there is this man who is nice i work with but i wonder sometimes about him. we talk frequently. he is already settled down & so am i. i find him being jealous when i talk to others (mostly men), after a meeting, i find him circling to see where i am (he doesnt say anything, but passes me) when he wants me he makes it known. when i ignore him he tends to show up more. why all the mind games? in an hour of a day he can make me feel i am like not even a friend and at different times of the day he is wishy washy what is up with that?
2007-03-24 15:11:22 · 13 answers · asked by okey dokey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so i fibbed a little
2007-03-24 15:24:42 · update #1
he is a good friend and i enjoy his company, he isn't psycho people; i was just wondering what everyone would say...
2007-03-25 08:37:33 · update #2
He doesn't sound psycho. Maybe he doesn't get attention from his wife and he thinks you're attractive and is wondering how the other men in the office get your attention. He might be trying to ask you for advice, but doesn't know how to do it. Or maybe he's just an old guy with a crush on you. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, confront him in a public place and just ask what he's up to. Most stalkers are cowards, so if that's what it is he'll probably back off.
2007-03-24 15:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by sneaky squirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like someone I use to work with. He does have a crush on you and he's very jealous of who you talk to. Does he know where you live? The man I worked with use to drive by my home all the time. He always knew what I was doing. You need to politely tell him that you are not interested in him other than being friends. When he makes you feel like you aren't his friend, ignore it. Just keep doing your job, and show him that you wouldn't care if he was your friend or not. These older men are nice to us, we genuinely like them and we in turn show them friendship, which these older men can't seem to handle. My older man friend ended up retiring and eventually got the hint that I wanted nothing more than a friendship, and I still occasionally see him and I can now have a nice conversation with him without him turning it into something else. I wasn't afraid of him, so I never turned him in, but please keep your guard up and if need be don't be afraid to turn him in. Good luck to you hun.
2007-03-24 22:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should even be trying to read his signs if you are settled down and he is too. Stop all of it and ignore the signs. Save yourself and your spouse the heartache!
2007-03-24 22:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a thing for you - even tho your just interested in friendship, he is interested in more. Continue to speak to him as your friend, the rest will fall into place.
2007-03-25 09:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. sounds like a psycho
2007-03-24 22:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you should keep a good distance from him. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 22:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him has much as you can, contact HR and tell them this guy makes you nervous. I'm Assuming he does. And if needed explain to him your happyliy married ? involved? etc.
2007-03-24 22:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by ansman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would distance myself from him completely and stay that way if you can. He sounds like a weirdo.
2007-03-24 22:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to be friends but is shy and doesn't know how to do it. Its one thing to be co-workers, another to be friends.
2007-03-24 22:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by eaglefox200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's up, but make sure you're safe in case he gets dangerous.
2007-03-24 22:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by tani n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋