03-24 17:37:25 · 11 answers · asked by T-Dub 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the idea of dating is to find out if you are compatible with someone-- why would you stay with someone for 7+ years when you have so little in common. Sounds like you have been comfortable for a long time and are afraid to venture out incase someone else is worse.
It likely can't get much worse than what you have, unless you find someone who is physically abusive.
For goodness sakes- don't have kids with this guy- get out.... run!
2007-03-24 17:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by pastrbuzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he just won't budge on anything, and a relationship without compromise will eventually run out of steam. He doesn't seem to have any sense of responsibility either. No wonder you're getting sick of it. You're carrying the burden for the bills, house, and the relationship too, all by yourself. I really think this guy is sapping the life out of you, and the best thing to do is go. It seems like you've tried to make it work, but if he won't work with you, there's not much you can do. Hope this helps, Penny xx
2007-03-24 17:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve BETTER! Listen to the song "Hit the Road, Jack". He doesn't love you he's just using you because you tolerate him. It's tough at first, but you need to be secure enough to be alone, on your own and find someone who has the strength of character to not be a lazy a** and will treat you right! His insecurity is his problem, not yours, and probably the best thing you could do for him is to dump him because then he will have to start climbing out of his rut and DO something with his life... or else find another co-dependent victim to parasite off of. You don't need him, GF! I know you can get through this heartache and move on to BETTER things.
2007-03-24 17:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Helen the Hellion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a loser. Now before dump him tell him, then if he does not change move on. Life is to short to live with a selfish person, but on the other hand seek counseling yourself so when you go looking for another guy yo don't pick the same loser. It is normal for you to be attracted to this same type of person without knowing it. Your picker is broke, so wait before you jump into a relationship again. I hope you don't have kids that would be a mess.
2007-03-24 17:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship ( long distance) for 3 years. My BF and I share some of the things you and your bf have as far as the arguing and going out.Let me tell you something, people dont change and sometimes you have to agree to disagree. 7 years ? are you guys going to get married ? I decided to get out myself, the relationship was killing me and was adding no value to my life. Look at your life, and see how the relationship is affecting it. My first thought is dump him, but its been 7 yrs and it is hard.If you stay, remember that he is never going to change.
2007-03-24 17:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, talk to him about it. if he is still being like that, then get the heck out of there. don't waste you're time thinking you can change someone. if its been 7 years of this, why would it change now?
2007-03-24 17:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a very good suggestion time to KICK THIS SORRY NO GOOD MAN TO THE CURB LIKE YESTERDAY. YOU HAVE
WASTED 7 YEARS WITH THIS LOOSER, TIME TO FIND
YOU A HERO, HE NOT THE ONE. THAT HOW YOU DEAL
WITH IT. TIME TO CUT HIM LOOSE, YOU KNOW THAT YOU
DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER
2007-03-24 17:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya dont! You kick his butt to the ends of the earth!
2007-03-24 17:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this what you want for you? No? But first look at yourself too.
2007-03-24 17:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his a$s
2007-03-24 17:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋