long distance relationship!!!?

Question

personally in your opinion do you think long distance relationships work...why? or why not?

Answer 1

Personally I think they will work for some people. If you really like the person and you both think that it will work than go for it. If you don't know if it will work than give it up. Don't try. I just got out of mine. So its up to your hurt and no one else.

Answer 2

depends on the couple, the personalities of the individuals and the environment the person is in. if both the male and the female are convinced, then distance shouldnt be a problem. however, to me long distance relationships will not work most of the time. there is no way to really know whats happening with the other person. u cannot show love and show that u care. many people they say stuff but dont mean it, or never does it. and u wont know if ur other half is cheating or not. but yea, long distance relationship does not really work for most people.

Answer 3

Hm, wow. I quess there has to be a lot of trust involved. If you take the time to see each other and get away every now and then it might work. A person has to be independent enough and be stabled. I don't know, this is difficult. :) A long distance relationship would work for me because if I really wanted it, it would work. But if I had doubts about something, I'll move on. It probably wouldnt work if one person in the relationship didn't put much effort into it. You got to think about your future as well. Will the result be a good one. What will happen eventually?

Answer 4

I've had to do several: one boyfriend was in the army and went to Iraq, one I moved away to school in a city 2 hours away, one STARTED as long distance (although we had been friends for years) and eventually we moved in together, and still are. I personally would much rather not be in a long distance relationship. A normal one has it's own problems, but add to that distance? Yikes! Well, if you are committed to each other, it may be okay, but you need to ask yourself a few questions first: How much do I want this relationship? How long will we be separated? Are we able to communicate regularly? Will I be too jealous if I don't know what's going on? When will we see each other? Should we have phone sex or wait until we're together? Can I be faithful?
It can be very tricky if you're both not serious. But there can also be upsides as well. Check these websites for more tips:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/datingadvice/26_dating_tips.html
http://www.aish.com/dating/wisdom/Surviving_a_Long-Distance_Relationship.asp
http://www.etoile.co.uk/Love/Long.html
http://www.enotalone.com/article/2247.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_2940_make-long-distance.html
And there are many more, just Google "long distance relationships"
AND GOOD LUCK!!! :)

Answer 5

I met my husband over the internet (and at the time I did not believe in long distance relationships nor did I believe that internet dating would ever work out). We met online as friends and corresponded for a year. During that year we emailed, eventually phoned each other, sent packages back and forth, and decided to make it a "relationship". After a year, we decided to meet in person. (He is from Canada and I'm from the States). We eventually met and spent a week together (he came to see me) and we really hit it off. Three months after that I moved up to Canada to live with him, we married a year later and now have a beautiful daughter together. So, yes I KNOW they can work!! We will be together for 3 years now, married for two. Just make sure you know the person before making any decisions and trust your gut instinct!! Hope this helped!! :)

Answer 6

I believe it depends entirely upon the couple.

I have a friend who had a long distance and her boyfriend cheated on her. He said he was too lonely with her gone.

I am entering a long distance, but we have great communication and have built a lot of trust. We also have the ability to drive to see each other every few days or so.

Again, it's entirely on the dynamics of the couple, and also the amount of distance between the two. If it's meant to be, it'll happen.

Answer 7

I had a long distance relationship. It was alright because we only lived about an hour and a half apart. His famliy lived in my town so he visited me alot. Also I was a manager so I was really busy most of the time so I didn't need to see him everyday. But you do need to really trust him and both of you need to be willing to make lots of trips and I think what really is important is that if this did turn into something serious there would be a possiblity of one of you moving without it being a big deal.

For example my B/F lives here now because all his family does and he was transfered in his job. So it wasn't such a big deal.
Cause you know guys are afraid to commit...

Answer 8

I think most of the time long distance relationships do not work because there's little time for both of you to be together physically. However, it is not impossible for long distance relationship to work, it's just harder and takes more effort on both parties to make it work.

Answer 9

I'm was in a long distance relationship myself and it worked out! But there are certain rules you have to follow.
I believe the most important things are communication and trust. Check out this article, it really helps a lot: http://lovesagame.com/10-rules-to-make-long-distance-relationships-work/

Answer 10

They can work, but usually don't due to poor communication of what both people want out of the relationship and unclear/unrealistic expectations.
The biggest thing is honesty - if one partner says they want or expect something that the other person cannot do, it is up to them to say upfront that they will not or cannot do that. You need to be clear on how you will handle things if one of you meets someone else or if the relationship becomes to much of a burden.

Answer 11

Most times they don't work....one of you eventually meets someone else. It's harmless, just go out and have some fun together. One thing leads to another and then the realization sets in that it's better not being alone. You have to start with a strong relationship and trust each other. Letters are great...writing out your feelings has a way of keeping things clear.
I didn't answer the letters the way I should have...hence she found someone else. Que Sera...