I am going to be trying to pursue a relationship with this girl at my school, but it WILL create a lot of awkwardness between me and one of my friends because he tried to be in a relationship with her but she turned him down.
Should I just forget about it and try to not act on my feelings for her?
2007-03-24 15:55:38 · 13 answers · asked by bobmagee2010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW:
The kid that tried to date her was just acting on a 'shes the fresh meat around town' and she was just out of a relationship and the guy is SUPER creepy.
2007-03-24 16:01:49 · update #1
It kind of depends on how much time has passed. If he just ask her out a couple of weeks ago you need to give it some time cause that's kind of a harsh thing to do to a friend. Otherwise I think it would be okay just be careful in how you approach things. Try not to do many group things until he's really comfortable with it. You don't want him to think you've forgotten about him and his feelings. Hope it turns out well
2007-03-24 16:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not trying to sound too pessimistic about this situation but I have actually seen the exact same thing with three of my friends. One of my friends was real good friends with the girl, and sometime later as their friendship progressed he ended up proposing to her, she of course didn't feel for him in that manner and she refused. And as it happened, one of his best friends started liking her and then proposed to her one day and she accepted it as she liked him too. The mistake on their part was that they never told this former guy about it for a while. The friend didn't tell him and neither did the girl until some months had passed. He totally flipped out and as good as stopped talking to the two of them. Maybe he felt betrayed in some ways.
So the first thing to evaluate how much the girl means to you and how much your friendship means to you. If you still feel like you want to take a chance and propose to the girl I think you really should but I feel you should let your friend know what your intent is. And the friend does not necessarily have to take it negatively as in this incident.
All the best to you.
Anyways with the detail that you just added, it does seem like your "friend" had no such serious feelings about the girl. So if you feel enough for her, just go ahead and propose to her.
2007-03-24 23:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Eternal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask ur friend and if ur friend says no i dont want u 2 try 2 pursuit a relationship w. that person then try to forget ur feelings. never choose a girl over a friend
2007-03-24 23:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always like to stay away from situations like these. I think it's always best to just not go there. I mean your friend is important to you. You know that it will hurt your friend, so I don't think that it's worth it at this point. If it's just a little crush vs. a friendship- I would choose friendship.
2007-03-24 22:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just because she was not interested in him does not mean you guys can not have a great relationship. If he does not understand he is really not your friend.
2007-03-24 22:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by bumpie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. thats very similar to what happened to me in high school.. except i was in the position of your friend.. I had really liked this guy and had wanted to go out with him but he turned me down.. and then he asked someone if they would ask my friend to give him her number... I was there when that someone asked her this.. and my friend KNEW that i had liked him.. yet she turns to me and says "should I?! he's cute". I was Horrified!!! but i didnt want to act like it.. so I was like "if you want". but my other friend was like "girl. whats wrong with you..your crossing the friendship line.. you cant do that".. so she was like "ok.. i wont then". But trust me.. my feelings for my friend dropped like 50points.. i couldnt believe she would do that to me!!! i would say to you.. there are plenty of other girls.. find someone else.. unless your not really your friends friend, then go for it. But you will hurt your friend.. and thats just not cool.. not at all.
2007-03-24 23:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Starlete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is entirely up to you.
It is not like you are competing with your close friend for someone's affection. She already turned him down. I personally think you should go-ahead, but it really is up to you.
2007-03-24 22:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think if it was the other way around..how would you feel?
He never really lost anything because they never really had
anything...But if you care that much. Just ask him if its cool.
2007-03-24 22:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by A P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, just cuz ur friend was turned down doesn't mean you will. if he is a true friend, then he will respect you and be happy 4 u
2007-03-24 22:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Reeses' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your friends!! If they don't understand, find new ones.
2007-03-24 22:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋