I have been on and off with my boyfriend for 4 years. We do good for a couple months and then something always happens and we brake up, usually I get mad at him and brake up with him. This time he made plans with me to watch a movie. I called him when we said we were going to get together and he said, "I'm at my buddies house and I'm going to be here all night." I don't care that he hangs out with his friends but he did make plans with me just the night before. I said that, "You were the one who said that we were going to watch that movie tonight," then i hung up on him. He called back ten minutes later but I didn't answer. We haven't spoke since. I still love and miss him a lot, but when we are together he uses me for rides places (because he doesn't have a car) and to buy him meals. He doesn't respect me enough to keep our plans. Now all I do is lay in bed all day and force myself to go to work.
2007-03-24 17:11:51 · 27 answers · asked by juniper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is there to love about this guy exactly? You know he is using you for rides and buying him meals, so why bother. No man worth anything would use a woman and make her buy him food. He is cheap, inconsiderate and you deserve more but if you take him back, don't complain about him using you, you deserve it. You need to have more self worth.
2007-03-24 17:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still miss him because thats the way it has been for four long years. The fact that you do not have him by your side shakes you up a little and things are just not how it used to be.
Not keeping his words, living off you and not being a caring boyfriend should make you see where this relationship is heading. Have you spoken to him about the problems you have with his attitude before?
I believe that having your own time for your friends is also as important as having each other. Drop the movie thingy, and see this from a different perspective. Do you spend all your time with him alone? Or do you have your own buddy time?
I think it is best if you can talk this over with him. And come up with a closure. Either break up or make up. It's all up to you to weigh all the good things you see in this guy, it'll help you decide whether you should hang on to this.
2007-03-24 17:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie Janiero 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years is a long time together and once again it takes a long time to get past the break up. If he does not respect you enough to keep plans with you then you deserve better. It will take time to get past the bad feelings but just keep yourself moving don't let yourself fall into a rut of laying in bed and feeling sorry for yourself.
2007-03-24 17:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you two like fighting, and that is not a healthy relationship. You have been with him for four years, so of course you are going to have deep feelings for him. But, if you two are fighting over petty things, just imagine how you are going to fight over major issues one day! Also, why doesn't he drive or have money? You need a man that treats you right and can take you out to dinner. It may be hard now, but when you find the right someone you'll forget about him.
2007-03-24 17:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into check with yourself and dig deep down and find out who and WHAT you really are. Maybe you have low self esteem, or maybe you just being played and you think that makes you feel better. I think you need to go to work where ever that is and keep your job instead of laying around. Jobs are hard to come by now days, but guys are a dime a dozen. Go on with your life !!
2007-03-24 17:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by KlitLicker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two words - side chick. You are either it or he has one. You are being played and need to run away from him. It hurts I know it does, but why keep putting up with the same nonsense? He's getting everything he wants from you and you are getting nothing in return but dingaling. You can get that from any store and have less complication and frustration in life. If you don't feel you deserve someone that is willing to be dedicated to you than neither will any man. Remember that.
2007-03-24 17:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is" why don't you love yourself enough to stay away from someone who treats you bad and find someone who will be good to you? I've always said " You can do bad by yourself you dont need help." He shoulds like a loser, that makes you a loser for loving him SORRY
move on to someone better or just better yourself
2007-03-24 17:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Vikki M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen i was in almost the same situation 10 months ago.....we were together for a lil less then 3 years on n off like u n ur man..... he used to break plans and promises and sometimes he wouldnt even tell me, id be waiting for him to not show up, he always asked me for money and i was stupid enough to give it to him.....let me tell you something he was cheating on me the whole time....your man isnt at his boys houses hes probably out with another female....my advice to you is get away while you can find a boy who deserves you and wont use you ....good luck
2007-03-24 17:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something a teen would be going through. You need to move on and find someone who is ready and willing to have an adult relationship with. You want him back because after 4 long years he has become a habit. Break the habit!
2007-03-24 17:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take any of his calls no matter what, you are right, he is just a user and a loser. Find something else to occupy your time. Get out of the house and do some things to take your mind off of him though. Good Luck to You!!!
2007-03-24 17:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋