Daycare delima?

Question

My son is 20 months old and attends daycare part time. He is the youngest in his class and for the last few weeks he has had what I would call random bruises (what I thought was typical kid playing bruises) and 2 (in one day) bite marks. I was called this Friday because another child hit him in the head with a toy and hit him so hard that it left imprints of the toy on his head in blood under the skin......when i asked his teacher that afternoon, she said that there were 3 other kids in the class that picked on him all the time, and that they were trying to find another way to discipline these children because time out was not working, now again i didn't realize this was going on ( i was only told that they had a biter, but it was being worked out). Do I take my child out of the daycare immediatly, or do I give them a chance to try a new approach with these children? I want to protect my baby, but I don't wanna rip him out of daycare without considering everything.

Answer 1

listen...i have worked in a day care for 5 years now...so i know THINGS HAPPEN. children fight/hit/kick/throw/bite etc. and it is not possible for the teacher's eyes to be everywhere at every second and prevent every accident. but if your kid is involved in more than one accident every few weeks...basically it seems habitual...i would say something is up! also...i don't know if he is only around his age group or much older kids as well, but i have never seen a kid around 20 months that could hit so hard that a toy left an imprint in another kid's head...even the pre-k kids would be hard pressed to do that. bump yes....blood...possible but not likely...but an IMPRINT??! have you ever thought that the teachers could be abusing the kids?!? have you spoke to any other parents or heard them tell other parents the same/similar stories?

like i said...i am a teacher at a daycare and i have seen it all...i really should be the last person telling you to suspect the teachers, however, that is how seriously i would take this if i were you. this is your CHILD for christ sake...why would you not do everything in your power to protect them?? screw hurting their feelings/jumping to conclusions....you have every right to . and even if it is not child abuse, the teachers are still responsible for the safety of every child. if that is being compomised habitually on their account, they are still responsible.

you should use your discresion, but consider talking to the director/owner/head/whoever of the school or pull your kid right the hell out of there. if they are unaccomodating i would say something is up.

Answer 2

We had a problem like that at the daycare i worked at. Some children are just plain mean. The kids let up after we tried some new ways of punishing them and everything was fine. I personally would say give it 3 days. Not a whole week, but enough time to see if they really make the effort. and also, tell them your conserns and that you are going to pull your child out within the week if things dont improve. Don't give them a whole week, because they will tend to put it off.

Hope this helps and i hope things improve. I have a feeling your kids has friends their and even that young it does tend to upset their psycological needs for social interaction when you take their friends away.

Answer 3

Well my daycare sends home incident reports for everything important like if my child is hurt by another child I get a slip and vice versa...you need to meet with the head of the daycare to discuss this issue, pulling your son out of daycare could be pretty traumatic for him and who's to say the next daycare will be better. I try to talk to each of my childrens teachers at least once a week even if it is for 5 min because I want to know what going on, also try to make contacts with some of the other parents in teh class to see if they are having any "problems" with other children.

Answer 4

I just have a comment on 'biters'. I do daycare, and I know it is HARD to get that child to stop biting. I've been through it. as much as you can be on top of that child - I have been sitting right next to him, and other children, and it happens that fast - where you don't have a chance to stop him. A "BITER" Isn't going to quit biting overnight - it takes time. so- I'm sure the daycare is working on it. however- If I had 3 children picking on one child - all I have to say is they need to find a new way to discipline them!! I feel sorry for your child, and you, for having to go through that.

Answer 5

Take him out. They were aware they had a biter and obviously nothing was done about it. I can't imagine a day care would allow something like that to continue without it being resolved and I can't believe that they wouldn't contact you after your child had been bitten so hard you saw the bite marks. In both of the day cares my daughter was in it was MANDATORY that ANY bites be reported to the parents and ANY that broke the skin were to be referred to the child's peditrician and a report sent to the day care as to the outcome. At the first day care there was a little boy who seemed to have acquired a "taste" for my daughter, he bit her a couple of times but the bites were minor. One day though he broke the skin and I Had to take her to the ER...the next day at the center they told me the child had been removed from the center because his biting could not be controlled. If this day care has a known biter they need to do something about it or have the child removed.

Answer 6

till he's a sickly 2 365 days previous frequently, it extremely isn't a foul element. teenagers might desire to socialise. At this age, attending to comprehend one yet another is each so often bonking one yet another interior the face and getting your daycare instructor's labored up and loopy!!! A 2 365 days previous will chunk on a toy, provide it to his pal [who proceeds to lick it and rub it on his head] and then leave it on the floor - for newborn #3 to adhere up his nostril. Be real looking. he will fall unwell extra because is the way daycare works. If he's definitely unwell, get a 2nd opinion. in case you concern with regard to the daycare, ask mum and dad of youngsters who USED to flow there. or purely exchange daycares for one which you're feeling extra ideal approximately. For the phlem a teenagers chilly drugs, lots of warmth baths, a humidifier and a while will artwork it out. youthful teenagers in daycare will fall unwell extra regularly. a doctor is familiar with this - and could brush aside an extremely unwell newborn on the 1st flow to if the mummy seems over traumatic and a worrier [the hypochondric mom]. And medical doctors are much less possibly to prescribe antibiotics now as properly ; make confident the surgeon is doing an entire verify up [eyes ears nostril throat etc etc etc] on the vibrant area, daycare is between the ideal issues you're able to do for a youthful newborn. think of of it this variety - if kindergarden is all socialization [which that's!], think of the superb initiate your newborn might have. And if there are studying, occupational, speech etc etc etc [any delays or issues] it is going to likely be caught 2-3 years before then a newborn at residing house together with his mom who isn't in daycare!! Get out the kleenex and chilly drugs. toughen the cozies, humidifiers and prepare for the journey :)

Answer 7

It seems totally irresponsible to me that they haven't managed to address this problem more effectively considering it has been happening for a few weeks. I would advise speaking to the teacher first and asking what they propose to do next. Have they spoken to the other childrens' parents and what was their response? Certainly I would seriously consider taking him out of the centre soon if nothing changes.

Answer 8

They have been completely unprofessional. They should have told you that your child was being hurt. It should be the biter who is kicked out. I would ask to speak to the person in charge of the day care, or even the owner to make them aware of what has happened. The staff needs to be reprimanded. And re-check their credentials.

Answer 9

I would pull my child out before anything else can happen. I HATE daycare centers and don't trust them for this reason.

Answer 10

take out now and file a report agiest the day care at your linecing department before it gets worse