The father does want to see his child... I have only talked to the father once since the birth and he told me he wants to take care of him. We were not married.
2007-03-24 16:23:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Time to take control of your life.
(1) Go apply for child support;
(2) Make good notes right now about every time you have ever seen this man with drugs of any kind;
(3) Write down every inappropriate thing the girlfriend ever said to you;
(4) Put all these notes in a safe place.
(5) From now on, make notes immediately upon obtaining new information regarding this man's fitness as a parent, or his girlfriend's inappropriate conduct;
(6) Make sure--at least from hereon out--that you are entirely civil with Pop and the girlfriend. Be civil, not friendly. All you have to say to her is say "hello" and "goodbye" at appropriate times. Do not speak to her beyond this. If she tries to speak to you, say "I'm sorry, I'd really rather not talk to you. Thank you." If she persists, just walk away, or, at minimum, turn your back.
(7) Make it clear that short of extraordinary circumstances you have no intention of preventing this man from seeing his son, and that you believe that your son will be better off knowing his father.
(8) Write down, for yourself, in detail, the conditions under which it would be alright for this man to visit his son;
(9) Take your list of conditions, and your notes about Pop and seek advice on how to get there. You might start by considering mediation. Many courts have mediation programs. Use it.
2007-03-24 17:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Millie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young. The baby is an infant and should not be away from you. Give him visitation at your home - wherever you are living. However, the new girlfriend has no business in the matter. This is your child, take control and protect the baby. If you haven't already, go to the District Attorney and start proceedings for child support. Yes, even if he works at McDonalds. He has a responsibility to the child - regardless. Consult your parents ... surely they will support you in doing the right thing.
2007-03-24 23:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by daffodil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you afraid the dad and girlfriend will do, you never really did say. You should definetly let the dad see his child if he wants to. If your afraid that they might try to take your child away from you then I understand but I don't think that they will be able to. As long as your child is in a stable home then you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
2007-03-24 23:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking from experience..my daughter had a loser of a father and she went thru her whole life wondering what she did wrong that he didnt want her. He never made any attempt at all to see her until it was too late. Now I see my daughter suffering. My grandson is going thru almost the same thing its just the opposite...his dad wants to see him but my daughter wont let him. He too ask why he cant see his dad. So ..let him see his kid...after all there is so many kids in this world who dont have enough love, what could it hurt. After all having alot of people love him will only make him feel secure, confident..etc...
2007-03-24 23:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not married so you have full custody! I'd let him come to your house (without g/f) to spend some time with the baby. He's still an infant and mother knows best! If he doesn't like that idea then tell him to take you to court!
2007-03-25 02:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Elmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so let dad see his child. who cares if your married or not. the child has a right to know who his dad is.
2007-03-24 23:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice still stands. Judging from what you've written it doesn't sound like he's going to spend the effort/time/money trying to fight you for visitation.
2007-03-24 23:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by bresmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has right to c his child wether he is wit some one or not
2007-03-24 23:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by ttbaby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋