Like I said, I'm only 14, and I live in a different state then the bride, but I'm maid of honor for my friend's wedding and I'm really confused. I've looked up all the maid of honor duties and I can't do half of them, because I live in a different state. I really don't know what to do.....
I'm supposed to make a speech, but I've only seen the groom while he was passing through while we were visiting. I don't know what I'm supposed to put in the toast or speech.
Also, am I supposed to make a toast at the rehearsal dinner? What am I supposed to put in that?
I'm really nervous because I feel like a bad maid of honor and I don't want to let the bride down, because she's always been there for me.....
Can someone please give me advice?
2007-03-24 17:10:23 · 14 answers · asked by IHS Colorguard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sure your friend knew where you live when she asked you to be her maid of honor, and she asked because you are her dearest friend and she wants you right there by her side. Talk to her about what she expects, and be honest if it is not something you can do.
As far as the toast goes, you don't need to say anything too personal. (I've heard too many of these toasts get down-right embarrassing for the couple.) You can say you friend is really special to you and you're glad she found someone special too, and wish them all the best, etc.
2007-03-24 18:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Elsie Emmess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that your Bride knows that you can't possibly be responsible for all the traditional responsibilities of a Maid of Honor, but I'd still recommend talking to her. Just let her know that you're a little unclear as to what you should be doing. Also, I'd recommend you talk to her other bridesmaids. Find out if they live closer to her, if they are older, and if they are willing to help with the traditional Maid of Honor duties since you can't. Chances are these girls will be more than willing to help with anything they can.
But just so you know, my Maid of Honor lives 4 hours away from me, and i know she can't do most things. The main thing that i really need her for is my own sanity. She's my best friend and she's the one that i call when I'm stressed over wedding stuff. She's also the one that's helped me make decisions, bridesmaid dresses, invitations, everything, and now that can all be done online. So it' will be easier for you.
As for the speech, it doesn't have to be all about the groom. Just say how much the bride means to you (tell a lil story about your friendship if you want) and how as long as you've known her you've never seen her happier than when she's with her husband. That you couldn't have picked a better man for your best friend. Just don't worry. You'll do fine. Just relax!
2007-03-24 17:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A maid of honor shouldnt be 14...there are too many responsibilities... that being said, your mom and the other girls in the wedding party should be handling the responsibilities that you cannot. You do need to attend the pre-wedding events.....like showers, rehearsal party, etc. As for a toast, you shouldn't have to make any of those. If they decide they want you to make a speech at the wedding (have one writting in your pocket in case).... all you need to do is say how you know/related to the bride, why she is special and how excited you are to be a part of the big day with June and Ed. Then you smile and hug them both and sit back down...its simple really. No one will expect more because you are 14. Hope this helps.
2007-03-24 18:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is why I'm no longer keen on lengthy distance MOH's, however it is also whatever you will have requested earlier than accepting. The MOH is mostly accountable for organizing the bathe and a bachelorette, after which kind of being the move-to lady if the bride demands it. Your buddy can have different strategies for those parties, and she or he, too, must had been extra particular. She won't even wish those parties. I do not blame you for no longer short of to fly from side to side, however till you speak to her, you do not know if that is even anticipated. So I'd deliver her a choice and kind all of it out. If she does have the conventional expectancies of you, then I see no motive why you cannot endorse any person in the neighborhood to be MOH. It's additionally soliciting for drama if you're MOH in identify most effective, and any person else is doing the roles of a MOH, however that is at the bride to fear approximately!
2016-09-05 14:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she expects you to do. My guess is that if you are so young and live in another state, all you have to do is buy the dress and show up for the ceremony.
If she wants you to give a speech/toast, remember KISS - Keep It Short and Sweet. Say a little something about what a great person she is, and how happy it makes you to see her happy with her new husband. Keep it under 3 minutes unless you are an accomplished public speaker, because most people will get bored with long speeches.
The most important duty is moral support, and if you are her friend then you probably do that already!
2007-03-24 22:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by jellybeanchick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is the bride??? Unless she's not that much older than you - she doesn't expect you to do most of the traditional Maid of Honor things.. or she would have picked someone older. She can't possibly expect you to throw a bachlorette party for example, or to help her pick things out - she knows you don't live there with her.
You just need to wear the dress she picks for you ,stand up there with her, be there for her on the day, and try and give a speech if asked.
Ask HER what your duties are!!!
2007-03-24 17:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 answers for this predicament - firstly, if you really think that you will be unable to be a maid of honor, you can always decline. You can be maid of honor by proxy, which means in name only, but have someone else act on your behalf. Is it a problem to just be a bridemaid? Then you can still be part of the wedding, but not have all the responsibilities that the maid of honor has. Good Luck!
2007-04-01 05:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down hon.
I would talk to the bride to find out what she wants you to do.
NOT all brides expect the Maid of Honor to do all that wedding books expect you to do :)
For instance, all I want my MOH to do is make sure we all eat, and be there beside me at the wedding ceremony. She doesn't have to plan a bridal shower, or a bachelorette party, or make a speech, or whatever those books say the MOH does.
2007-03-25 02:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the others have said.. I'm sure the bride doesn't expect you to do much more than show up and look pretty! It's really not usual to have a 14 year old maid of honour... does she also have a matron of honour? That would make sense to me.. at 14 most girls would be a junior bridemaid :)
I'm sure she asked you because she loves you.. not to place a burden on you.
2007-03-29 21:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I'm sure the bride realizes that you wont be able to do alot of the things a bridesmaid traditionally does. Ask her what she expects you to do. Dont stress. I'm sure the bride doesnt expect you to throw her a bridal shower or bachelorette party. She may want to you to give a toast. You never know. Just talk to her. Call her and ask her what she is going to want you to do.
2007-03-27 14:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋