Two years ago, I feel in love with a much younger man who seemed to be relatively out-of-touch with his feelings. He seemed to adore me, in person, but he said many things to protect himself and me, too, from getting too close. Still, we had a mutual understanding. Even though I left the area, somehow, we carried on a long-distance relationship and fell in love. However, just at the end, right as he was about to move, I balked, mostly because my job fell apart. It turned into a terrible phone break-up, with him saying terrible things to me he probably didn't mean, and me getting hurt. Now, after a year, we are talking again, but his language is routinely emotionally confused, but giving me every reason to think I should move on. Still, IK feel that I should see him, but that's hard, because he acts so oddly about the idea of obligation that I can't even seem to make the appointment. I just bought a ticket, though, and I'm goign back to NYC. Is this a wild goose chase?
2007-03-24 16:13:05 · 12 answers · asked by Christina V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. Don't waste the ticket though. There's lots to do in NYC. Don't waste your time on him. He obviously doesn't know what he wants!
2007-03-24 16:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by sneaky squirrel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes!!! He's just not that into you.. He seems like he is suffering from emotional issues and in return abusing you mentally and emotionally and you are being stupid enough to entertain his ignorance!! Sale that damn ticket and get on with your life for heavens sake. I mean I know they say anything worth having is worth going threw something for but this just sounds like a clear case of you doing mental damage to yourself by continuing to deal with him!!! You better be smart and follow your first instinct to leave him alone otherwise you will be the reason for your own distress!!!!! Are you just as mental and emotional currupt as he is?/ If you aren't then get the hell on!!!!! Moving alone!!!!!!! moving alone
2007-03-24 16:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frank Sinatra's singing those lyrics seems appropriate here:
i've got you under my skin
I've got you deep in the heart of me
So deep in my heart, that you're really a part of me
I've got you under my skin
I've tried so not to give in
I've said to myself this affair never will go so well
But why should i try to resist, when baby will i know than well
That i've got you under my skin
I'd sacrifice anything come what might
For the sake of having you near
In spite of a warning voice that comes in the night
And repeats, repeats in my ear
Don't you know you fool, you never can win
Use your mentality, wake up to reality
But each time i do, just the thought of you
Makes me stop before i begin
'cause i've got you under my skin
2007-03-24 16:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by JET99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to fix something that has mutated beyond repair. A guy has got to meet you at least halfway, otherwise it is just a pretend relationship that you are projecting a lot of positive qualities on that don't exist. Ask yourself exactly what are you hanging on to there.....nothing.
2007-03-24 16:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your "instincts" have done little for you so far except to make you look pathetic and needy, I'd say accepting reality is a wise move.
2007-03-24 16:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You will probably get goosed, wildly, as you chase him back into the bedroom.
Come on already, listen to yourself! "His language is routinely emotionally confused"?!?! How about saying it truthfully: "He acts like a ****ing ***hole and treats me like ****!"
Dump him.
2007-03-24 16:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by laffryot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You yourself said several times he is confused and dis-connected. Take that as your own advice and move on.
2007-03-24 16:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know the answer. get your money back if you can. don't put yourself in a situation that is going to hurt even more. you have to move on and let this one go. good luck.
2007-03-24 16:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is....think about it this way....and ex you had a bad fight with and no longer have feelings for comes half way across the country to see you....hmm a little stalkerish if you ask me...
2007-03-24 16:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by manthamanthers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it your going there to see him. i wouldnt go. from what you said he doesnt seem to be, ummm balanced.... for lack of a better word. accept reality. that will do less harm to you.
2007-03-24 16:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋