My bf is abusive but i can't tell anyone?

Question

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and my bf is a jerk. He harrasses me all day, he's tried to force me into getting an abortion. He's physically abusive to me. Even if i'm laying on the floor he'll come over and start kicking me. He's thrown me against walls, he has hit me. It's gotten worse since he found out i'm pregnant. But i feel like i can't tell anyone because i'm pregnant with his kid and everyone is already dissapointed in me and giving me crap.My dad just disowned me. I just cant take this anymore. I just want to die sometimes.

I'm about to finish college and i don't know where to go. I dont think i can stay with my bf anymore. He's too much to handle. My dad said i can't go home. I don't want to bring a child into this crap. What am i supposed to do?

Answer 1

u kinda just told everyone ur b/f is abusive! U should defintly call the cops!

Answer 2

Let me apologize for the jerk! Okay now listen please listen:
1.Keep your child! No child deserves to be aborted.
2. You have to get away from the guy. he is no good for you and could possibly kill you and the kid. There has to be one person you can go with for awhile. Talk to grandparents, your mom or a friend. Also involve different agencies in your community. I recommend you find a nearby church. There are always families willing to help. You have to leave though. And don't give up on your dad. He is hurt right now, but he still loves you, but you have to be completely honest with him.
3. Now is not the time to quit! YOu are fighting for two people now.
I will be praying for you and your baby and that God gives you the strength to get out of the situation. you have to tell. Forget the idea that he fathered your child. Your child won't make it unless you do. I'd like to stay in touch with you. Please email me at [e-mail]. I'm here for you. I don't know what city you are and stuff, but contact me maybe I can help! I'll be praying! Leave him!

Answer 3

if you feel like you should get an abortion, then you should do it, but if it's just because your boyfriend said you should, then you shouldn't.
an abortion should be your choice, if not the choice of both the parents.
if you really don't think you can support a child though, abortion might be the way to go...you wouldn't want to bring a child into a miserable life.

as for your boyfriend, I suggest you break up with him. I'd think it'd pretty much be stupid if you stayed with him, considering he's abusive - that's not a healthy relationship.

Answer 4

you can tell someone...you just told everyone that might read this. So it's a start. Now you should talk to someone like a counselor or a professor or someone that might be able to get you some help. Look up some abuse programs or somebody that might be able to help online or in a phone book. You know that you don't want to be in that kind of relationship so now you can start to take the necessary steps to get out of it safely.

Answer 5

You need to get some outside help. I don't care who it's from, you need to find someone and tell them what's happening. As for your father, I would try and resolve things with them once you tell someone about your boyfriend and get their help. There's a bunch of people you can call that work for organizations that help deal with this sort of thing. Hope this helps a little.

Answer 6

You need to tell the police! You can file abuse againest him and get a restraining order I think. You need to leave him! You shouldn't have "messed around" with him unless you planned on staying with him in case you become pregnet, that was NOT smart on your part. You need to get yourself (and any pets) out of the house/apartment if you live with him, there are cases where a women leaves her lover for like a night or two after an argument and their lover kills their animal such as one case where a women came home after an argument to find her kitten dead with a decapitated head. Go to a shelter or stay with a friend.

Answer 7

ur bf is not human if he treats u liek that, i think u should call the police and get a restraining order and they should be able to help you find a place to stay trust me staying with this guy any longer and you dont know what else he would do if the baby is born, worse he might abort the baby with his own hands by continuesly abusing you while you're 3-4 months pregnant

Answer 8

what you should do is leave that man because he really doesn't love you because if he did he wouldn't hit you ... i was in an relationship like that for 5 yrs i finally left him alone i was pregnant with his child i had the baby and i love him dearly ....the father and i have a good relationship now as friends.... you need to get out because one day it might not just be a hit it might be more and you don't want your child to see that if he don't make you have a miscarriage or something ....my family was also the same but when i left him they came around please get out, this is from experience ....

Answer 9

My quickest suggestion is to find one person who you know wont judge you, even if its a friend you havent known for that long...you need to confide in someone whose around your situation so that should anything happen to you..GOD forbid..they know whats going on. Then you need to get some medical attention, that baby could already be hurt from his treatment, you could also be physicallly hurt, not to mention the psychological effects of what hes doing. For you to be talking about suicide, (or dying which is what that seems to be to me), Then you need to seek professional help. And after you've talked to that one person who hasn't judged you and has helped you make sound decisions, you need to tell your family, because if you do need to move to get away from him...its good to have a strong support system, and nobodys better than family. I hope this helps..best of luck to you, and remember to find someone to talk to who wont judge you, they'll help you make logical decisions for you and your babys safety.

Answer 10

Omg, Hun, stop this now, if he gives you bruises, take pictures of them, then one day, when he hits, kicks, or pushes you into a wall, call the cops, tell them the story and show them the pictures, he'd probably go to jail, or be held there, then go to court, you SHOULD NOT live in this abusive relationship, and you baby should be born and live a good life. = ) Wish You Luck.

Answer 11

You have 2 get away from him! Not only for you but your unborn child! Go to the nearest womens shelter. Try explaining things to your dad. Things will only get worse if you don't do something now. Your pregnant and you dont need the stress from some jack***.