eating problems. anorexia. plz help?

Question

im 12 years old, gonna be 13 tomorrow and i just got over anorexia. im average [as in weight] 5ft and 110lbs. im still not happy with myself tho and im afraid im going to back to anorexia again and i really dont want to. my goal is to be 90lbs. when i look in the mirror i see myself as fat and i dont want to have to see that anymore. i work out every night, i do sit ups, squats, lunges, and some other stuff. i dont really do cardio but i walk alot every day between school and home. i never use weights. i want to be heathly and skinny

im not exactly a pro when it comes to eating healthy either. i KNO that eating healthy will help me with my goal but i just cant do it. im trying my best not to eat all the junk im addicted to eating but its hard for me. i kno that i can eat what i want but in small portions. but i have a fast metabolism and i get hungry very often and i eat multiple times a day. i have a phobia of gaining weight and eating too much yet i do it anyway.

i never thought of being a model but i want to be an actress. its my dream and the first class i looked at they told me to lose some weight and come back. its all ive ever wanted and im willing to do whatever


im a VERY picky eater. i dont like salads, fish, most chicken, steak, vegetables [other than peas and corn], fruits [other than apples and bananas] and a whole lot of other foods


i also dont want to go to an adult. its not that i dont trust my mom but if i told her she'd just say i look fine, she wont try to help me. and i dont want her to kno ive been anorexic

Answer 1

well first calm down, seek a doctor, or school nurse if it is really bothering you.

if you don't like eating healthy foods thhen you could die, so you may as well get over it

Answer 2

First of all, you made a huge big step in admiting to yourself that you have a problem. That takes courage.

The eating disorder you speak of is rooted in psychology. Your symptom that you have of feeling fat is because you have a depressive disorder. This means that you may have an imbalance of chemicals in your brain called neurotransmitters, and they help set your emotional mood and way of thinking. But what's worse, is you've had someone tell you to lose weight. You have a compulsive desire to work out, and a goal of being 90 pounds. I'll bet money you have a low self esteem.

You have the beginnings of a serious illness that could lead to such severe malnutrition that you will no longer be able to have your period, breasts will shrink, and eventually, muscle wasting, which is very damaging and toxic when that happens.

You want to be healthy? You need to speak with a counselor. You need to be as brave as you were admitting that you think you have a problem. If you don't want to talk to your mom, you need to tell your school counselor, a trusted teacher, or even friends at school.

An intervention is scarey sounding, but they will be able to show you the truth about you, your ways of thinking, your moods, and you will be able to find out why you are doing this... You maybe have had something very big in your life that has stuck with you which has triggered your behavior of not taking care of yourself like you should.

If this isn't taken care of, you eventually will become more miserable, hurt the people around you as they watch you waste away, and then you will die of a heart attack.

Please love yourself enough to do this one thing. It's the most important thing you could do.

Answer 3

you've beaten anorexia before? Congrats!!! That's actually one of the hardest things to do...

It seems like you don;t truly know what it is...you might, but lets just clear it up. In basic, anorexia is when people don't eat. (wow what a crappy definition sorry). From your short post, It seems like you will be fine, you are a picky eater, which is no biggie.

If you do become anorexia then I know you won't try to quit until something drastic happens. Theres no way to beat something like that until you don't want it anymore. Once that happens then you'll need counseling, a nutritionist, and a therapist and possibly more. I'm not really worried though cause you won't die, nobody is that stupid. You will come out stronger than you went in.

If you want to avoid it, study about healthy lifestyles and healthy eating. It should teach you the harder/better way to achieve the goals you want.

Answer 4

I am not a doctor, but I have recently been going through anorexia and bulimia, And I totally understand what you are going through. Its a difficult situation. I don't know you, but I am sure you are fine. I know that is hard to understand at this point. You are healthy and skinny, and to continue to be healthy you need to eat, enough calories, and protein, etc. That is what you need to do if you really want to stay healthy, and live your life to its fullest. My recommendation is to talk to a counselor, or parent, or even a close friend and ask for their advice. Good luck and always keep a positive attitude, determination and prayer can get you through anything, including this!

Answer 5

ok i say u see ur self fat when u look in da mirror
well ur 110 so ur not fat try getting a make over and stuff u kno straigten ur hair ,get nails done, put make up on
u can't be 90lb!!u 'll be weak REALLY WEAK and watever job u have it will be hard u either stay at dat weight or gain a lil more im like 125 right now i think i look gud but when i don't make myself pretty i think im fat and sttufff oh yea im 15
u can allways work out just don't over do it!
ur not fat ok about 110 is pretty skinny!!
don't loose any weight ok just eat healthy
do not drink soda that helps alot!!!!!

Answer 6

trust me girls, the more you starve yourselves, the more fat you end up storing in the long run. when you deprive your body of the things it needs, it (in a sense) gets scared that it will never see those nutrients again. So....when you do go back to eating a balanced diet, your body reacts differently to it and stores it more heavily. The fats, the carbs....
Plus I know from experience. Im still very neurotic about food but i have a loving boyfriend who likes real women(im still just 18). Im sure you girls have more to offer then a twig like body anyways....look up to the kate winslets of the industry, not the nicole richies. Youll be much happier, i promise. Its funny actually, because when you are happy in your head, everything else just kinda follows....including your body.
Just rely on a happy mind.
Strength is the key to happiness. not self-victimization.
love, peace...
mary

Answer 7

i totally understnad u i had this type of thing too! stop weighing urself. thats the first step because that way u cant obsess over numbers. for now just ignore mirrors aswell. mirrors and scales are your enemies. also try to ask ur firends for help, i never wanted to go to my parents or any adult for help either and i've made it through. for now i think u just have to get rid of ur access to full length mirrors and scales and try to focus on things other then weight.
good luck i know that this is hard but even if you dont want to get an adult involved but atleast have ur friends help u

Answer 8

Hun, calm down. First of all, remember anorexia is a psychological condition. If you are feeling stressed in any way you will start controlling your eating (in a bad way).

You can not "get over" anorexia. If you have been in treatment in the past please, please, please call your shrink.

If you have not find a counselor to talk to immediately. From your postings it seems like you may be having an anxiety attack. Take some cleansing breaths and relax.