So this guy that I loved a lot and been with for 1 year broke up with me and said that we'll be friends, then a week later he stopped taking my calls... I was very worried because he was depressed before breaking up with me and I wanted to stand by him and support him. a couple of weeks later I started sending text messages(over a few days), asking why he didn't want to be friends with me, he ignored me. I waited a month and couldn't take it anymore I sent him messages again, I even told him that I was still in love and that I just wanted to know what's up with his job (his biggest problem) he ignored me... a month later I put my number on private (hid it..) and called to hear him say hello (I missed him a lot) he knew t was me somehow.. He hung up and next day he called and started yelling telling me: NEVER EVER CALL ME AGAIN OR TEXT, LEAVE ME ALONE ETC...
I loved him and that's why I couldn't let go so easily. But him, will he think I was desperate ?
2007-03-24 14:34:32 · 15 answers · asked by leave me alone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys...
2007-03-24 16:49:24 · update #1
Your Question, my Dear, is you Answer !! ANY guy who did what He did to you is in the street tongue, " A DOG ", and should be treated accordingly. I know one thing, bottom line , if you were my daughter, my wife and I would have a little moment of " Enlightenment " for you. Good Luck !!
2007-04-01 11:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by fuzzypetshop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,it was pretty desprate of you. Then again I can see you were worried. But have you ever stopped to see the awrning signs that 1.your relationship was ending. 2. The first week he ignored you,there might have been a purpose for it 3. Since you hadn't heard from him in a month,it was clearly a non-friendship on his part?
Most likely he'll think you're too attached,he's probably moved on. Do the same.
2007-03-24 21:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah. Haha! No offence or anything, but it does sound like you kind of semi-stalked him after the breakup. Anyway, don't feel bad about it. In the end, few people get through this life without making a fool of themselves in the name of love at least once or twice. Just accept that he wants this relationship to be over, give him some distance (at least for a few months), and go on with your life.
2007-03-24 22:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Baron Hausenpheffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm afraid so!
Give him more time then ask him by phone to have a talk. Maybe he just needs someone to understand and isn't sure who to confide in.
So, be there for him and go ahead and ask if he'd like to talk about anything. He'll come around.
When it comes to Depression though, this is different and his behavior toward you is indicating that. Well, he said you can be Friends so if you can get him to talk, assure him that he can talk to you about anything and maybe he'll get comfortable about saying what's on his mind.
It's never good to seem desperate to someone.
see, if he is going to shut you out when you called and text him, when you keep on trying, he sees you as "weak." If he keeps pushing you away, you should act like you don't care either way and you will see how fast he comes running to you!
I'm SURE of this! Good luck.
For your sake, though give him 2 months at least of "alone" time and I'm certain he will call you when he is ready to talk. It's all you can do!
Hope I helped!
2007-03-24 21:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Because guys say they wanna be friends with you doesn't mean he wants to talk to you every day. I don't think that you're desperate,I think you just miss him. Not to be insensitive but he broke up with you. He doesn't wanna talk to you everyday and you don't have that kind of relationship anymore. Who gives a **** if he was depressed that is not none of your business anymore. But to answer your question He doesn't think you are desperate, he thinks you are crazy for calling him so much.
Sorry.
Good Luck On Finding A New Man!!!
2007-03-24 21:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by ****NahBoogz**** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I did the same things to my ex-bf when we first broke up. I wasn't used to the fact that I couldn't call him or text him 'goodnight' etc.
And yah, he thinks that I'm desperate. I stopped doing those stupid things after a while because I got tired of it and beginnign to get used to being single again.
Leave him alone and save your dignity. It will take some time for you to get used to being single again.
2007-03-24 21:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it was desperate of you the relationship is over leave the guy alone its his loss however i wish i had someone as loyal and as supportful in my life but as far as this goof goes write him off and move on
2007-04-01 15:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by reynoldsbarry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry, but it does sound desperate. You need to move on and find someone who loves and respects you. Good luck!
2007-04-01 07:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by krafty1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter, does it? What matters is that he considers the relationship over. Hard as it is, you must deal with it and move on.
2007-03-24 21:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how this feels, but, you have to let it go. if he has a change of mind he will call you. let him have time to miss you. you cant make someone love you, and why would you want to ???? move on honey.
2007-04-01 21:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by debbie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋