My mom hates me and favors my older sister?

Question

I have already asked this question, I got answers that told me to talk to her, but that didnt work. the other answer assumed I am the oldest but I am the youngest. my mom gets sooo mad at me for little things, but my older sister gets away with everything. My sister does no chores, and I do a ton but whenever I dont they get mad at me, but when my sister doesnt they just tell me to "give her a break". my sister constantly makes huge messes that I have to pick up, and whenever she's crabby my mom tells me just to stay out of her way, but when I am upset my mom says " lets all hide, your gettting all heated up". I might not even be mad but this provokes me and makes me mad. I am sick of having the door slammed in my face while my sister is spoken to in a nice tone and I am yelled at. even thogh I get $10 for allowance and she doesnt, whenever she wants money she gets $20 or more forked out to her, but my mom tells me to "use my allowance".I feel like I hate my mom but I dont want to.

By the way, I am 13 and my sister is 16, when I talked to my mom she says, "what do you want me to do, hate your sister" or " I'm sure you do think that, at least your sister treats me like I'm her mother". I treat her nice and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells to please her, but my sister does nothing and gets whatever she wants

I am a girl so I will not be getting a girl friend. some people are saying I'm bratty which isnt true, this has been going on for a while and there are several incidents I could talk about but this site wont give me enough characters. and whoever thought it funny to call me a crazy b******, please shut up because I'm asking for advice, not smart a$$ comments

Answer 1

Two words, Time Capsule...

Answer 2

Lol...you sound like my little brother. But I believe you, and it probably is kind of unfair that you have to work for your money and your sis doesn't.
I'm guessing that your sister was spoiled, and you probably could have been as well, but you chose to help your parents by doing chores. I'm assuming that this was your choice to do these chores for money, and your parents didn't force you to do them? Well, have you tried telling your parents that it's unfair? They seem like they're not immature 'rents, and they should listen to reason. If your sister gets money, you should too, as long as it's necessary. If your sister needs the money for necessities, such as school supplies, then that's different than her getting money for CDs or jewelry.
Other than consulting with your parents, you could see what happens if you refuse to do chores and attempt to live like your sister. I doubt, though, that your mother is going to change her ways any time soon. She may just be sensitive to your sister, since teenagers going through adolescence can be especially irritable, and most parents know not to provoke their wrath. ;)

Answer 3

Are you close with your sister? maybe the answer to this will be no, but I recommend you to talk with your sister. i am the oldest daughter in my family and I have a 12 year old sister who thinks that my parents like me better than she. She has actually come to me and talked to me about it. The next time I heard one of my parents saying something like,"why can't you be more like your sister?" to my younger sister, I told them to please not compare her to me. They didn't do it again. I really appreciate it that my sister has the guts to come and tell me. You shopuld try to do that with your sister. Tell her wht you feel when your mom says a certain thing about her. You will see that if your sister really cares, she'll defend you the next time one of your parents are not treating you the same way as they are to her. Hope I helped:)

Answer 4

omg i am in the same situation that u r in. I am the older sister though and my brother is younger. I'm a middle child who has about the same treatment, but a little less severe. Trust me, your parents love you but mabey your sister has some reason for needing more parents love. for example: I have more friends that my brother, my parents pay more attention to him because he needs it. Don't worry, things will go okay eventually. Mabey get a girl friend!!

Answer 5

listening to all of this, to me, it sounds like you stomp your feet when you don't get your way. you sound kind of bratty. it's doubtful she hates you, and it may be that they spoiled your sister and may be correcting that action on you.

you could always talk to your mother about it, not sure how though. i suppose you could prove your point by simply locking yourself in your room until they start to worry about you, though that's a bit drastic.

it would probably be more effective to simply ask her point blank this question - without the whining or comparing. you might find out that your sister may have other responsibilities that you dont' have. you also may only see what you want to see.

Answer 6

be glad your mom at least cares.

im the family screw up just cause im a klutz...and well, im a kid aren't I? my older sister, 17, gets away with so much its insane. then, I drop a plate at the dinner table and i'm sent to my room with no dinner and no going to a sweet sixteen next week. one plate....life sucks.


i hate my family and all i wish is to have a better one. work it out with your mom and start over. your 13, you have the time.

hang on and i wish you luck.

Answer 7

This may be a common problem in some family who have two daughters. But my dear, We have two daughters, Mohar (ancient day's gold coin) and Zinuk ( an oyster having pearl in heart). Though we are a middle class family, our daughters have made us rich and we are very happy.
We are practising the theory of sacrificing the best thing you can and a prayer that says 'Itnee shakti haame de na Daata, maan ki biswas kamjor ho na'. It means, 'Oh my lord (the Giver) give us so much of strength that our belief never gets weakened to serve you i.e the soceity, family and all of them who matters for our well beings.
We are also very much fond of the song 'Mother of mine"

Listen to the song 'Mother of mine' sitting together

"Mother of mine, you gave to me / All of my life, to do as I please / I owe everything, I have to you / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother of mine, when I was young/ You showed me the way, things have to be done / Without your love, where would I be / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother, you gave me happiness / Much more than words can say / I pray the Lord that He may bless you / Every night and every day.
Mother of mine, now I have grown / And can walk straight, all of my own / I'd like to give you what you gave to me / Mother, sweet mother of mine." --- sung by Neil Reid

So my favourite quote is:
" Equate Mother Earth with your Mother and serve both with equal honesty."

"Your small sorrows will fly away
Chirping busily like sparrows,
You ought to use only good words
Not deadly bows and arrows.
Best way to win every heart
Share your joys to multiply
And confide to minimise sorrows."
- Subhas Chandra Kar
F/O Mohar and Zinuk

All the best. May God bring all the happiness in your life.

Answer 8

hi,maybe you should try not to make your mother mad at you. but if you think you have try too hard to make her not too mad at you but she still mad at you i think maybe you just have to let it go. or try harder to have a talk with your mother but if this is still do not work, maybe you should see your school caunselor to take an advise or someone that your trust like ur aunt or uncle

Answer 9

yeah they always like the younger ones 'cause they act so babyish

Answer 10

put yourself up for adoption and get out