Ever since my son was born earlier this year (he will be 10 months at the end of March), I have had so much anxiety. Being a new mother comes with new experiences, anxieties, etc. I am having anxiety and thoughts about having another child. I dont want my son to grow up w/o a sibling, but i dont know if we (my husband and myself) can go through it again. It has been stressful on our marriage, but we love each other very much.. i also dont know if i can handle another child. i feel so overwhelmed by my son, not anything HE does, it is me. I also am soo in love with him, i dont know if i can love another. and yet, when i see him playing alone in his crib, i get so sad that he wont have a brother or sister. maybe it is too early to think about it, but i am 37 adn dont want to wait too long..any advice?
2007-03-24 15:43:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have these same feelings about my son being an only child. He is 3 1/2 now and we still have no other children and I don't know if we will. I feel guilty that he doesn't have a playmate and I loved the bond that I have with my twin sister and my brother but I too had a lot of anxiety and a horrible pregnancy and I don't know if I could go through it again.
Having a 10 month old child is very stressful and as time goes by if will get easier and you may feel ready again to have another child. If you are unsure that you want another child I wouldn't do it just for your child because I am sure that he is getting plenty of love from mom and dad! They say only children do great and usually have no problems socially as it used to be thought. There is no perfect time to have a child and if you never have another one just give all of your love to your son and he will live a fulfilling life.
If you do decide to have another baby you will love him or her equally to the one you already have. Best of luck
2007-03-24 15:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a new mother and everything you are feeling is normal!!! It's normal for something THIS BIG to effect your marriage, but you learn and grow, together! It's these things that make you a family! Everyone goes through it, but if you love each other, you'll get through it.
It's not any easier with the second child, in fact, it's a little more strain cuz now there are two little souls to care for.
Wait, decide on what you can both handle. The first little one is still trying to figure out what is going on, he's not worried about being lonely just yet...
2007-03-24 22:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an only child and the desire to have a sibling was never very strong.
What helped me with my baby anxiety was.. I got someone to watch the kid and I took advantage of that time to catch up on a LOT of missed sleep.
2007-03-24 22:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by omnivus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have generalized anxiety, and this probably showed up when I was 32 (diagnosed much later due to my general avoidance of doctors). You might want to be checked for something like that, especially if you have any relatives who have been treated for depression or anxiety.
2007-03-24 22:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by amy02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u probaly can but its normal so it should go away soon.
2007-03-24 22:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋