Most of my friends say they've had sex....should I? I'm only 13 though...?

Answer 1

I know how it feels all that peer pressure. I am 13 also and i want to have sex to but you have to respect your age. God has a plan for you with a very special guy that you can share you love with. Don't give up on your faith. just email me if you have any questions.

Answer 2

Never base your judgements on whether your friends have had sex or not. Friends are idiots who love to see bad things happen to you. Sex is a personal decision that you must live with for the rest of your life. Virginity is something you should value and save for the one who you love (true love, which will visit you down the road). At 13, could you imagine getting pregnant and having a baby???? The consequences would be horrible, and imagine what your friends and family would say about you then. My advice would be to wait, and hold your virginity high in the air, being proud that you are doing something that so few people are doing today: waiting to have sex! Best of luck

Answer 3

Absolutely not.

When you're starting to discover your sexuality and your body is undergoing changes, bridging the gap behind childhood and adulthood, it's really common to want to come across as "mature" and "adult." And I am willing to bet that most of your friends are all talk, just trying to be older than they are.

If you have sex just because everone else is having it, it'll only turn out badly for you. You should wait until your body is a little further along in it's development--most 13 year olds I know aren't fully physically mature, and sex is something that should wait until that's the case.

And I think you should wait to have sex until it means something to you--that way you won't regret it.

If you have sex now, it will probably hurt, or at least be uncomfortable, and you won't have any fun. You might feel dirty or used afterwards--a lot of girls do.

So please know that even if your friends are having sex like they say they are, YOU are the one making the mature decision right now, and you are the one who will ultimately be more pleased with her first time. Wait until you and your boyfriend are really in love and feel ready to deal with any consequences. Wait a couple of years--you'll be amazed at how much you change emotionally and mentally in the next couple of years.

And when you do have sex, please be safe. I'm sure you don't need to be told that by now, but I feel kind of obligated to say it.

I know middle school is tough, and I remember how hard it was for me. But doing something with as many consequences as sex just so you can fit in is a mistake, and there is nothing wrong with you for not wanting it. Hold on to that knowledge.

Answer 4

If you feel the need to even ask this question, then the answer is a thunderous, resounding *NO.*

And just because everybody you know is seemingly having sex, 1) they're probably lying about it to make themselves sound 'cool;' and 2) that shouldn't put any pressure on you to have sex.

True story (and not one I tell often, either): I lost my virginity at 18 (grown *** man, out on my own in the world and everything), and dated this same girl for a few months, until she cheated on me mere days before my birthday, with her ex, while I was asleep in another room of the apartment.

I hooked up with this chick because I was chasing tail, and ended up getting my heart broken in ways I never thought possible.

Moral of the story: Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex, but most of all don't pressure yourself.

Answer 5

1)Do you want to have sex? 1b) Are you on the pill or another contraceptive and prepared to use condoms ? 2) Are you in a meaningful relationship or a relationship ? 2b) Would you be making love / having sex just 4 the sake of having done it?
3a)Do you want 2 have sex 2 make ur relationship last? 3b) Are you considering sex because you think that it will make you more mature? or because you think it will make your friends respect u more?

- If you answered yes to Q1 , Q1b and Q2 then mabye yes
- If you answered yes to either 2b, 3a or 3b then definitely not!

I should add though that the fact that you mention you are 13 with a ? suggests that deep down you know already that it would be wrong 4 you @ this point?

XxCalypso

P.S If you want 2 talk bout it u can im me

Answer 6

18

Answer 7

Kids that age lie a lot. They do it to fit in, to look more cool. Sex is overrated. Virginity is very special, you can't get it back after you give it away. Boys don't last very long at that age. Chances are he will be on top of you for about 10 minutes, it will hurt, and you will bleed a little bit. Then after the boy gets want he wants, he will dump you and move on to someone else. Boys are smooth talkers and will tell you whatever it takes to get down your panties. Do you want to risk getting a reputation? What would you do if you got pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease? Do you know that you can get sexually transmitted diseases that can make you unable to ever have a baby later on? Focus on school. Think about the future, college, career, etc. If you do decide to have sex, use a condom. Talk to your parents about how you are feeling. If you don't want to talk to them or feel that you can't, then talk to a school counselor about how you are feeling.

Answer 8

what kinda question is that...its SEX okey its no liek deciding to go to the movies or stay home okey..ur 13 yrz old when i was that age i was still a baby doing kids things..who cares if your friend did it..ther prolli gonna end up pregnant or wit a disease by the age of 17...my advice frm my experience i was a virgin till 19...an all my friends obviously werent an the guys i met/tlked to liked me even more beacuse i was a virgin guys an even gurls will give you more respect for not doing it jus beacuse everyone else is..dont b dumb your gonna regret it everyone i know that lost it at a young age defintly regrets it...an im pretty sure u dont wanna end up like them....keep ur pants on ...goodluck oh an by the way all your friends are losers get rid of them...13 yr old tramps

Answer 9

if your friends jumped off a cliff would you?

you DONT have to do everything your Friends do, there stupid and think its great right?
wrong!
as they've had sex they will want more then could end up pregnant or worse riddled with aids or other STD is this what you want?

im sure your sensible and will know NOT to have sex until at least 16 where your body IS fully developed ,and you know the consequences of having sex with PROTECTION OF COURSE

Answer 10

No! I'm 13 also and if you do you could ruin your life. I know that sounds true but you could get an STD or get pregnant. Plus guys our age are so immature and will just brag to each other about going all the wya with a girl. I mean do you really want to be the girl hes talkngi about with his friends like your a really expensive shirt or in my boyfriends case Basketball shoes : ). Just dont do it!!!

Answer 11

NO PLEASE DON"T HAVE SEX.... As a young person you are not ready to deal with the responsibility of having children. No birth control method is 100%. You should wait till your at least 18 and are able to make an adult choice. You have plenty of time to think about sex. With diseases and other things that can happen do you want to take that chance. All it takes is one time of sex weather protected or not to change a person's life.