My bf spanks me.Whenever we are alone he just starts out playful but then he really makes it hurt.I don't want him to at all. He will either tell me to bend down, bend over, stick my butt up, lean over on a chair, or he will put me on his lap, pat his lap to let him know that I need a spanking, or he will tie me up.It hurts really bad and he does it again at first light and erotic but then hard and painful. He uses his paddle, cane, switch, or hand.Whenever I say no or why he punishes me by spanking me more.Or when I disobey his he tell me *that i've been a bad girl and need a spanking*.My butt is sore because last night we were on the couch and he got home from work and wanted to have sex.I did not want to because I was really tired, so he patted his lap to let me know that I need a spanking.I rejected and said "No, I'm not in the mood baby" so he grabbed me and his bare hand.He pulled my underwear down and spanked me hard.He later took me again and punished me b/c i said no. HELP!
2007-03-24 15:15:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Adult erotic spanking can be a lot of fun and a terrific turn-on - but it has to be consensual, and in your case it evidently isn't. The trouble is that a lot of girls, even though they love being spanked, will protest and wriggle and beg to be let off as part of the game - and it sounds as though your b/f can't tell the difference between that and genuine aversion.
Maybe he's not very sensitive - or maybe he really gets off on spanking someone who isn't it into it. But either way, if you can't get across to him that you're not getting any pleasure out of these spanking games, you may just have to dump him.
2007-03-25 01:28:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one should permit corporal punishnment. First spanking, next a hit in the face. Never allow it. Giving permission shows a low self esteem
2007-03-25 19:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to switch, and its his turn to be tied up and spanked, let him have it good and make sure he understands how bad it can hurt (use all the toys) It sounds like he's just inexperienced and it also sounds like you like it too.
2007-03-25 06:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he is doing to you is WRONG!! Where does it end? How far will he take it? Wheather he is your boyfriend or not, if you say no, and he forces you into sex, that is RAPE. He has absolutly no respect for for you or your wishes. Get out of this relationship as soon as you can. By the way, I'm a guy.
2007-03-24 22:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He really sounds abusive and controlling. I would say either break up with him or take his batteries out! Or just talk to him about it. If he still won't stop then, use the paddle on him or leave him.
2007-03-24 22:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is no joke. This is abuse, no way around it. You need to tell him how you feel about this and if he does not accept that, then you need to get out of this relationship. Some people are really into that kind of stuff, but if you aren't then get out.
2007-03-24 22:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. Sorry, but this was a real turn on for me to even read what you wrote. I love when my husband does these things to me and would never want him to stop! You're lucky, don't leave him - enjoy it, but only if it leads to great sex afterwards.
2007-03-26 10:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lily P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've told him to stop and he wont listen, you need to get out of this relationship. cause it may have started out playful and innocent but as you can tell he's getting stronger and stronger. and down the road he might snap and beat you up completely. so get out while you still can
2007-03-24 22:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by tourney21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're not into that for the x time and then leave him.
2007-03-24 22:20:38 · answer #9 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say you break up with him then spank him really hard and say when i say no it means no
2007-03-25 02:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by bianca p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋