My friends seem to think there is this "perfect" guy for me... and apparently he's been right under my nose for the longest time now. I just don't think he's my type, but they say he's perfect for me... how can i tell if he is really the one for me?
2007-03-24 17:16:13 · 14 answers · asked by pinkyfritz20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the chemistry just ain't there for you then your friend is wrong. But I think chemistry can grow, try just being friends and get to know the guy before you decide. Get to know yourself, too, figure out why you are attracted to certain guys but not others. Is it a "bad boys are hot / nice guys are not" thing? If that's the case you're in for a screamin' ride on life's roller coaster. If you're more into security and sanity then go for the nice guys who would most certainly make you happier in the long run.
There is not "someone for everyone", there are probably thousands of potential 'soulmates' for most everyone. Like Chandler and Monica (Friends) saiid once, "Just find one and stick to 'em."
2007-03-24 17:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Helen the Hellion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a test, there is no test to tell if someone is perfect for you. No relationship is perfect ... they all take work after the newness is gone. How about 'forgetting your type' and giving him a change, then you'll know. Maybe you'll find that he's a great guy ... Then again, maybe you will find he is a great guy, but just not for you. Just because your friends think something, doesn't mean the guy will have interest in you. Prepare your heart either way and go for it.
2007-03-25 00:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well instead saying you don't feel it and taking the easy way out..give him a chance. Your friends might not be wrong about him. You might just need to see how good he is for you in order to realize what you have been missing. Agree to go on 1 or 2 dates with him to see if you hit off with him.. if there are no sparks tell him so..being honest is less hurtful then stringing someone along with mind games.
2007-03-25 00:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one else can tell you that someone is perfect for "you". That is up to you and the man. Yes supposedly there is someone for everyone out there and some find them and some don't. But you can be happy with a man if you are yourself and don't put so much pressure on either of you. Get to know him slowly, in time you will both know. Don't date anyone with the idea of finding the one to marry, just date, have fun and if it is meant to happen, it will, believe me. They say God sends the people to us in our lives that he wants us to meet, but it is up to us if we keep them or not.
2007-03-25 00:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know and when you are not expecting it you will meet him. As for this guy maybe your friend thinks he perfect but if you do not then no. What about just going on a date with him and see if you have anything in common.
2007-03-25 00:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont look into it so much go out have fun dont think about whos perfect for you because theres noway of knowing it could be a bestfriend you have known for years it could be anyone, its always good to just forget about perfection for a min and just think am I having a good time when im around him/her? Do I enjoy spending time with them? just ask yourself questions because in the long run your the only one thats going to know these answers just try to experenice going places and doing things and having fun with them before you worry about whos perfect because that cuts out 99% of the experience.
2007-03-25 00:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Archangel Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try a dat with him and find out. He probebly thinks that he will never find the right girl just like you and the right boy.
This is the same problem that I have but I have no friends that tell me anything.
I do not know any single girls at all.
2007-03-25 00:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel it, then he is not perfect for you. It is quite simple. Don't settle for someone your friends think you should be with. Wait until you feel the magic.
Sounds like you are trying too hard. Relax and enjoy this time of choice.
2007-03-25 00:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
There is no "magic" person or formula, nor is there only one person who exists who can ever make you happy. "Real" love is a verb, not just a feeling, and it's a lot of hard work, a lot of giving, and a lot of committment. I agree you have to find someone compatible and someone you have a chemistry with it will make it more difficult. But a relationship is what you make it, sweetie. Best of luck.
2007-03-25 00:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by angelajunkins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself the following questions.
Do I have fun with him everytime we go out?
Is he there for me for the good and bad?
Do I feel some weird things for him at times?
If you've answered yes to all questions then take the chance.
2007-03-25 00:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋