Hey ladies.. or guys for that matter.. I've been with my fiancee for 9 years.. well for the past year she has talked about how she doesn't like MySpace or doesn't need one. Well her friend tried to set one up for her today. My fiancee said the only reason she would get one is to be able to keep in touch with her friend, even though they talk every night on the phone.
Anyway, I got real angry and told her I wanted her to delete it. She did delete it , saying she wanted to have it to talk to her friend but didn't want the problems that came with it, such as maybe random guys sending messages, and me getting angry. She said it's not worth risking 9 years for a stupid site.
Anyway, she keeps bringing up that I don't trust her.. I DO trust her but I would rather not see weird and nasty messages sent to her from random guys.
I got completely angry... but if your partner didn't want you to have MySpace. would that be controlling? What would you do?
Thoughts..
2007-03-24 15:36:31 · 11 answers · asked by eric c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dang, take a chill pill. She was just getting a myspace account. Just because someone sent her a message doesn't mean anything. There are many controls you can use on there such as only letting your friends view your page, therefore only your main pic if you post one. I think she's right in that you don't trust her and maybe this was a wake-up call for her and you too. And yes, controlling. If you had the myspace page and she demanded you take it off because girls might send you messages, what would your reaction be? I sure hope you two don't live together, but my guess is you do.
2007-03-24 15:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not what you want to hear but if my fiancee {together 11 yrs this May} told me he didn't want me to have my myspace account I'd seriously feel that he lacked trust in me and would be majorly offended. I've had an account for about a year and haven't really had problems with guys leaving weird or nasty messages. She doesn't have to put up her pic and she can even change her year of birth, so it's not really a big deal. I use mine for friends and to blog and my b/f hasn't had a problem. Myspace isn't just for meeting singles. It's for friends too. She can even put on her profile that she's in a relationship, only looking for friends...etc. Maybe you should dig deeper inside yourself to figure out why you got angry. Has she given you any reason to feel threatened? Has she cheated? If not, relax. Relationships are about trust. How would you feel in her shoes - seriously now, not just a knee jerk response. You'd prolly feel like she's feeling. Hope this helps...
2007-03-24 15:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by okwriting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all these arguments over myspace are Ridiculous! I have a myspace, so I'm fine with it...I'm fine with my boyfriend having one. Yes, I trust him, but that is besides the point. Why are you so worried about messages from random guys? Besides this little almost-argument, your relationship, or what i know of it, seems pretty stable. If my boyfriend didn't want me to have one..I'd have to say tough. But then again, thats probably because i'm so independent and in the end I do what I want. I would allow him access to my password so he could check it out whenever he liked but at my age, myspace is the quickest and easiest way to communicate with all of my friends. Your fiance seems like a sweet girl for deleting her myspace..show her some love for that.
2007-03-24 15:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MySpace is harmless. If she sets her profile to private, random people cannot send her messages. Only her friends will be able to do so.
It sounds to me like you don't really trust her...why would get angry if someone sent HER a message that she didn't initiate? Any-who. To answer your question, I do think it would be rather stifling if my mate told me that he didn't want me to have a MySpace page.
2007-03-24 15:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I hear, there are a lot of h--- on myspace. And anyways, you do not need a myspace page to keep in touch with your friends.
2007-03-24 15:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and me and my husband both have one i dont see why she can not have one if she is only going to have freinds on her list she can deny anyone else that ask to be on her freind list unless she wants to have other people on there maybe you should have a talk about it again and tell her how you really feel about it and see were she is coming from with it hope this helps.
2007-03-24 15:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by starshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya man, this is a democracy. give her her freedom. if she loves she's not gonna cheat on you. YOU shouldnt be person controlling whether or not she cheats on you. trust her, she's been by your side for 9 years and u think she's gonna cheat on you w/ some guy of myspace?
2007-03-24 15:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by varsfootball44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect my partners wishes....... Sites like that would be just asking for trouble and I don't go looking for trouble... It seems to find me!..lol
Just keep on telling her you luv her and it isn't what she may do on that site, but rather all the creeps that would be alllllll over your babydoll. :)
2007-03-24 15:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to have the page so bad why dont you share the page you can keep in tough with your old friends and she can keep in touch with hers and that way everyones happy
2007-03-24 15:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you trust her but you really don't. You are controlling. This is YOUR problem, not hers.
2007-03-24 15:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋