Why did they leave me so young :(?

Question

mY daddy left me in his dust now why would he be so crule to his baby girl my mama left me too but she is in jail now and i know her!!!!

My dad was and addict plus a houlic why though he had no right im a child with no life because of them they are not cool Im only nine so my grandparents wont tel; me much but they told me once my daddy tried to hurt me i think he is in jail but tell me why he left me

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

no one can tell you why they did the things they did but right now you should just be happy and thankful that you have your grandparents to take care of you. i know its hard to understand at your age because all the other kids have their moms and dads but this will make you a better and stronger person when you get older. i think your grandparents dont tell you anything because they want you to be happy and not worry over these things, they also want to protect you. They love you very much and they want nothing but the best for you. Im sure they will tell you what is going on when you are really mature enough to understand. Good luck sweetie and be strong.

Answer 2

Ok you are 9. I have a child that is 8 and I try to be very honest with her, but at this point there are still some things that are hard for you to understand. I'm not sure how much of what your grandparents did tell you that you do understand. So I'm going to start there. Drugs when people take either illegal drugs or drugs that they don't need medical, or even sometimes when they do need them medically for certain drugs after a period of time the body starts to need them because it becomes use to them being there. Drugs certain types also change how one would normally act cause them to do and say things that they would not normally say. alcohol can or liquor, beer, wine these types of things the body can get use to that being there as well the same as drugs, and like drugs it also can change the way one would normally act. Sometimes these things cause people to do very bad things, that they would not have done if they did not drink or take them. Once the body begins to need these things it is also very very hard to make it stop needing them. The body and mind begin to eventually need these things so badly that often times people can not take care of them selves much less some one else. The think about the drugs and alcohol constantly and there body wants more and more of them. Eventually these people usually start to spend all of there money on them to the point sometimes they don't have food or homes. And it sounds like your mommy and daddy couldn't take very good care of you because of these things and even at times because of them tried to hurt you. I'm sorry this has happened to you. I can't explain to you what your grandparents know that I don't, but I can tell you this. You do still have a life. It sounds to me like you have grandparents that love you very very much. I'm betting there are other people that love you very very much as well. I know this because when I was about 5 my daddy left too. My mommy did stay with me though, just as your grandparents have stayed with you. For a very very long time I hurt a whole lot because my daddy left but as I got older I began to look around me and see that even though I didn't have my daddy, I had a whole bunch of other people that really loved me. Now what ever it is that your grandparents won't tell you right now because they are trying to keep you from hurting as much, or because they don't think you can understand it, maybe you don't need to know that so much because where knowing will answer some of your questions it doesn't change what your mommy and daddy did. I hope that you will stop and think about all the people that do love you though and realize your life may be a little different than your friends but you have a lot of people that love you and you can still have a very good life if you want to.

Answer 3

Honey it sure dose sound like your parents did the best thing for you. Be thankful that you have your grandparents they are family and love you, not telling you is their way of protecting you. As you grow older and can make your own decisions I am sure that they will tell you what you are looking for.
I am sure that your parents love you and love you with all of thier hearts. You have to understand that maybe they did not make this choice, maybe it was made for them. But either way it sounds like the best that your with your grandparents.
Write to your mother ask her, she also might not tell you but you have the right to ask, thats all, you dont have to know, just know that she loves you and hopefully will be out soon so that you can see her.
Rember that your grandparents love you and have to do things that you might not agree with or understand but trust in them that they would do nothing to hurt you.
I have been there as a child living with my aunt, grandmother and then back to my mother. As a child there was nothing more that I wanted but to be with my mother. Now as an adult(37,F) I really wish that I would have been left at my grandmothers. I was there for a reason and learned that the hard way growing up, different step dads, depending on church's for food, friends for clothes. So dont EVER forget that your grandparents were there for you when you really needed it. Be there for them also,talk to them and let them know how your feeling.
Best of luck to you sweetie...

Answer 4

My father and yours are quite similar.

I am a bit older than you (21) and I have realized for a long time now that I am MUCH better off without an addict and alcoholic in my life.

Your mother on the other hand, I don't quite know. To me, mothers have this unbreakable bond between her and her daughter(s). If she has any feelings towards you, she loves you, and never wanted these things to happen to you!

Unfortunately, there is no complete answer to your question. I have asked myself these same questions over and over again, and I have come up with no perfect answer.

The only thing I know is, it is NOT your fault. And no matter what has happened with your mother, SHE LOVES YOU! There is no question in that.

Answer 5

maybe your father felt he would not be much of a father to u being so messed up mentally, physically and spiritually. he probably felt he was doing u and your momma a favor. it might not of been the right choice but it could have been alot worse. things happen for a reason...he might have horribly physically abused u had he stayed. no matter how badly our parents mess up they love us no matter wat. your parents do love u but they made bad choices and did not want u to suffer becuz of it. u might not see it now but later on u'll really understand. ur grandparents are able to take care of u in a way your parents cant. if this helped u at all im glad...if it didnt..hopefully someone can. all the best sweetie!

Answer 6

Well hunny, sometimes parents do that stuff. My dad abandoned me when i was 1 and he finally came back around when i was 13. I am 15 now and all i can tell you is that when parents are on drugs and alcohol they dont think right. were ur parents young when they had u? if so, then thats why because they really wasnt ready to have a kid. My dad was on drugs forever and thats why he did it to me. i am really sorry about them doing this to you.

Answer 7

Sweetie, I know its hard. My dad walked out on me too. For years I wondered why and blamed myself, but then I realized that if he didn't want me it was his loss not mine. I was raised by my mom and grandfather and their love was more than enough.

It will get better. Hang in there and let God be your guide. He can take away your pain and lift your spirits. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Answer 8

well your grandparent dont want you to know more then you already do...They are trying to protect you....
He left because he isnt well enough to be with you...Drugs and alchohol make you do stupid things and I am sure he didnt want you to see his mistakes...
For a nine year old you are pretty smart~
Take Care & keep your head up~

Answer 9

I'm 11. Maybe they weren't ready 2 b parents. Just pray 2 god. He is your key to happiness. Don't worry, everything will b alright.

Answer 10

it is not the past you need to worry about,

they left you because they were very irresponsible end selfish, probably it was best for you.

cheer up and learn from their mistakes