I recently decided to move out of state on my own for the first time to start over and persue my dreams. My dad has been sick recently with constant e.r. visits for asthma attacks. Im 19 and my parents wont admit but there are really having financials problems and finding work. I am wanting so bad to help them in every way i can, making them website for there business helping them with bills, creating resumes, trying to find them work. I also have severe asthma and as much as the load they have i also do with my health issues, i work full time plus goto college that i pay for, i just dont know what else i can do. It so much for me to handle, i want to go out on my own, is that selfish of me? I just dont know what to do, when is the right time? how much else can i do to help them find work, i just am so confused, i dont know what to do anymore. I have a huge load on my shoulders and i dont know how much longer i can hold it before i crumble and fall...
2007-03-24 14:45:37 · 7 answers · asked by aces_wild87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i havent moved yet, ive been wanting to for some time but i just know if its right to leave my parents with the mess, i just dont know how much else i can help them, it kills me seeing them like this, its so hard for them, for me, for all of us, i just feel so slefish thinking its right for me to leave, i just dont know what i can do..
2007-03-24 15:09:53 · update #1
I think you've already answered your question. You know that you've been over-worked. You have to remember that the MOST important thing in your life is your well-being. If you don't take care of yourself, you'll get sick. This is how people get Cancer and all sorts of illnesses. You want to make sure that you are feeling rested, happy, secure, and energized. Your parents may be going through a hard time, but you can't do everything for them. A little help here and there will be appreciated. Also, consider that your parents don't want you to break your back trying to help them out, if something should happen to you (like getting sick, bitter, or unhappy because you're over-worked and exhausted), think of the burden that would put on your parents. Helping yourself will be the same as helping them. They are adults and they will find a way out of their hardships, just send them love and an occasional helping hand, but TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
2007-03-24 14:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Robyn . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You MUST continue your own life. I am sure that is what they would want. Why are you out of state? Is it possible to move closer and continue your college and job? If not try to visit and keep in touch. Since you have your own health problems if would not be wise to quit your job. You would then be uninsured. Pray for them and your place in life at this time.GOOD LUCK and finish school-you will be doing THE RIGHT THING.
2007-03-24 22:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by aunt Bea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some parents there is never a good time for you to leave. With all the info you gave I would say you have done all you can. Get on with your life, with work and college you have all you can handle. It's up to them to find their way, they are adults.
Good Luck to You!!
2007-03-24 21:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should bail out on your family. You are a very brave 19 year old and for that I am praising you. you are in a very tough situation which means you must be one tough cookie. With that said, it seems as though your family needs that. don't leave them now. I know it's hard on you, but God won't leave you or forsake you. He sees what you are doing for your family and he will bless you beyond your imagination. You reap what you sow and right now you are sowing something beautiful!
2007-03-24 21:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok baby stop and think if you leave collage and go back home.. you be doing the samething you are doing right now but not helping your self at the same time.. so i think you should stay where you are go to school do what you have to do.. But try to help your folks. no hun you are not selfish at all... b/c you be doing same thing youare now but back at home doing the same stuff...
2007-03-24 21:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by jeremiah6996 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit ur parents down,explain to them that u need ur own space,and that u will be there for them when they need u.
In Moderation of course, They will understand.....
Hope this helps
2007-03-24 21:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....
Don't fall HERO!
And I mean HERO as in you are tthe things HEROS are made of.......Semper Fi!
2007-03-24 22:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by ron p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋