How can I gain my respect back?

Question

Been all I could be for this man. But every time he gets back on top or his money is good he forgets about me. I do for him so much that I lost friends, job. He treats me really bad, he doesn't talk to me, he yells at me at all times tricks off on others........ I lost my mom recently and I have no money to do anything, hard time finding a job. I'm crying everyday. And when I want to do something for myself he finds a way to stop me. Like if I want to go eat, he wants to go everywhere or thee is something to be done. And if we do go out it turns out sh--y.
What I need is some inspirational words to lift me up and to keep my head up. And if you can't find anything good to say then don't please. AND THANK YOU FOR THOSE THAT WHO CAN SAY SOMETHING TO HELP!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You don't need us. You already know he's a loser and you need to get rid of him. He is taking advantage of you at a very vulnerable time. Most decent human beings would not do that--even if they don't love you, most people would not take advantage and make you feel bad, you know? He is just poison to your system. Resolve to rid yourself of that toxic person as soon as possible. It is better to be alone than with someone doing you damage on a daily basis.

Answer 2

Hello,

You are probably going to be OK because you realize there is a problem and you want to know how to act on it. That is more than half the battle to getting better.

Perceptions are funny. You perceive that you are being treated like dirt. If you can't change the perception (which may well be true) than it is time to find a new guy.

Here is the good news......the world is loaded with guys who would thank God for a lady who would "be all they could be" for them. That is the gods honest truth and being a 53 year old man, I have been through enough to know. I have seen fire and rain, but it took 48 years to find a woman who would work hard to treat me well. I've thanked God for that every day for the last 5 years.

So......he's out there and you will meet him when it is time. And that time may well be when you have gained your respect back, at least part of it. You have to be ready to be loved, and that means you must believe you are worth loving. From the little I've read above, I am sure that you are.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother! It sounds like you already know this relationship is a dead-end street. So I won't tell you things you already know! But I think that in this case you have to be the best you that you can be for nobody else can do it for you! And to do that you have to rise above your circumstances and take action to find the answer you're looking for. And the first place to start is inside. You have to feel good about yourself before anything else. You have to be your own cheerleader, your own best friend! Surround yourself with positive influences like church or volunteer your time to a charity, meet some new people. Don't let him talk you outta this!! These are things that don't cost anything, and the reward is immeasurable... it's how you'll feel when you give of yourself to others without reward. You are worthy to feel like you matter, that you are a good person, that you are a caring person, a loving person, intelligent and that what you have to say matters! I hope this in some ways helps you and I wish you the very best that life has to offer....Remember....YOU ARE WORTHY!! G.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. What you need to do is put your head up and get the guts to do something for yourself. You don't need anyone else for you to find a good job or do something in life. No one has the right to treat you the way he does. You are wasting your time and he's just manipulating you and you need to put a stop to it before it gets worst, like hitting you or something. There must be at least one friend or family member that you can talk to and don't be scared, it's better to get out of this now than when it's too late. remember, YOU DON'T NEED HIM. Think about yourself and move on.

Answer 5

Listen, I just told my friend the same thing Ill tell you in the same situation, Leave him. People dont just sincerely change and neither will he. Dont waste your time trying to be with someone who just makes you sad. My friend went out with this guy for 2 years that treated her terribly and I told her to end it, which she did. Now shes in a great relationship with someone who actually cares about her. And it seems like the new guy is prince charming just cause he treats her right. Which isnt what she is used to. Move on and dont waste your time.

Answer 6

you can start by getting rid of the sob. what ever you do, dont allow him into your life again. you allowed him to do this to you. no one else. just you. now its time to regain controll over your life. start by getting a job. any job. then work your way to where you want to be. it wont be easy but its better than being treated like that.

Answer 7

I think you should pick yourself up and dump this jerk, there is some one out there that will give you what you want and deserve. Don't let him belittle you like that you are much better then that. You will feel better about yourself once you are away from this as hole!!

Answer 8

if you believe in God you know that He loves You.even if the whole world turn its back to you God is still there to love you and lift you up.if you have spare time you can visit this website www.angdatingdaan.org

Answer 9

Giving you all for this man is the best you can do, and if he can't see that then maybe he isn't the one.

Answer 10

you are a more precious jewel than any diamond that could fit on one's hand