2007-03-24 15:04:47 · 26 answers · asked by diamonds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You guys are stressed.....go to counseling...it will help
2007-03-24 16:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by britlynn18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Planning a wedding is very stressful. Don't worry, it means nothing. You just need to take some time away from the planning and - give it a week or 2 off. Go out for dinner or away for the weekend and relax.
You need to remember both of you need to plan but one may be more able to than the other i.e part time job/ stay at home mum so you may feel like you are doing all the work. Just tell him what you have been doing and give him choices and make him feel included.
Relax - it will get better once you get it all planned.
Good luck and congrats on your engagement;-)
2007-03-24 23:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All couples fight or have falling outs but that doesn't mean you shouldn't get married or don't love each other. You guys are about to make a big change in your lives. You both could be stressing on wedding plans. money or whatever. Sit down and discuss the things that are causing your arguments and then decide if your relationship should continue.
2007-03-24 22:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by dannied78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy... I am going to spill it like this.. Don't get married.My very best friend fought with her (soon to be ex husband) on their wedding day but didn't tell me, cuz she knew I would give her this advice.. DONT do it!! You guys should be happy and planning & having a good time too. I mean, if the fights are petty like taking the garbage out or watching sitcoms, thats nothing. If its big issues, or lies that are popping up... RUN~ for the border girl:) I know the only reason she doesnt' regret it, is she got a beautiful 2 year old out of the deal. I remember her thou, she was m i s e r a b l e for a very large portion of their marriage. If you love GOD, seek him with all your heart and you will find him.. he will give you some good answers too.. but you have to really want the answers he gives you.
2007-03-24 22:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Denise K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fighting all the time, you better think twice about getting married. Make sure that is going to be what you want. You can change your mind on the engagement stage, but when you get married it is not so simple.... Fighting sometimes is fine everyone does, but if it is all the time it is not...
2007-03-24 22:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Means you need to take things a little slower until the engaged stage settles down, if the fighting keeps up you might want to reconsider. Good Luck
2007-03-24 22:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Occasional spats are normal. Much fighting means you are not ready to marry. Put your wedding date on hold for another year or until you can get to pre-marital counseling and work things out. One or both of you may need to mature a bit more before you marry, otherwise you'll end up divorced. Go slowly.
2007-03-24 22:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes anger is fear in disguise. Is there a chance one or both of you are afraid of the future (example: Marriage may mean a new house but the funds are tight, or children but neither can afford to stop working.) Just evaluate the "fear factor first. If there is some fear of things Going wrong and your life ending up in the crapper, then you may want to wait to get married or evaluate ways the two of you can work together to solve those problems (create a road map together)
2007-03-24 22:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the two of you are just stressed about planning a wedding or other things going on in your lives. Just take a moment to remember why you love him and want to spend your life with him. All couples fight and go through rough periods where it seems nothing can go right between the two of you (trust me i know!) but at the end of the day when you look at him and still know you want to be with him forever, then you'll be ok. good luck and congrats!
2007-03-24 22:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Means you should wait a while before you take it further. Getting married will only make it worse.
Do you think you should be together at all if you're fighting so much?
2007-03-24 22:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all what are you arguing about. Then ask each other is it really worth the arguing or can we sit down and discuss this like two sensible people. Nerves run when you are engaged and you really have to be careful with each others feelings.
2007-03-24 22:10:25 · answer #11 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋