Theres this guy i have been hooking up with for a few months or whatever, but he hasn't asked me out, how do i know if i should keep hooking up with him and just hoping he'll ask me to be his girlfriend, or am i totally wasting my time?
2007-03-24 16:37:05 · 13 answers · asked by dirtyblondxo4lyf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a really good question. Relationships should evolve. If they don't, then it is because someone doesn't want them to. If a guy either doesn't want to make a commitment or is afraid of one he will prefer to remain in the honeymoon phase indefinitely.
Give it a time limit. I'd say another month or two at the most. If nothing has changed by then, let him know that you'd like to know where things stand with him. If he's evasive, I think you'll have your answer and it will be your choice about just how long you want to continue to 'hook up' with him, because that may be all you're going to get ...
2007-03-24 16:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you two met each other, how you spend your time together, and how you interact with each other. Does he give you butterflies do you give him butterflies? Make sure you meet his parents the special ones in his life before you give anything special away because if he really likes you and you guys are "hooking up" all the time and you haven't met his people, then your not the one he really wants. In a different situation, maybe he' s not sure if you like him, maybe he's intimidated by you, maybe he's shy. Everything depends on how well you know each other. Give him an ultimatum.....If he doesn't ask you to commit in a relationship with you and you think it's about time and your doing girlfriend things with him.....then you should leave and find someone else. Keep it real and just ask him about labeling your relationship. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-24 16:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by cyee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, if you were after a relationship. you shouldn't have been giving up the goods. Since you've been at it hot and heavy for a few months, chances are this guy sees you as a booty call; a very important person in his life, but not wife material. But, as happens to every woman, sometimes YOU are the one after the sex, and you catch feelings. This can be dangerous. You let him into your world commitment-free, and he's taking full advantage, and how can you blame him? Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious. One way they do that is by laying claim to it. They actually want to say "I'm your boyfriend" or "I'd like to be your boyfriend" .. if he's not dropping any hints that he wants 'something more', you're probably out of luck.
2007-03-24 16:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by PrettyCurlieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true relationship into something serious can't be based on just a one person frame of mind.It has to work for the both of you or it won't work at all.First off,you should communicate with this person about how you feel about him and find out if he feels the same about you.Or this person might not either feel like getting serious with someone right now at this point in his life.Either way,you will never find out unless the two of you discuss all of your problems or lives of being together amongst yourselves.I know it may sound old,but talking and finding out about each other does really work at times.And then you can decide later for yourself if your time is being wasted or not.
2007-03-24 17:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by gravedigger2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happy with the hooking up part, and know that he's probably not gonna ask you out if you've been casual for this long, it's all good. If you want to get serious, your probably wasting your time.
2007-03-24 16:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Joanna d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because he probably isn't interested in you in that way. He can reap the benefits of a relationship, I.e. sex, and not have to try hard. So you can ask him out to a movie, or dinner, and not sleep with him that time. Try to gently encourage moving forward. If that doesn't work be forward with him and tell him you like him, and as much as you like the sex, you would want to date. Otherwise his intentions don't go beyond sex, and I don't believe you should continue sleeping with him. If you mean having sex when you say hooking up.
2007-03-24 16:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is there really good book I read called "He is not that in to you". If he hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend by now then he is not that in to you. Don't give him that much importance that way he won't feel pressured. Let it go and time will tell. If he looks for you great, if he doesn't, you're wasting your time.
2007-03-24 16:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u shoundt take that crap just ask him do u like me more than just hooking and then you know if you really like him or you are just wasting your time.
2007-03-24 16:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him and if you don't get the answer you are looking for time for a new evaluation do you want him as a friend is he holding you back from finding someone that is all up to you
2007-03-24 16:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why buy the cow if he is getting the milk for free, play hard to get a little and make yourself a little unavailable if it does not work than he was just using u to begin with.
2007-03-24 16:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋